I know some years back there was a movement to make it easier to unseal adoption records. the reasons lawmakers often used to justify it was that adoptees needed access to medical history of biological parents. I do recall some backlash from the birth mother community where usually through representative spokespersons indicated that as far as they were concerned it was an ironclad promise by the state when they entered into the adoptions that it was over and done with.
many of these women had moved on with their lives and had families of their own and whether their husbands knew about the prior birth, they often did not want their children to know. so you can imagine their fury that in some states, their privacy was unsealed and they got the unwelcome knock on the door.
a private placement adoption works best for most people in the long run in my opinion. I guess the lesson here is that if a toxic combination of adoptee curiosity, teenage rebellion, soul searching and pure defiance takes hold, otherwise blameless adoptive parents get the brunt of it and they can wind up with a runaway adoptee who had all the creature comforts in life he or she would never have had if the adoption had not taken place.
many of these women had moved on with their lives and had families of their own and whether their husbands knew about the prior birth, they often did not want their children to know. so you can imagine their fury that in some states, their privacy was unsealed and they got the unwelcome knock on the door.
a private placement adoption works best for most people in the long run in my opinion. I guess the lesson here is that if a toxic combination of adoptee curiosity, teenage rebellion, soul searching and pure defiance takes hold, otherwise blameless adoptive parents get the brunt of it and they can wind up with a runaway adoptee who had all the creature comforts in life he or she would never have had if the adoption had not taken place.