Found Deceased CA - Erin Valenti, 33, from Utah, en-route from Palo Alto to San Jose, 7 Oct 2019 #2

[TTF14]

Oh I hope they do it tonight!

 

[TimesEight]

Oh I hope they do it tonight!

do what tonight?

 

[kittythehare]

do what tonight?

which thread am I on?

 

[MsMiniSleuth]

Are we all in the Matrix suddenly? Is tonight the night?

 

[happyday]

I feel like I’m in the Matrix!

 

[Seattle1]

I feel like I’m in the Matrix!

Follow me -- I'll lead you out...!

 

[happyday]

Follow me -- I'll lead you out...!

 

[TTF14]

Follow me -- I'll lead you out...!

LOL! Sorry guys! Wrong thread! This was supposed to be on the Sievers murder trial thread, hoping the jury would choose to deliberate tonight and not wait until the morning.

Ignore me. Go back to your respective matrices!

 

[Trebor5591]

LE have already stated they did not suspect foul play.
Her autopsy results may not be made public and I do not expect them or wait for them.
It's family business now if no crime has been committed.

Not exactly. In California, anyone who pays a $30 fee can obtain an informational copy of a death certificate. The death certificate will have an official cause of death. For deaths occurring in San Jose, one would need to request from County of Santa Clara, Office of the County Clerk-Recorder

 

[Trebor5591]

In that case, a very warm welcome to Websleuths!

It's always good to have someone local following a case, able to add perspective about the area.

When I was playing around on Google maps the other day, looking at streets adjacent to where EV was found, it looked as though some of them were broad, divided through streets with a few small office buildings, with homes on the smaller streets off them. So your description of a purely residential area surprised me, although I did notice that the side streets all form self-contained cul-de-sac type neighborhoods that do not flow one into the next – a very frustrating and mazelike arrangement for a person having trouble orienting herself. I'm an east-coaster used to densely developed acreage, so maybe my sense of scale is off and the distance between buildings and neighborhoods is greater than I thought, which would only add to the feeling of being thoroughly disoriented and overwhelmed, especially to someone on foot trying to locate their car.

Does anyone know what sort of building EV's last meeting was in, before she started searching for her car, calling her mother, and otherwise displaying confusion? Was it at an office building, or at someone's home?

My understanding was she me the friend in the 2500 block of Sand Hill Rd, Menlo Park, CA 94025, which is all commercial, and venture capital businesses.

 

[kittythehare]

Not exactly. In California, anyone who pays a $30 fee can obtain an informational copy of a death certificate. The death certificate will have an official cause of death. For deaths occurring in San Jose, one would need to request from County of Santa Clara, Office of the County Clerk-Recorder

They can of course be obtained under FOIA..
but I'm not sure they will be made public by family or media .

 

[mcluver23]

LOL! Sorry guys! Wrong thread! This was supposed to be on the Sievers murder trial thread, hoping the jury would choose to deliberate tonight and not wait until the

Ignore me. Go back to your respective matrices!

 

[mcluver23]

Having trouble finding my way back out ha.

 

[Seattle1]

So many heartfelt tributes out now for Erin.

This missing case was difficult, and I'm also trying to let go and move on.

I took some time to view several of her past as well as latest videos, IMO, Erin came off as unscripted, fun, energetic, inspiring, good humor, and evolved. In other words, NOT the the "public perception" or the face of suicide.

(There's NO confirmation her death suicide).

Last March, a brilliant, beautiful mother of two young children, a teacher and a fashion designer with 10,000 Instagram followers. ... and wife of former Party chair, City Council candidate-- went missing without a trace. She was later found floating on Lake Wylie -- committed suicide. Suicide is shocking, and it happens.

From EV's media, it appears that 2019 was not all work. Many photos of absolute heavenly places on earth visited and trekked-- from Utah to Oregon, and recent trip to Japan with her husband.

EV's last post to FB announced her upcoming, and last trip to CA -- looking to connect with others while there.

Autumn is typical time for the scheduled conferences, workshops EV attended in California prior to her death. By all accounts, she was prepared and engaged -- no reported suspicious behavior there.

She talked to her husband nightly, as usual, and no signs of distress detected by him either.

After the fact, I believe many will see a similar pattern here as seen with others that succumb to taking their lives: this year EV attempted everything known to bring her much pleasure, and still was not uplifted. It was more a been there, done that , and she likely couldn't see herself rising above that dark cloud that was enveloping her. And knew in her heart that another Tech Award Ceremony also wasn't going to pull her over the hump.

I see the random neighborhood street, and rental car, as foreign environment to her -- things she had no attachment to, and therefore no distraction not to follow through with her plan.

Did EV know when she checked out of her hotel room at 2pm that she would not get on the plane and go home? Probably not. An idea maybe but not a certainty. And I don't think she'd ever capable of checking out without talking to her family-- one last time. Maybe she was looking to hear something she'd long to hear from them her entire life.

Maybe VE gave herself a chance by answering the phone, and decided against disclosing her location to LE. Maybe by midnight she was physically, emotionally, and mentally exhausted, and took the last, fatal dosage and went to sleep.

Or perhaps she chose the Valley as the place where all this (perceived chaos?) started for her, and wanted to end it there.

