Letting more skeletons out of the closet.... my half brother molested 4 out of his 7 children by 3 different wives. My nephew explained that as his father sodomized him, he told him that it was something all men did, they just couldn't tell anybody. My mother still loved him, I feel bad that I made her choose between the two of us at family functions and holiday get-togethers.
I was her baby, the youngest of five and my daughter was her youngest (and I think favorite) granddaughter so she always chose us, but I know it hurt her that she couldn't even invite him. Do I feel selfish ? Yes. I don't regret it though, on the few accidental encounters at my mom's I couldn't handle wondering what that
was thinking when he was looking at my little girl. I think mothers tend to blame themselves for the sins of their children, so they can't just 'abandon' what they feel they've created.
The last time I saw him was eight years ago at our mother's funeral, he's a lot older than me (he's 60, I'm 38) but I could tell he was devastated by the loss. There's something very powerful between a mother and her child, it's almost impossible to break that bond. Unless you're defective like Casey.
Sorry about rambling. I can't seem to stop when it comes to my dysfunctional family.
