CA CA - Maya Millete, 39, missed daughter's birthday, Chula Vista, 7 Jan 2021

[Snoop Sister]

After listening to the husband’s interview and that of the brother-in-law/sister, I have taken a tumble off the fence

 

[Curious Me]

I see where Maya posted some Fitbit exercise routes once in awhile. She was working towards an exercise goal. She was smart enough to cross out the locations. I thought I heard husband say she was training for some exercise event they both did ten yrs. ago. MOO, I wouldn't think she'd be drinking more or all that much if she was training.

Can't start discussing her social media, but I see the whole family celebrating another b-day back in June 2020. What a great looking family. It must be so hard on the children and her family, sick with worry about Maya being missing. Prayers for Maya and her Family.

Maya Millete | Facebook

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[slowpoke]

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I also heard that Maya & Larry are Filipinos.

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Can't start discussing her social media, but I see the whole family celebrating another b-day back in June 2020. What a great looking family. It must be so hard on the children and her family, sick with worry about Maya being missing. Prayers for Maya and her Family.
Maya Millete | Facebook
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I live in an area where there is a small, but tight-knit community of Filipino/Fil-Am. My neighbors on both sides are Filipino. In observing my neighbors over the decades we’ve lived next to each other, theirs may be a culture that stay very close to family, both their immediate and extended family. Many family milestones were celebrated with large home parties; great fun.

I don’t know how connected Maya was to her Filipino culture and family roots, but it does seem she was very close to her family. At any rate, it just doesn’t feel probable she would have left intentionally without letting someone in her family know.

(Side note: I’m not able to see her personal FB, not having a FB account. Not a problem for me, just mentioning. I can see the Find Maya FB page, however.)

 

[Curious Me]

Maya had those tattoos of musical notes on her shoulder because she can play guitar and has a beautiful voice. Cried when I realized how talented she is and how truly beautiful her zest for life. Praying for her safe return.

Shared 6 hrs. ago. You'll find it here.
Find May/Maya Millete - Posts | Facebook

 

[BlkMtnGirl]

Is there a link to Maya’s sister and brother-in-law’s (Richard Drouaillet) interview? I’m only seeing bits and pieces it seems or I missed a link. TIA.

 

[Tealgrove]

Well, the 11 year old is definitely old enough to give LE a lot of information. Was mom around on the Friday or not? She will know. The children are the ones who are going to be ones to upend Dad's story. Could be reason we are not hearing much from LE is that they are taking their time with interviewing the children and being very delicate about their discussions.

LE has been very quiet.

Something is going to break soon I think.

MOO

 

[Tink56]

Is there a link to Maya’s sister and brother-in-law’s (Richard Drouaillet) interview? I’m only seeing bits and pieces it seems or I missed a link. TIA.

Here's the interview in which the brother-in-law and sister mention the possible red flags that are under investigation:
Maya Millete: Search continues for missing Chula Vista mother | cbs8.com

Below, is from an early story. It's very confusing if the brother knocked on the door to her room on Friday and actually heard her. In a couple of reports, it says the 9-year-old daughter was the last to see her on Friday.

Was she home schooling her daughters from behind the locked bedroom door? Assume some of this is due to incomplete reporting or ???? It IS unclear when she was last seen, IMO:

"She was last seen at home in Chula Vista in San Diego. Although the car was parked outside the house, Millete did not answer calls or texts.

“The room was locked. But when my brother knocked on the door she was responding and it was locked. My brother thought, she probably just wanted to be left alone,” said Maricris Drouaillet, sister of Millete.

“The whole day of Friday, we didn’t hear anything from her. And then Saturday also. So I told my dad to go check on her, to open the door… she wasn’t there,” she added."
Search party launched for missing Filipina in San Diego, California | Philippines Lifestyle News

 

[Tealgrove]

I have a few questions that I would like to have answered.

1. Why were they still living together? Was it because they chose to due to Covid and co-parenting the children? Was it financial in nature? A combination of both?

