I would be begging the state police to give me an escort.
IMO, there wasn’t much BM could do from Denver, the process had been initiated, and while he may have been extremely worried, it’s also possible, he did not actually believe anything serious had happened.
The nature of their relationship could answer some of our questions.
IMO, if every spouse requested an escort, when they can’t reach their spouse, that would be the proverbial “crying wolf”.
I’ve had experience dealing w/ slightly similar situations, as my husband is retired military and commercial pilot. Whenever a plane crashes, you are immediately on alert, you can’t fall to pieces, w/o the details. Your heart stops, but you keep going, sometimes on auto pilot.
When you have young kids, or even older children, who are fragile in nature, you try to maintain a calm facade.
I’m sure I would likely have reacted similarly to BM, I would have tied up things in Denver, as best as possible, not neatly, but as quickly as possible.
I’d have driven like a bat out of hell, unless I was on phone, there are after all, other drivers on the roads. I would have gotten updates along the way.
I look back on the crises in my family’s life, married 45 yrs, nothing of this type, more of the “dropped the purple Martin house on head, slashed skull, bleeding,”you don’t always wait on ambulance, you do get tunnel vision. You drive as quickly as allowed, safely...traffic is a factor...
IMO, you can drive(speed) or make calls.
Heck, it’s possible he made excellent time, given all the details we don’t know.