I think she will learn to reach out to those she trusts when she's scared, and set her own level of social exposure for a while until she feels safe.
I do wish she could have a person who could serve as a friend and also a safety officer. This type of person was offered to the Ramsey family when Burke returned to school and they rejected it, as I recall. He was also offered a panic button to press if he felt scared or threatened after JBR was killed. This was in Boulder right after the murder. He was NOT offered the same or even anything in Atlanta. I knew several of his school mates' mothers and they confirmed that he was not offered anything extra in his school in Marietta.
In Jayme's case, the type of person I see is kind and helpful but not a pushover when it comes to the activities which would benefit Jayme but not put her in a huge public spotlight for a while like cheerleading might, unless Jayme truly wanted to do cheerleading again.
Someone who could easily and quickly respond if there was any physical threats against her at school or elsewhere, and who would also monitor any teasing or bad comments at school by recording for the school authorities.
Mostly, though, as a physical safety officer who has psychological training in interacting with and speaking to 13 year old girls in helpful and productive ways.
Jayme is likely to have some degree of emotional regression due to both her abduction experience and the tragic loss of both of her parents. This change in her family dynamics so suddenly combined with being removed from the people she knew and loved for 3 months plus the trauma she endured during that time is about as much as a human psyche of any aged person can bear at one time.
The reason I am so very concerned for her when she goes back to her activities and school are that when emotional hurts come to her, she no longer has either of her parents to go to, and so many of the hurts will be about them. . As an only child, this is one of the most tragic losses because the bonds are so very strong and sometimes, our mothers are like our big sisters, if we are lucky, which I believe she was from what extended family members have said about them..
In an earlier thread, someone suggested a therapy dog for her. I do not know the age nor general disposition of her Molly, but the dog was perfectly behaved in the press conference while Jayme was held captive. Maybe her own dog can offer comfort to her until a trained therapy dog can be assigned to her. I understand it takes some time for the dogs to be trained for the individual.
God bless Jayme, and may those who are responsible for her welfare and happiness, and those who love her come up with innovative ways to help her through the many emotional challenges she will overcome as she progresses back to full health and a new type of happiness. All the while, navigating young teenhood.
Add up all the factors, and I know she will be supported and helped a great deal by family, school, friends, therapists and maybe clergy, but it's a huge amount to work through.
The most important things are that she's young and resilient and she's ALIVE and said to be well.
