I've had it... :thinking:
Given that TG is accused of being a druggie and also is seemingly oblivious to the environment she created for her children I understand the anger we feel toward this mother.
As Ontario Mom commented (and I expect many of use would accept), "everyone is different" and OM also acknowledged she knows of "other people ... who would in fact be too distraught to call 911 themselves."
THIS IS NOT DIRECTED TO ANYONE SPECIFIC, THIS APPLIES TO ALL OF US.....
Why is TG not offered that same understanding? (well, "SHE KILLED HER KID, WHY SHOULD WE???! GRRRRRR! KILL THE TG SUPPORTER!!") It just concerns me that because TG seemingly is a 'very bad mother' (and whom many believe is at least indirectly responsible for the death of her child) that everything and anything she says, does or farts is automatically and unequivocally defamed and scourged to damnation. I get the anger (I also am angry), but it appears too easily a broad-stroked anger and cheapens the analysis.
Regarding the lack of 'background noise' during the 911 call....
It is possible the other adults were outside searching the park or river accesses or wherever during the 911 call.
RF indicated TG was upstairs and distraught but we do not hear TG wailing or screaming during the 911 call. Could she not be distraught and non-vocal at the same time? In shock and fearful disbelief her daughter is missing? Distraught does not necessarilly mean screaming and wailing. TG had no explicit reason to be in such a state, so why should we hear her?
No one here, as far as I know, knows what TG was doing during that 911 call. Given how RF seemed calm but obviously discombobulated himself during the 911 call, his info regarding TG could have been inaccurate. At that moment TG could have been outside with the other adults.
I am not making excuses for anyone (and I am thoroughly disgusted that I feel I have to qualify this post because some might accuse me of defending a drug mother's lifestyle and would reign all heck-fire on me / this post). I am trying to be reasonable in applying expectation, assumption and observation and, attempting to hopefully separate out reasonable and fair possibilities from the "all druggie everything bad bad bad kitchen sink stinker evil druggie druggie druggie" meme.
Many call her out, saying TG is a lousy mother. Smack smack smack! Increased risk for harm? Certainly. An absolute path to abduction and pantie-less murder? No. TG made a tragic mistake in allowing JJR to stay in her home. I believe TG never expected JJR to turn out to be a sick animal toward her child as he revealed himself to be. The 'ex-girlfriend and animal strangulation' issues attributed to JJR should have been a glaring red flag to TG - I do not fully understand nor excuse her letting that slide ..maybe she did not believe it, JJR denied it?
TG obviously never felt her children were ever under any threat from JJR ..JJR's (best) friends never expected he was capable of murder. We may accuse TG of *knowingly* exposing her children to a criminal element, but we can not accuse her of *knowingly* exposing her children to a *murderer*.
I believe (based on LE reports) TG is NOT directly responsible for the death of her child. Her baby girl was murdered by someone she trusted. *A situation many other parents have experienced*, drug lifestyle or not.
As it now stands, JJR is charged / responsible for the murder of Isabella Grogan-Cannella unless further information dictates otherwise. And TG is the murdered child's grieving mother, regardless of *how* people believe she should grieve or how she appears in public.
The FB groups are full of speculators and people who think they know something ..the only conspiracy theory yet to appear is that TG and RF hired aliens from Pluto to take over JJR's body and use it to murder their child.
Get a grip.
