10ofRods
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From the podcast and prior sources:The podcast said that the anonymous doctoral classmate reported that they kept the "Bryan Tally" list because, in their opinion, BK had shown "disrespect" toward the female professors in their program. The term "disdain" was not used.
And the examples given of showing "disrespect" was that he skipped female professors' classes at times, and that they felt he "interrupted" his female professors too often, according to their views.
And that he locked eyes with women and did so in a manner that was deemed personally inappropriate. But there's more.
He got between his students and the door in his office space and other spaces.
He argued vociferously with one woman grad student, so that she departed the seminar.
He followed a woman to her car.
Disrespect sounds like a good initial evaluation of the category into which to put these behaviors. However, the following and the door blocking go beyond disrespect, in my opinion. So do the night time office hours. And of course the offer to install cameras (while getting a router password) is not "disrespect" at all, it looks helpful, right?
Earlier we learned that on his one Tinder date, he followed a woman to her bathroom door. I have some theories about how he got that way, still mulling. The night time office hours and the door blocking are particularly concerning and I surely do hope that anyone who notices these behaviors in their own lives (whether you're a man or a woman) would do their best to document and report to whoever seems appropriate. Obviously, it has to happen more than once and it would require documenting to whom it was done (by age, perceived gender, ethnicity, and with any other details that could make it clear what might be going on). Nothing wrong with having eyes and using one's voice.
IMO.