If it has been a relationship based on addiction, the person with the addiction usually comes off looking somewhat better, while all around them go crazy and act out, trying to deal with them being unavailable, unreliable, going away to prison, risking financial security, bringing dubious people into their lives, exposing their nearest and dearest to all sorts of harm, basically, unintentionally, a walking, talking ****** up. And they are medicated, numb and so self obsessed they are not feeling the full force, because they are medicating that feeling. But the loved ones feel it all. Spouses, de factos, parents, friends all go crazy and often don't realise how sick they have become and that they now have to take responsibility for their own problem.They usually feel justified to behave in outrageous or unhealthy ways in reaction, retaliation to the addicts behavour, until they understand that there are other options and choices. Co-dependence. KT and BC have had a long association with children, trauma etc. and just because she may have had boyfriends since BC, doesn't mean co-iness isn't still there as example of her putting him up last time he was released. I wouldn't be surprised if KT tells herself in the middle of all this palava," I used to be a nice good person, til he came along."MOO
