This weirded me out too. And the description of her voicemail as "creepy giggling" seems to me so subjective. I mean it's completely possible to me with the information that she /is/ creepy and a part of some horrible plot, but it's also possible from what little I've gleamed that the only thing she is guilty of is being with a married man who she had no idea had that kind of murderous capacity in him (which it seems like most people would never have suspected of him). And that her giggling was the kind of baby-flirty voice some women take on with love interests? I don't understand this document dump really.
I just have this feeling that if we hear the audio, it will be like, "Oh okay. Yep, that's definitely a creepy giggle."
HOW did CW do his "damndest" to make it work?
By cheating on SW with his co-worker?
By ignoring her pleas to communicate?
By refusing to go to couples' therapy? (Until the very end, when he knew it was too late and he wouldn't have to.)
By lying to SW about where he was spending his money?
And, again, if finances were so tight and stressful to him then why was he taking his mistress to expensive meals and on weekend getaways? Spending his money on male companionship? (If the male AP is to be believed.)
And do we have actual proof that SW wasn't bringing in any income? According to the document dump, she was bringing in as much money as CW was with her job.
Look, MLMs aren't my thing. I don't generally buy products from people who sell direct sale items and I don't want to become involved in that kind of thing myself. And it is true that MOST people do not make money at them. But some people DO make actual money at them. Is there ANY proof that SW did not? Can someone direct me to bank statements or LE statements or anything official that shows that SW was not bringing in income?
I welcome a discussion about how this seemingly fell apart, but the problem is that almost every time someone gives it a shot, it's always a list of reasons why CW was "stressed", with the majority of those reasons circling around SW. That makes the convo difficult.
I'm not a big fan of MLM's, although that never factored into how I perceived Shanann or ever doubted that CW killed his family. But I have to say, I am impressed that SW had 200 people in her downline! That's pretty amazing. I don't think I even know like 2 people who I could sell to like that. 200 people is pretty impressive. And also shows more her motivation for a heavy social media presence. This wasn't a side hustle. She was making legit income with this. It might not be my thing, but she was bringing in good money for her family. Also, there was absolutely nothing to show that CW was irritated by this. He even told the investigators interrogating him that he took Thrive and that it was a great product! Ha that kind of made me laugh if this case wasn't so sad. Also most of their friends were through Thrive or taking Thrive products. Even a guy CW worked with mentioned his wife was also into it. There was so much speculation early on that her MLM selling obsession created tension in their marriage, but there was nothing that indicated that in the discovery documents. CW seemed to support what she was doing in her direct sales job. It seemed liked every time the MLM thing came up, it was a "looking for a reason" why, but the MLM did not appear to cause tension. (NOT that it would be a valid reason anyway!) But wow, 200 people under her really stood out to me as impressive.
It's not great to be apart, but he could have come down on a weekend or two. Grandkids need to get to know their grandparents, and kids need to see their parents. According to the video Shanann did about facial products, they took a trip every summer to NC. It is not optimal being apart for 5 weeks, but when you live halfway across the country from your family, you have to make sacrifices somewhere. What I would like to know is for how long Chris stayed in NC in all of the previous years.
I don't think they really had extra money for CW to take extra flights out a weekend or two. Not that CW even wanted to do that. But Shanann was upset he drove to the airport and was paying for parking in the airport lot every day. That it was money they now didn't have for the beach. I don't think two extra round trip flights was in the cards. Or that he was interested in that. But I think this topic has jumped the shark in general. She had a flexible job and he didn't. Even the VI Trinket who posted here early on posted that she didn't think the trip to NC was related to marriage issues.
I gave NK the benefit of the doubt when she first came out with her story, but I feel absolutely no sorrow for her at this point. She twisted details and made herself seem naive, when in reality she knew exactly what she was doing all along. Knowingly sleeping with a married man who has his own family speaks volumes about one’s character IMO. The Amber Frey search and “can cops trace text messages” only adds to the level of shadiness. She has lost trust and credibility in my eyes and many others.
I think one of NK's big mistakes aside from everything in this case was trying to jump in front of this story and portray herself as the innocent victim and hero. And it worked. We all thought she was super smart to do that and came off in a good light. Then the discovery document showed contradictions and not so altruistic or fully honorable behavior, and we kind of feel duped and betrayed. I think that's where a lot of this anger is coming from. Can totally see why Rourke and his office seemed a little meh on her.
I think she would have been better off if she hadn't tried to get ahead of this story and portray herself as someone she's not. We would have read the discovery document. Rolled our eyes a few times. Had no previous statements of hers to compare it to and find the lies. And moved on. Dumb, immature mistress who law enforcement does not believe was involved. Make a statement or two after the fact saying omg yeah I was really dumb, and I had an affair, but dude I did NOT know he was going to kill his whole family. That's like, really messed up." And still looked a lot better than she does now.
Because people hate liars, not authentic, disingenuous, and people they feel have agendas or other motives. She's not trustworthy and she's lost all good will. And that is hard to recover from. She is not a killer, but her mortal error was in trying to play the Amber Frey hero. She probably didn't know how much would be released after the fact or she likely would have tried to get ahead of that in a better way.
I do find it pretty ironic that as CW is annihilating his family to be with her, she's having sleepovers with a supposedly platonic friend named Jim.
I also can't blame her for thinking CW was going to leave his wife. Unlike most married men who will never leave their marriage and kids and families for the mistress, just continue to have sex, CW actually was planning this. That's actually pretty unusual. And he wasn't still having sex with his wife. Or texting her that he loved her and missed her. Or being affectionate. It's tragic what he did. And if he was pulling back knowing he was going to murder his family. But from NK's perspective, it's not like he was stringing her along or telling her lies. He really was shutting out his wife and making plans to move forward with her. And with SW gone for 6 weeks, there was no wife and family in the picture. It probably felt real that they could be together. I'm sure that's the vibe she picked up on and thought this was legit. No wonder she was googling wedding dresses.