Cheerleaders Killed in Head-On Fiery Crash.

[Paladin]

I think the picture of the angel looks photoshopped.

They call the hill angel hill now. I actually smoked pot for the first time ever on that hill at a school function when I was in the 10th grade. True story.

 

[pedinurse]

If a memorial were created for every student that died there wouldn't be much room left on school grounds.

I wonder what kind of requirements there are for memorials to be placed on school grounds, if any. I mean, they were technically alumni of the school at that point. Will a memorial be placed there for me if I die in a tragic accident?

Perhaps if I die tragically and somehow Websleuths catches wind of it, would one of you be so kind as to push that school district to erect a memorial for me?

i think that u could probably sue that you want a spot for an eternal flame for yourself in the event of your death. you're a recent alum, same principal, and you're a great person. dangit, you deserve it.

 

[Beyond Belief]

If building a memorial helps the community deal with this tragedy, I say build it.:twocents:

 

[Paladin]

If building a memorial helps the community deal with this tragedy, I say build it.:twocents:

Yeah, you're probably right.

 

[Paladin]

I'm a good guy now. All clean and happy and a productive member of society.

 

[pedinurse]

If building a memorial helps the community deal with this tragedy, I say build it.:twocents:

but don't you think that those families are suffering financially from having to bury their children? of course, i don't know what memorials went where, but there were various memorials everywhere - some individual, some group, and there are costs for that. in addition to funeral services. of course, i don't know - but for normal people, i bet that the car insurance policy the one family was carrying was probably not enough to cover the OTHER four funerals. just a guess. and if it was, it isn't in their hands right now. those things take time to sort out. not only that - don't you think that the remaining members probably need financial help? as in, counseling for the sudden and shocking loss? i would be a mess if my child passed away. i think the money could be better given to the families or to charity than to some - statue or memorial garden or eternal flame at the high school. that seems like such a waste and almost like a "show" to me. raise money, sure. but make it count. kind of like how people want you to donate to charity instead of flowers at a lot of funerals now.

 

[zadari]

but don't you think that those families are suffering financially from having to bury their children? of course, i don't know what memorials went where, but there were various memorials everywhere - some individual, some group, and there are costs for that. in addition to funeral services. of course, i don't know - but for normal people, i bet that the car insurance policy the one family was carrying was probably not enough to cover the OTHER four funerals. just a guess. and if it was, it isn't in their hands right now. those things take time to sort out. not only that - don't you think that the remaining members probably need financial help? as in, counseling for the sudden and shocking loss? i would be a mess if my child passed away. i think the money could be better given to the families or to charity than to some - statue or memorial garden or eternal flame at the high school. that seems like such a waste and almost like a "show" to me. raise money, sure. but make it count. kind of like how people want you to donate to charity instead of flowers at a lot of funerals now.

mabey they already talked with the parents and it could be what they want? mabey that is whats up .

 

[Texana]

I like flowers at funerals, personally, ever been to a viewing? Flowers give you something to talk about, look at (besides the deceased) and they just generally soften and add comfort. I hate the last part of funerals where you have to leave the gravesite. The flowers make it better and not quite so difficult.

If it were my child (God forbid) I'd be very comforted by a memorial. I like those benches with little plaques "in honor of" "in memory of" at parks, schools, churches, etc. And I really, really would hate for anyone to think I need donations to help bury my child. Sorry, that would be a point of personal pride with me.

A scholarship in my child's name would be meaningful to me as well.

 

[Gina_M]

I like the scholarship idea. It honors the deceased, and is also practical.

 

[KansasCutie]

I love everything their doing.

I cant believe some people are saying this is a "waste"

Let their community do what needs to be done in order to help them cope with this tradegy that THEY are going through. Not us.

If your community had just lost 5 young girls in a horrible way, i dont think you would want others from around the world criticizing certain things you do for them.

 

[luthersmama]

Doing anything expensive and permanent immediately after such a tragedy is foolish. Better to wait awhile and let some of the raw emotion get worked through. Put things in perspective for awhile, and THEN see what an approprate, meaningful memorial might be.

There's a reason why grieving people are advised not to jump into making big decisions at a time like this.

Maybe something at the high school will result, maybe not. Time should pass before the decision is made.

 

[reportertype]

Well, not to bag on these girls, but I don't see the point of this.