2. Were either seeing other people? (Friends and maybe family will know)

3. What was the fight about? What kind of fights did they have? Were they strictly verbal or was there any kind of physical violence in the home? Did they fight often and about the same things or was it a fight about everything? (Friends, family and children will know)

4. Were they planning on divorcing?

5. Did one have more money than the other?

Answers to these questions could bring some clarity to the situation.

MOO

 

[Tink56]

I have a few questions that I would like to have answered.

1. Why were they still living together? Was it because they chose to due to Covid and co-parenting the children? Was it financial in nature? A combination of both?

2. Were either seeing other people? (Friends and maybe family will know)

3. What was the fight about? What kind of fights did they have? Were they strictly verbal or was there any kind of physical violence in the home? Did they fight often and about the same things or was it a fight about everything? (Friends, family and children will know)

4. Were they planning on divorcing?

5. Did one have more money than the other?

Answers to these questions could bring some clarity to the situation.

MOO

We'd all like answers to these questions, but the answers haven't been forthcoming, yet.

Their culture, religion, family, and perhaps money could have been factors holding the relationship together. (Although barely together...) I also know that getting a divorce in which kids are involved in San Diego at the current time of Covid is severely impacted. A friend's daughter is waiting for her fiance's amicable divorce to be finalized. There are are over 10,000 such divorces awaiting court dates. (think that's the number she told me...staggering amount!)

The husband did not answer the question when asked if there was someone else in May's life.

None of the friends have been featured in news stories.

Can't imagine that the children were oblivious to the living arrangement and the arguments. It's all very, very sad.

Good questions...awaiting answers.

 

[BlkMtnGirl]

Here's the interview in which the brother-in-law and sister mention the possible red flags that are under investigation:
Maya Millete: Search continues for missing Chula Vista mother | cbs8.com

Below, is from an early story. It's very confusing if the brother knocked on the door to her room on Friday and actually heard her. In a couple of reports, it says the 9-year-old daughter was the last to see her on Friday.

Was she home schooling her daughters from behind the locked bedroom door? Assume some of this is due to incomplete reporting or ???? It IS unclear when she was last seen, IMO:

"She was last seen at home in Chula Vista in San Diego. Although the car was parked outside the house, Millete did not answer calls or texts.

“The room was locked. But when my brother knocked on the door she was responding and it was locked. My brother thought, she probably just wanted to be left alone,” said Maricris Drouaillet, sister of Millete.

“The whole day of Friday, we didn’t hear anything from her. And then Saturday also. So I told my dad to go check on her, to open the door… she wasn’t there,” she added."
Search party launched for missing Filipina in San Diego, California | Philippines Lifestyle News

Thanks! She was responding to her brother through her locked door? I did not remember reading that. I wonder how she was responding. It doesn’t seem like he means verbally. Interesting. That’s got my mind going all kinds of places.

 

[Knox]

Maya had those tattoos of musical notes on her shoulder because she can play guitar and has a beautiful voice. Cried when I realized how talented she is and how truly beautiful her zest for life. Praying for her safe return.

Shared 6 hrs. ago. You'll find it here.
Find May/Maya Millete - Posts | Facebook

What a beautiful voice May has. I can't see her walking away from her kids or family, we all know the most dangerous time for a woman is when she has made up her mind it's time to leave. Waiting for answers

 

[Dnp2be]

This is all just MOO from personal experiences throughout the years in one form or another.

I get the vibe that hubby is suspicious and untrusting which has led to the current situation within the relationship. I’m going to assume to that none of the current problems we’re present in the past. I’ve seen this happen in the following example:

One partner feels they are putting in all the work when it comes to the relationship and feels unappreciated. Emotional needs aren’t being met and soon neither are physical. The partner, unable to gain the others attention, seeks attention somewhere else. This doesn’t have to be an affair but it could also be from going out, spending more time with friends, chatting over the internet, diving into their work, and the list can go on and on with both negative and positive ways to gain the attention they feel they are not receiving at home....other partner starts noticing now (finally) and in an attempt to cling on to whatever control they have over the situation. Now who knows what exactly the partner is feeling but IME, a partner who may have been distant (or emotionally absent even when in close quarters) all of a sudden over compensates and becomes too involved...