Rest easy Erin.

 

[Steelslady]

LOL! Sorry guys! Wrong thread! This was supposed to be on the Sievers murder trial thread, hoping the jury would choose to deliberate tonight and not wait until the morning.

Ignore me. Go back to your respective matrices!

Of all the threads to put the wrong comment, LMAO!

You had us all thinking we were elsewhere.

 

[LadyL]

way to go, eh?
It's a hard legacy.
I read, just last night about an old man who lived alone but had a caring family and he died by his electric fire in December but was not discovered until July and the electric fire was still turned on.
his pension had remained uncollected, his neighbors had not seen him. He had not attended his twice weekly outings in all that time.. he liked and courted his privacy..
e think we're massively substantial because we exist and then death takes us and nobody even notices...
I remember a meditation teacher telling me to meditate on my own death. It made sense, eventually... well it's still in the process of making sense, drip by drip.
Then there's grief..

he must've had automatic payments set up for hydro etc.

 

[kittythehare]

he must've had automatic payments set up for hydro etc.

that is what was so weird, he had not.
Coroner asks how did pensioner lie dead in his own home for six months

 

[kittythehare]

So many heartfelt tributes out now for Erin.

This missing case was difficult, and I'm also trying to let go and move on.

I took some time to view several of her past as well as latest videos, IMO, Erin came off as unscripted, fun, energetic, inspiring, good humor, and evolved. In other words, NOT the the "public perception" or the face of suicide.

(There's NO confirmation her death suicide).

Last March, a brilliant, beautiful mother of two young children, a teacher and a fashion designer with 10,000 Instagram followers. ... and wife of former Party chair, City Council candidate-- went missing without a trace. She was later found floating on Lake Wylie -- committed suicide. Suicide is shocking, and it happens.

From EV's media, it appears that 2019 was not all work. Many photos of absolute heavenly places on earth visited and trekked-- from Utah to Oregon, and recent trip to Japan with her husband.

EV's last post to FB announced her upcoming, and last trip to CA -- looking to connect with others while there.

Autumn is typical time for the scheduled conferences, workshops EV attended in California prior to her death. By all accounts, she was prepared and engaged -- no reported suspicious behavior there.

She talked to her husband nightly, as usual, and no signs of distress detected by him either.

After the fact, I believe many will see a similar pattern here as seen with others that succumb to taking their lives: this year EV attempted everything known to bring her much pleasure, and still was not uplifted. It was more a been there, done that , and she likely couldn't see herself rising above that dark cloud that was enveloping her. And knew in her heart that another Tech Award Ceremony also wasn't going to pull her over the hump.

I see the random neighborhood street, and rental car, as foreign environment to her -- things she had no attachment to, and therefore no distraction not to follow through with her plan.

Did EV know when she checked out of her hotel room at 2pm that she would not get on the plane and go home? Probably not. An idea maybe but not a certainty. And I don't think she'd ever capable of checking out without talking to her family-- one last time. Maybe she was looking to hear something she'd long to hear from them her entire life.

Maybe VE gave herself a chance by answering the phone, and decided against disclosing her location to LE. Maybe by midnight she was physically, emotionally, and mentally exhausted, and took the last, fatal dosage and went to sleep.

Or perhaps she chose the Valley as the place where all this (perceived chaos?) started for her, and wanted to end it there.

Rest easy Erin.

What a beautiful and thoughtful post, like all your work here.
it is an entirely feasible presentation and summary.
It is entirely possible, if not likely.

I could live with it in the framework in which you present it , peacefully.
I'm pulled by it.. but I'm pulled harder by my feeling that she became physically ill and her illness caused her death rather than her design...

Thanks for writing that, it goes a long way towards bringing me closure too.. and closure is what is needed here.
I'm not optimistic that her autopsy will bring cause of death clearly... the length of time she was dead will complicate accuracy hugely.
There may be no closure. No cause established... but we must move on and Erin must move on too.

Sail free now girl, may the Force be with you and your journey blessed and comforted by millions of angels and lightbeings.. Namaste.

 

[mickey2942]

What a beautiful and thoughtful post, like all your work here.
it is an entirely feasible presentation and summary.
It is entirely possible, if not likely.

I could live with it in the framework in which you present it , peacefully.
I'm pulled by it.. but I'm pulled harder by my feeling that she became physically ill and her illness caused her death rather than her design...

Thanks for writing that, it goes a long way towards bringing me closure too.. and closure is what is needed here.
I'm not optimistic that her autopsy will bring cause of death clearly... the length of time she was dead will complicate accuracy hugely.
There may be no closure. No cause established... but we must move on and Erin must move on too.

Sail free now girl, may the Force be with you and your journey blessed and comforted by millions of angels and lightbeings.. Namaste.

I always find it interesting that people who seem to have everything, are so unhappy. Erin's life looked absolutely magical to me.

 

[wyome]

This may have been mentioned before, as I pop in and out sporadically. But I wonder if she and her husband were considering having children, and perhaps there was difficulty conceiving, which may have led to regret or situational depression.

She was such a vivacious, type A go-getter, that perhaps it had not been a consideration and she was focusing on herself and her business.

I do hope we get answers one way or the other in regards to her untimely death.

Seattle1, your post above was beautiful.