essareem
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Hi, welcome to Websleuths!Grandma? ‘He’ catered? It’s unfortunate that there’s been such rampant transphobia entwined with this case (despite so many mod warnings) because it’s made it hard to trust whether people’s intuition and ideas have been guided by actual red flags and concerns or bigotry. And it’s Gus’ memory and the questions for those who loved them that have suffered for it.
Just wanted to touch on the use of 'he' or 'she' - correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't believe the Lamont family have yet specified Josie's preferred pronouns. They could be he/him, she/her, they/them... or even neopronouns such as xe/xem, ze/zir, etc.
If you don't know someone's pronouns, and have no way of asking them - it is relatively safe to start with 'they/them/theirs'.
Assuming that Josie prefers she/her solely on the basis of their presentation as a transgender woman would be an unwarranted and intellectually lazy presumption, as pronoun preferences are personal and not automatically dictated by gender identity or presentation.