But there are plenty of people with Asperger's that are quite successful and have great careers. Obviously they found a way to deal with anxiety.
Absolutely, in fact they interviewed several with Aspergers on our local news channel last night and they were very intelligent, highly gifted, successful and very gentle.
I know this is not the popular opinion but Im not convince any type of mental illness caused this to happen. In fact everyday Im more convinced there isnt and that is why the ME is looking for anything and everything that may explain this senseless tragedy.
Sometimes I think it is easier for some if they believe the issues were complex. They can draw some kind of comfort from that thinking it will not be repeated in the future due to the complexity of why it happened.
But I have looked at this case closely since Friday and I am now of the opinion this had nothing to do with mental illness but it was all about a young man who had had total control over his family especially his mother for most of his life.
But things were changing for Adam and Adam did not like the change, imo. His mother was taking much needed mini- breaks away from him now and wanting him to get out and go to college and build a life for himself. Imo, he saw it as a sign of betrayal and wanting to be rid of him because imo it is all about Adam to Adam. He probably thought at the time if he told her he wasnt going with her on her mini trips she would just stay behind but then she began to go whether he approved or not.
Life had always been centered around Adam since Adam was the child that was born different and needed and got all the attention...even from his oldest brother when he was living at home. Even when the divorce happened the most important issue it seems was all about Adam.
I think Adam used his Aspergers and intelligence as a tool to control his mother and for most of his life it had worked. Adam became very use to being coddled and cater to and he liked the power it gave him, imo.
More than anything when a mother births her child she prays that they are healthy both mentally and physically but if it should not happen and the child is 'different' then many moms can carry guilt as if it was their fault somehow even if it is not warranted. They will try to make ammends the rest of their lives to this child and try hard to see their life is filled with nothing but happiness and bliss. And sometimes they will let the child get away with things they shouldnt.
So Adam grew up knowing how to control his mother. He knew when to send her into deep worry by shutting down and refusing to speak even with her. He knew every trick in the book when it came to hurting her, imo.
It was Adam who bannished his father and refused to see him anymore. When Adam doesnt approve of something he lashes out and the punishment is severe like cutting all ties with his remarried father. IMO
To me this is what happened with his mother and why he murdered her. He knew he was losing his choking vice grip on his mom and his control. She is the only one he had left to boss around and control. And now she was daring to take mini-vacas instead of staying behind and doting on his every whim. How dare she do that to him... he thought , imo. So she too became expendable. He bannished her too for good because he isnt mentally ill but was another one that was filled with jealousy, hatred, and revenge who did the unthinkable.
I think he picked this school because he knew these targets would make the biggiest media firestorm where his name would be known forever.
Just my thoughts.