stmarysmead
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I think it's safe to say every one of us has been moved by the tragedy of Kyron's disappearance. Although we have seen very little hard evidence, there are many "stories" within the Main Story.
Depending on what resonates with each... individual... one of us, we can choose from many scenarios as the launching point for our opinions on this case. With whom can we most identify? Whose "burden" do we most "understand?" Whose mistakes do we most condemn? Who is most like you? Most like me?
There seems to be two sides to every coin. Our own emotional experiences do insert themselves into whether we see....
1. A wife cheated on while pregnant and vulnerable. (Desiree)
or
2. A woman who gave up custody of her child. (Desiree)
3. A cold, controlling husband/father. (Kaine)
or
4. A cuckolded loving husband. (Kaine)
5. An adoptive Father who emotionally abandoned his adopted son.(Terri's second husband)
or
6. An adoptive Father exploited financially by the natural mother. (Terri's second husband)
7. A victimized maligned well-meaning stepmother (Terri)
or
8. A self-involved "victim-izing" unstable stepmother.(Terri)
9. Bitter nasty ex-inlaws. (Terri's second marriage)
or
10. Anguished parents who saw their son exploited emotionally and financially by a woman who loved and left him. (Terri's second marriage)
All this reminds me of a game we played in college...wherein we examined a fictional tragedy and then assigned "responsibility." Who is most responsible? Who is least? There were no right or wrong answers but what emerged instead was more insight into ourselves.
There is a scenario in the list above that fits the dents in my heart. I will admit here, it provides the lens through which I "interpret" much of what I read.
I know "who I am" in this sad saga. It does color my impressions.
It occurred to me again today, that as we debate the different aspects of the case, we cannot know when we might be stepping on someone else's tender spot...or on the part of the story that most resonates with them for their own very valid reasons.
I apologize for not being more sensitive to this in my own answers....and I will try to do better going forward.
As more hard evidence is hopefully revealed, that will certainly provide new clarifications for all of us as we discuss the case...and hopefully much needed comfort and relief to those who truly bear the real burdens of this tragedy.
I'm still praying little Kyron may one day come home.
Depending on what resonates with each... individual... one of us, we can choose from many scenarios as the launching point for our opinions on this case. With whom can we most identify? Whose "burden" do we most "understand?" Whose mistakes do we most condemn? Who is most like you? Most like me?
There seems to be two sides to every coin. Our own emotional experiences do insert themselves into whether we see....
1. A wife cheated on while pregnant and vulnerable. (Desiree)
or
2. A woman who gave up custody of her child. (Desiree)
3. A cold, controlling husband/father. (Kaine)
or
4. A cuckolded loving husband. (Kaine)
5. An adoptive Father who emotionally abandoned his adopted son.(Terri's second husband)
or
6. An adoptive Father exploited financially by the natural mother. (Terri's second husband)
7. A victimized maligned well-meaning stepmother (Terri)
or
8. A self-involved "victim-izing" unstable stepmother.(Terri)
9. Bitter nasty ex-inlaws. (Terri's second marriage)
or
10. Anguished parents who saw their son exploited emotionally and financially by a woman who loved and left him. (Terri's second marriage)
All this reminds me of a game we played in college...wherein we examined a fictional tragedy and then assigned "responsibility." Who is most responsible? Who is least? There were no right or wrong answers but what emerged instead was more insight into ourselves.
There is a scenario in the list above that fits the dents in my heart. I will admit here, it provides the lens through which I "interpret" much of what I read.
I know "who I am" in this sad saga. It does color my impressions.
It occurred to me again today, that as we debate the different aspects of the case, we cannot know when we might be stepping on someone else's tender spot...or on the part of the story that most resonates with them for their own very valid reasons.
I apologize for not being more sensitive to this in my own answers....and I will try to do better going forward.
As more hard evidence is hopefully revealed, that will certainly provide new clarifications for all of us as we discuss the case...and hopefully much needed comfort and relief to those who truly bear the real burdens of this tragedy.
I'm still praying little Kyron may one day come home.