oceanblueeyes
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Perhaps I'm jaded, but to me, biased is biased. You're absolutely correct in that there are families that deny mental disorders, however in my line of work (health care) I've also seen families who latch on to the idea of a "mental disorder" as a way to explain away behavioral issues that have gotten out of control, instead of admitting that there may be problems in their home that need to be dealt with. To clarify, Mary Lauterbach said she "suspected" her daughter was bipolar and the Uncle clarified his statements to say that while Maria had a history of lying when under stress, he did not consider her to be a compulsive liar.
Do I believe that Maria was a troubled young woman? Absolutely, but there are lots of troubled people who are not, by definition, mentally ill. Unfortunately, I see the same type of manipulative behavior, to include the lying, every day. IMHO she made a series of extremely poor choices, but I do believe there was evidence that she was trying to rectify her mistakes and gain control of her life again. One of the many tragedies in this story is that it appears neither Maria, nor anyone around her (to include her command) made a serious attempt to get her any help from the mental health community. Again, while I don't believe she was suffering from a clinical mental illness, I do think she would have benefited greatly from counseling.
I can only go by what I have read thus far. I believe the Corps did provide counseling when she stoled the Christmas money at Boot Camp. They also provided her with a victim's advocate when she made the allegations of rape and she was available day and night for Maria. They also offer counseling for alleged rape victims. So I am of the opinion that the Corps did not let Maria down. They tried to help her and she would tell them one thing and then tell Mary the opposite.
I do not know why she lied but she did. Anyone that can make up a tall tale that their father killed their own little brother or saying that they had cancer and had to have hysterectomy, goes way beyond typical falsehoods, imo. And to do this in an environment known for truth and veracity is even more abnormal and bizarre , imo.
I think her issues went much deeper than merely being immature and making poor choices.
IMOO