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Actually, you are both right and wrong. (This is what I do for a living.)
With respect to decision-making, joint decision-making is favored unless the parents just can't get along. This is the right to make decisions for the child's health, education and welfare.
We don't use the term "custody" in Colorado, we use the term "parenting time." Colorado doesn't have a standard parenting time plan or possession order like some states. The parenting time is customized in each case depending on the facts and circumstances and the proximity of the parents to each other. The amount of parenting time is determined by counting the number of "overnights," that is, the number of nights the children sleep at each parents house.
Nowhere does the Colorado law specifically say 50/50 parenting time, but that is the customary practice through much of the state. Judges in Colorado don't like to hear contested cases about parenting time, so they often just split p-t 50/50 unless there is a really good reason not to. Sometimes this looks like week on/week off, where the child spends 7 uninterrupted days and nights with each parent. Sometimes it is a 4/3/3/4 plan; sometimes it is a 5/2/2/5 plan. Or one parent could get most of the time during the school year and the other parent gets more time during the summer and holidays. It gets complicated.
Judges are not supposed to "restrict" (this is another term of art) a parent's parenting time except under extreme circumstances, and the standard is endangerment to the child's physical health or mental wellbeing. What "restriction" means is debatable. Typically giving one parent weekdays and the other weekends is not considered restriction, but limiting one parent to every-other -weekend might be.
Now, all of the equal parenting time scenarios presented above assume both parents live close enough to each other and the children's school that equal time is workable. If they don't live close enough for it to be workable, then the court will necessarily have to make one parent or the other the "primary residential parent," and that parent will have the children during the school year, and then they will try to give the other parent as much time as possible during the summer and weekends. This is not considered restricted parenting time, so you don't have to show endangerment.
In this case, if the parties separated, I have presumed that the house would have to be sold, since neither party would have enough money to keep up house payments on one income. And then I presume that SW would most likely desire to move back to NC, which I believe she would. (CW might move back, too.) I think it is most likely that SW would be named primary residential parent in this case, although some judges will surprise you.
ETA: Colorado is also a no-fault divorce state, meaning that it doesn't matter who is at fault for the breakup of the marriage. You can't allege fault grounds as an alternative theory. This means that CW's affair is simply not relevant to the divorce or parenting time, and would not be discussed in the divorce case unless CW's paramour is somehow a dangerous person for the children to be around.
Hmm. I mean I'm seeing that it's favored but not that it's guaranteed:
Criteria for Determining Living Arrangements
Parenting time is the actual time the parent is physically with the child. As mentioned above, this may not be divided equally.
Another criteria that is very important is each parent’s previous pattern of involvement with the child. An active parent who has long been the primary caregiver is more likely to receive majority parenting time. Parental conduct is also a factor as are support systems such as grandparents.
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.denverfamilylawmatters.com/blog/joint-child-custody-colorado?hs_amp=true
I see link after link of CO family law firms discussing primary parent and the best interest standard and how equal parenting time is not standard.
Top 10 Child Custody Mistakes in Colorado | Tolison & Williams, LLC
If it was typically or automatically 50/50 why would so many law firms be making statements like this?
And why would this article (posted today it appears) , be discussing the push for a bill that would make it easier for parents to get equal parenting time in CO?
"On the one hand, Colorado Senate Bill 15-129 — the 50/50 parenting bill — would recognize parental rights as fundamental rights, and it would allow parents to have equal chance for custody in a divorce."
Child Custody Could Have More Chance of a '50/50' Split If Bill Passes in Colorado - In Denver Times
There is nothing in the law that I've found in CO that states equal parenting time is automatic there. Or even typical. Just that having a child spend as much time with both parents is favored. It sounds like it comes down to best interest of the child standard as in most states in the US.
Otherwise, you are saying that if a couple has toddlers or even babies and one parent was a stay at home parent and has more availability to care for the kids, the other parent will get equal time and shove the babies in daycare. Even though one parent is available to care for them while the other is not.
I don't practice in CO but it doesn't seem to me at all that he was guaranteed an equal time share.
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