Again in an example: he (or she) didn’t seem interested in his wife when she was feeling neglected and desiring his attention. He now sees her out enjoying herself and realizes what he may lose, gets jealous and resentful that she is looking good and enjoying the company of everyone other than him. He starts to become suspicious and invades her privacy, constantly questions her and accuses her. She maybe feels liken she has to argue and fight to have her own personal time and ultimately she begins to feel like he’s trying to control and parent her. He on the other hand is trying to keep any control he still has and either feels bad his actions contributed to her slipping away, or maybe he doesn’t but he is resentful he’s not the one out having fun and is at home taking care of everything while she is being “irresponsible”.

His attempts to control her lead to her trying harder to not be held down. In the end, resentments are controlling the relationship at this point.

So my whole point to this wordy (per my usual inability to convey something simply) example is that I can see that going either way. Maybe husband is innocent and really is just feeling hurt, angry, sad, resentful, and like he’s lost control of everything. Maybe he even warned her about going out and not being careful without him around or in the activities she is partaking in. OR maybe all those feelings led to something more extreme in attempts to gain control of the situation. Either way, the children should be priority. No matter what. So no matter how this turns out, they have still been through a tough situation and I hope they have the support they need during this time.

 

[Dnp2be]

What a beautiful voice May has. I can't see her walking away from her kids or family, we all know the most dangerous time for a woman is when she has made up her mind it's time to leave. Waiting for answers

so so true.

 

[ms_x_to_the_m]

I have been following silently this case.
I think this case will be one that will put the husband in a bad light, but not necessarily because he did soemthing, but more because he is so distanced from his wife. I don't think he is guilty, he is just almost annoyed with her. Like saying "How dare you put me through this" Almost like he is the victim here.
Now I don't have anything to back me up, just a hunch on it. All my feeling, LOL
Anyways I do thing she was probably at home and just needed to get out and someone had been keeping her eye on her, and they met and something happened to her that way. However, I am usually wrong. I think I don't want to loose two parents.
All this to merely say I hope she is found,
All my opinion.

 

[JakeB911]

Nothing about their relationship seems relevant to me. Different. Weird. Strange. Yes. But does it offer any details to the death? Little. I grew up in a poor neighborhood. These types of estranged living situations were far too common.

Now what throws everything off is the husband’s non involvement from the searches to the prayer vigils. He attributes it to being a “private person”. Sorry Mr Larry, but you’re a super red flag here. You can have the worse relationship and probably care little about a significant other anymore, but this proves one of two things, you know the truth or you have no heart to overcome your selfishness of being a private person. Either answer is terribly troubling of any human being. And makes you a dangerous individual.

And for those that think the detectives aren’t looking into the husband, believe me they are. Missing persons Investigation 101, “I’m your friend, let us help you find her.” When folks are cooperating, you maintain that relationship until deemed otherwise.

 

[Lusitana]

Here's the interview in which the brother-in-law and sister mention the possible red flags that are under investigation:
Maya Millete: Search continues for missing Chula Vista mother | cbs8.com

Below, is from an early story. It's very confusing if the brother knocked on the door to her room on Friday and actually heard her. In a couple of reports, it says the 9-year-old daughter was the last to see her on Friday.

Was she home schooling her daughters from behind the locked bedroom door? Assume some of this is due to incomplete reporting or ???? It IS unclear when she was last seen, IMO:

"She was last seen at home in Chula Vista in San Diego. Although the car was parked outside the house, Millete did not answer calls or texts.

“The room was locked. But when my brother knocked on the door she was responding and it was locked. My brother thought, she probably just wanted to be left alone,” said Maricris Drouaillet, sister of Millete.

