Nothing in this case has anything to do with being a good Christian.
JMO
I'm just replying to your post, not necessarily to anything specific in your post -
I know of two situations where RAD was a factor, one still while fostering but in the process of adopting - and one after the adoption was complete.
The fostering family got out of it - it was a horrible situation, I hope she went to a family with just females in it.
The other family has had nothing but trauma, they did have to re-home the daughter, at great expense (which they willingly paid) for a while. Eventually she came home, they tried everything to help her...some situations are so far out of anyone's control. I wish I understood how sexual abuse at a young age can completely seem to re-wire a brain, but that's what appears to have happened. She's grown now, and still very messy in relationships and life in general - even though they tried to give her every tool to equip her for life in general. I have to be honest, our church did nothing to help the family or the child - sometimes pastors are fallible and can't see the manipulation going on. I can only imagine if both sides were trying to be manipulative to a pastor.
I question the previous foster family's version that they didn't see violence, or the potential for it. I think this is possibly a chance at getting back at the Harris' (not that it isn't deserved!)
I think the Harris' were way out of line and had no idea what was truly in store. I think the pedophile did what they do, saw some one damaged and vulnerable and should have to pay more than 40 years for what he did.
I blame the system that seems to have seen there were issues, and possible problems and turned a blind eye for too long.
My concern is for families that get in over their heads with some of the disorders that are out there. Problems that love and a blended family are unable to just "fix". There has to be resources that the average family can afford, and while I don't condone "returning kids" I also don't think a whole family should be ripped apart through sometimes deceitful or at best, incomplete foster information.
This is such an ugly ugly situation - and the girls are the ones who have to suffer.