Lovejac
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Shutterfly, I am overwhelmed with emotion after reading this post. You and your husband have done/are doing an amazing thing. God bless you and your son
Housemouse I am the adoptive mother of a 2.5 year old boy who was severely abused, was almost starved to death, and was "lost" by a negligent mother for a short period of time. My situation and this child's could have been a lot more like Casey's. The bio-mom of this child was my 17 year old stepdaughter(now 20). She is a mirror image of the perception I have of Casey.
CPS took this child from her after I physically found him in a crack house, half dead. I was conflicted. I've been a participant in this girl's life for almost as long as she's been alive and I understand that her own mother, a heroin addict, is largely responsible for who and what she is. I love this girl as though she were my own. But my husband and I had to 'cut her off." After what she did to her son, knowing full well that she knew better and could comprehend right from wrong...we had to put the child first and distance ourselves from her. I was against it. The guilt is unimaginable. I miss my "daughter." My husband, her father, insisted on it. She left our home and took the baby when he was three months old, stating that "he was her son and she could do whatever she wanted to do with him." She even told people that "if she GOT RID of him, we'd be sorry." I have the emails to prove it. She took the child away when we reported her for nearly starving him to death, and lying about the fact that she was feeding him. She was NOT feeding him and I set up video in the house to prove it. What I found out was reprehensible. LE told us after she left to mind our own business. She, like Casey, said that all we cared about was HIM. Since CPS gave us custody of the child in Aug 2006, we have not allowed her to step foot in our home or around this child. We can't, she's dangerous and she's learned nothing from any of this. Now she tells anyone who will listen that we stole her baby because we refuse to allow her to come here and live off of us. She goes from sucking up, asking me for money, to talking to me and about me like a dog. But even for the first six months when I begged her to get her sh*t together and take back this child she did nothing. She's not sent the first birthday card...she never asks about him. It's always about HER. The whole situation is a nightmare and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I created some of this myself just like the Anthony's did. I stepped up to the plate and volunteered to take this child and raise him as my own. I did it to save the "daughter" I love from prison. I did it to give this baby a stable life with people who love him and to save his life. I did it for family...because that's all I really have.
I know, I know :too much info: sowwy