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ITA. The question on my mind, is what was the reason for such a deep-rooted hatred?
Good question. I started typing a reply and realized that I wrote about this in a January 15th post-
Why hatred?
In a hypothetical situation with an unknown cast, a breakup involving a child can turn into a vicious power struggle. In reality, the mother holds more cards than the father. This can be handled different ways, but one way is for the mother to play the cards hard. Control when the father sees the child, emasculate him in different ways- lack of success, housing arrangements, parenting skills etc. And potentially threaten to move away and take his child. Taking a child out of state is more complicated, but this man may not know this.
Some "masculine" men who think they have been in control all their lives, may not handle this gracefully. A man could develop hatred from feeling demeaned and belittled, and feeling they have no recourse in the struggle. And sometimes they just refuse to lose; when they are used to controlling and "winning", no matter how trivial the previous battle victories in their life actually were.