To me, that is different.. why? Because although it isn't great for relationships, infidelity is something that happens ALL the time, always has, always will.. and it isn't a crime really, not a criminal offence, you don't get your name put on a hit list, if 2 adults are willing partners, it is more a matter of ethics and morals, as opposed to physical and mental injury that is felt by victims of pedophilia.. and it's not something that is so abhorrent that it is a secret that nobody can know...
Whereas.. a pedophile, is considered a sick f@ck, by any standard (well let's say at least 99.99% of the population, even amongst most of the criminal population), despised by virtually everyone, it is a criminal offence, it hurts the victims physically and mentally, it is something that must by law be reported to authorities by teachers, counsellors, etc. To me, it is very very different.
A pedo's sex life would not include other pedos, it would be a hideous private act.. so I'm just not getting why there would ever be reason for these sick buggars to get together in the flesh in real life. Their online dealings on the deep dark web are presumably very anonymous, and likely include all kinds of people who may be our neighbours.. officials in our towns and schools.. people we would likely never suspect. To think there is a 'club' type of thing.. is not only even more sick, but I can't understand the reasoning. I am not a psychologist for sure, but I would hazard a guess that your typical pedophile is someone who doesn't admit to his sickness, and denies what he does, even to himself... let alone having get togethers with other sick f@cks who also do the things that are too sick to accept in oneself. It just doesn't make sense to me. When the cops bust a pedo ring, aren't the players all anonymous.. and when their names come out, everyone is shocked - even amongst themselves?