“The whole day of Friday, we didn’t hear anything from her. And then Saturday also. So I told my dad to go check on her, to open the door… she wasn’t there,” she added."
Search party launched for missing Filipina in San Diego, California | Philippines Lifestyle News

Does she mean brother-in-law by brother?

 

[Elhe]

It's none of our business why they lived the way they lived. Twenty-one years together AND with kids is a lot when deciding the future of your family and marriage.

I don't think he knows whether she may have seen other people which is why he kind of deflected that question. It sounds like she kept him out of a lot, which is understandable given everything he said in that phone interview. He does seem more angry and annoyed than anything, he resented her and her independence from him.

I think a lot of his interview was his sensitivity because he didn't have any answers because he just didn't know her anymore. If he left their kids on Friday and didn't communicate with Maya, he probably knows that that doesn't sound good for either of them, that it's immature and irresponsible as parents. Eleven and 9 are old enough to fend for themselves, but one would at least be aware that they're alone. What if they needed something during the time he was out and they couldn't get ahold of Maya? As mentioned, Friday's timeline is strange, there are way too many red flags based on Larry's interview.

I don't know about Larry, but Maya was a defense contractor, which pays well enough depending on job description. She has a Jeep that she kitted out for off-roading, which can be expensive depending on parts.

I have a few questions that I would like to have answered.

1. Why were they still living together? Was it because they chose to due to Covid and co-parenting the children? Was it financial in nature? A combination of both?

2. Were either seeing other people? (Friends and maybe family will know)

3. What was the fight about? What kind of fights did they have? Were they strictly verbal or was there any kind of physical violence in the home? Did they fight often and about the same things or was it a fight about everything? (Friends, family and children will know)

4. Were they planning on divorcing?

5. Did one have more money than the other?

Answers to these questions could bring some clarity to the situation.

MOO

 

[rosesfromangels]

Nothing about their relationship seems relevant to me. Different. Weird. Strange. Yes. But does it offer any details to the death? Little. I grew up in a poor neighborhood. These types of estranged living situations were far too common.

Now what throws everything off is the husband’s non involvement from the searches to the prayer vigils. He attributes it to being a “private person”. Sorry Mr Larry, but you’re a super red flag here. You can have the worse relationship and probably care little about a significant other anymore, but this proves one of two things, you know the truth or you have no heart to overcome your selfishness of being a private person. Either answer is terribly troubling of any human being. And makes you a dangerous individual.

And for those that think the detectives aren’t looking into the husband, believe me they are. Missing persons Investigation 101, “I’m your friend, let us help you find her.” When folks are cooperating, you maintain that relationship until deemed otherwise.

BBM. Death of the relationship? Because there have been no remains found of this woman.

I think there is a lot of speculation and judgement (not you in particular Jake) about the relationship and the husband. We don't know their arrangement and agreement, and nor do we know if his behavior is consistent with his personality.

I still think it is most likely this lovely gal has been injured while off hiking (or similar) or met with foul play while socializing with someone other than her husband.

This case is sad at many levels, and against the odds...I pray she is somehow still found alive. We are approaching the tale end of timing that would even make that a possibility, but we have to hold on to that shred of hope.

Amateur opinion and speculation

 

[whitelilac]

If someone harmed Maya, a clandestine date gone wrong, or abduction, the perp likely feels very comfortable with the state of her marriage and Maya's husband being a possible suspect.
For now....I'm leaning to such a scenario and husband not being involved.
Hope I'm right for the sake of the kids.

 

[Curious Me]

This case is sad at many levels, and against the odds...I pray she is somehow still found alive. We are approaching the tale end of timing that would even make that a possibility, but we have to hold on to that shred of hope.

Maya has a lovely spirit that has touched us all. Believing in the power of prayers, I'm praying with you. Prayers that Maya be found alive. Prayers for her children, family, friends to have strength and keep faith in these difficult times.