"some suggestions have included a memorial garden with 5 eternal flames at the new football field"

Come on now. Is this necessary? I went to Fairport High and a kid in my class died of a brain tumor, which is just as tragic. I don't recall any fund being established for this poor kid. These kids were graduated and died doing something non-school related. How about use that money to raise awareness to prevent kids driving beyond the measures of their license or texting/talking on your cellphone while driving?

I think this money is going to be misspent. Just my opinion.
Eternal flames...come on...

I have to say I agree with you, Paladin. They should do what luthersmama suggested and wait before deciding on what, if anything, to do.

 

[jubie]

Doing anything expensive and permanent immediately after such a tragedy is foolish. Better to wait awhile and let some of the raw emotion get worked through. Put things in perspective for awhile, and THEN see what an approprate, meaningful memorial might be.

There's a reason why grieving people are advised not to jump into making big decisions at a time like this.

Maybe something at the high school will result, maybe not. Time should pass before the decision is made.

Have you ever been near someone in a tragedy? (Not being sarcastic, just curious if you know what I mean) It makes you want to do something, ANYTHING, just to help. Some people prepare a meal or pray with you but others do the craziest things just to do SOMETHING they feel might help you or even themselves get through it. Waiting is hard to do at a time like this. I agree they should give it a little time though.


I'm ok with whatever helps the parents... I can't even begin to go there

 

[philamena]

Have you ever been near someone in a tragedy? (Not being sarcastic, just curious if you know what I mean) It makes you want to do something, ANYTHING, just to help. Some people prepare a meal or pray with you but others do the craziest things just to do SOMETHING they feel might help you or even themselves get through it. Waiting is hard to do at a time like this. I agree they should give it a little time though.


I'm ok with whatever helps the parents... I can't even begin to go there

ditto what jubie said.

 

[KansasCutie]

The thing about this "pretty popular cheerleaders" status that is frustrating me more than anything is that no matter what kind of people died in this accident..whether it be football players, chess players, band kids, gothic kids, the smartest kids, the dumbest kids, the "losers", swim team members, math team members...its the fact that this highschool & community lost FIVE people. They would have reacted the same way. So im pretty sure the fact that they were cheerleaders, has nothing to do with the things there choosing to do.

 

[Beyond Belief]

but don't you think that those families are suffering financially from having to bury their children? of course, i don't know what memorials went where, but there were various memorials everywhere - some individual, some group, and there are costs for that. in addition to funeral services. of course, i don't know - but for normal people, i bet that the car insurance policy the one family was carrying was probably not enough to cover the OTHER four funerals. just a guess. and if it was, it isn't in their hands right now. those things take time to sort out. not only that - don't you think that the remaining members probably need financial help? as in, counseling for the sudden and shocking loss? i would be a mess if my child passed away. i think the money could be better given to the families or to charity than to some - statue or memorial garden or eternal flame at the high school. that seems like such a waste and almost like a "show" to me. raise money, sure. but make it count. kind of like how people want you to donate to charity instead of flowers at a lot of funerals now.

I really don't want to comment on too much here, but in regards to auto insurance. My child was a passenger in someone else car which hit a palm tree. She was seriously hurt. The bills mounted to 500,000. The way the insurance went was the drivers insurance contributed their part, then my insurance contributed their part, then my health insurance picked up the rest. State of Florida. That was my experience. The insurance companies only paid up to what the policy was for.

 

[deanws]

I like the scholarship idea. It honors the deceased, and is also practical.

As a former teacher....I love this idea. Education is the gift that lasts forever. :blowkiss:

 

[englishleigh]

I like the scholarship idea best of all. It would be lasting and very appropriate.

 

[Straitfan]

My son's gf passed away in a terrible car accident her senior yr of hs.. At their school they have a fountain in the courtyard next to the flagpole that has been there for a long time.. Anytime a student or teacher passes away they add a plaque with their names, dates, etc to the fountain. The school group that does a prayer circle once a week before school starts, does it around the fountain.. I like it, makes it feel like the one's lost are not forgotten..

Anyway, I think the scholarship ideas is great as well.

 

[reportertype]

My son's gf passed away in a terrible car accident her senior yr of hs.. At their school they have a fountain in the courtyard next to the flagpole that has been there for a long time.. Anytime a student or teacher passes away they add a plaque with their names, dates, etc to the fountain. The school group that does a prayer circle once a week before school starts, does it around the fountain.. I like it, makes it feel like the one's lost are not forgotten..

Anyway, I think the scholarship ideas is great as well.

What a great idea. I wish our school had had something similar.