kimi, is that what the OC Reg is doing with their articles now - free for a while then they go behind the paywall? They've had so many changes recently, I can't work out what's going on.
I don't know if I mentioned it before, but I really, really hope the artist who will memorialize the box will include some of Kim's words, as well as her image. That's so important, I think.
Pham family deals with the hole of an unrealized life
BY GREG HARDESTY AND DENISSE SALAZAR / ORANGE COUNTY REGISTER
Published: Feb. 1, 2014 Updated: Feb. 2, 2014 8:21 a.m.
She slipped into dark-wash jeans. She threw a favorite button-down, blue cardigan over a black tank top. She stepped into high, black boots.
Then, late on the night of Jan. 17, Annie Kim Pham went out with one close friend and some acquaintances. For a homebody, a young woman more comfortable cooking for friends or playing board games, it was an unexpected Friday night on the town.
It would be her last.
(snip)
What's less well known about Pham is this:
Her nickname was Xu, after a sweet Vietnamese fruit. Her father, Dung James Pham, 60, can't remember exactly why she got the name, only that he had called her that since she was tiny. More often, she went by Kim.
Her favorite color was green, the color of the purse she grabbed before going out that night.
(snip)
And as she grew, she wrote movingly about that loss (of her mother).
I am in no hurry, and in the presence of the utmost important person to me, the greatest loss and love I have ever known.
I kneel before the graceful, yet powerful aura of my mother.
(snip)
Pham wrote about this period, too, in an essay Pho for Life: A Melting Pot of Thoughts.
My new stepsiblings were an overwhelming presence to me. In particular, I clashed with my oldest stepsister, Katie, who was two years older than me.
She didn't understand me and I didn't understand her and we bickered about even little things, frustratingly, until just about forever.
Katie Nguyen helped dress Pham for her casket viewing, picking a white chiffon blouse, a black blazer and matching slacks, and a gold-cross necklace. She looked her best, peaceful.
After the viewing and before the cremation, Katie removed the necklace. She now wears it around her neck.
Pham, raised Catholic, regularly attended church. Katie Nguyen, who says she and Pham reconciled a few years ago, says her stepsister's death has inspired her to become Catholic too.
(snip)
Her husband, Giang Ngo Khanh, 24, a business major at UCLA, commuted home on weekends.
(snip)
James knew things were grim, but he still had hope, even after a doctor showed him a picture that showed how one side of her skull was cracked. The doctor explained that the injury was inoperable.
He didn't have the strength to be in the room when doctors took Theresa Kim Annie Pham off life support. Before they did, he said his final goodbye.
He feels what any parent would feel. He explains that he works as a security guard.
But I couldn't protect her.
On Jan. 30, Pham's family placed her ashes in a wall at Forest Lawn Memorial Park in Cypress.
Pham knew the spot well. Her mother's ashes are there, too, and she's visited often over the years; in moments of stress or pain, and when she simply wanted to be close to a mother she barely had a chance to know.
In her writings, Pham described the spot as her sanctuary.
I kneel. I breathe. I close my eyes. I get lost.
I see my name glimmering in her own. I see her strength in me, and the obstacles are no longer a threat.
Nguyen says she takes some solace that Pham, in death, rests with her mother.
They are together at last.
Much more (five page in-depth article) @ link:
http://www.ocregister.com/articles/pham-599941-nguyen-family.html?page=1
(This amazing, in-depth article, is being made available for free to non-subscribers of the OC Register. Although is is 5-pages in length, I'm not sure how long they will leave it for everyone to view before moving to their subscription only service. I have downloaded a copy of the full article, for posterity, and will re-post it to the thread if it ever becomes unavailable, with Moderator approval).
I encourage you all to take the time to read it. Kim wasn't perfect. None of us are; but she was always striving to be better, and she loved with every fiber of her being. That is what I always come away with, after reading about her. Even in death, she is bringing people closer, uniting them, creating friendships, and healing. I believe this will continue on, across ethnicities, in Orange County and beyond. Kim Pham's work is not done here. :rose:
They've told staff they are closed.
http://laist.com/2014/01/30/the_crosby_nightclub_closes_after_w.php
The club shutting down like that after Kim's death may explain the difficulties police had at first. It should have stayed open because witnesses would likely have come back and police might have found them easier. They could have put up an appeal on their website or FB too. That's what a nightclub has done in the case of missing Megan Roberts in England and police have been able to find and speak to many witnesses.
I wonder if charges will be forthcoming against the third person police wanted to speak to and who has now been found?
Kim's family have dealt with this with such grace and dignity. They speak for their silenced one now and they are a credit to her. Bless them and her. This is so sad.
There was also an updated article in the OC Weekly, which is free to view. The number of blows that caused such massive bleeding in Kim's brain - at least five - is telling. She was 5'1" and weighed 85lbs.
Placing an undercover detective in the cell seems a really high-risk strategy from a legal point of view, but I guess it's okay, as the trial has continued? One of the witnesses seems to have identified the third suspect, who hasn't been charged. It's confusing.
http://blogs.ocweekly.com/navelgazing/2014/02/kim_pham_patricia_navarro_jail.php
"But.. but.. she started it!"
That defense/excuse doesn't even work in kindergarten.
It certainly makes the victim less sympathetic after hearing she threw the first punch and took a member of other party to the ground [modsnip].
Where did you hear she threw the first punch? Do you have a link?
It certainly makes the victim less sympathetic after hearing she threw the first punch and took a member of other party to the ground [modsnip].
Of course you are correct that she did not do anything to deserve losing her life that night.OC Senior DA Troy Pino says it best,
"It doesn't matter whether she was the initial aggressor. The bottom line - is that she was on the ground - ON THE GROUND - and defenseless when these two defendants kicked her in the head - and that's what killed her."
NBCLA - Hetty Chang's Video Report -
http://www.cozitv.com/video/Two-OC-Women-Will-Stand-Trial-For-Fatal-Bar-Brawl/nosubtitle/245086801
The case was recently featured on KPCC's Take Two:
"Ms. Brito throwing two very hard punches to the left side of Ms. Pham's head while Ms. Pham is engaged in mutual combat it appears with Ms. Zavala. At that point while Ms. Pham's companions come to her aid and try to help her out. And then, you see Ms. Brito go around the pack if you will and come in and give two very hard kicks. And then, when she's pushed away then in comes Miss Zavala, again delivers a very hard kick. At that point Ms. Pham goes limp, never recovers consciousness, and dies."
TakeTwo - KPCC
It is probably fair to say both sides contributed to the escalation of this tragic incident. Kim wasn't perfect. None of us are. However, I will never believe that she did anything to deserve losing her life that night.
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