Silver Alert CT - Jennifer Dulos, 50, New Canaan, 24 May 2019 #15 *ARRESTS*

[Bulldogs2]

Just relooking at things, the article below says MT has a degree in psychology.

Estranged husband of missing Connecticut mom, and his new girlfriend, flaunted affair before she vanished

Lots of people take a psych major. Doesn’t mean they know anything about it...but they think they do

 

[citygirl]

Maybe you guys have read this article about FD in which he talks about himself and the company before but I haven’t. I found it interesting.

http://www.foregroupinc.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/03/HartMag10.pdf

Thank you! Great read.

 

[Bulldogs2]

Maybe you guys have read this article about FD in which he talks about himself and the company before but I haven’t. I found it interesting.

http://www.foregroupinc.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/03/HartMag10.pdf

God this makes me sick. An entrepreneur that left his lucrative consulting job. My a—. What it should say is he left his job and his first wife when a woman of more means came along and took 10 million dollars from his father in law to build overpriced boxes. This makes it seem like he’s a self made man. Sickening.

 

[enelram]

Totally agree. But I keep wondering about the fact that there was a very real wealth disparity in the relationship why was there no prenup that we have heard about in Family Court. Wonder if this was a source of anger in the family as well. Just keep thinking about this point and with the level of wealth involved within the family that a prenup would have been standard operating procedure. MOO but I'm baffled...was this a complete snow job by FD?

I've heard of people in these situations just
flat out refusing to sign a pre-nup, then what
does JD do? Back off? Give him his way?
That may have been his first "WIN".

 

[BellaVita]

Totally agree. But I keep wondering about the fact that there was a very real wealth disparity in the relationship why was there no prenup that we have heard about in Family Court. Wonder if this was a source of anger in the family as well. Just keep thinking about this point and with the level of wealth involved within the family that a prenup would have been standard operating procedure. MOO but I'm baffled...was this a complete snow job by FD?

I have no doubt that the state of his financial affairs was misrepresented. He had to marry her fast before he was found out. Yes, complete snow job. I know of a person who was renting a 600 square foot apartment and people believed him when he said he owned a multi million dollar commercial property. These were smart people and didn't even bother to look it up online. Easily verifiable. I am certain JD looked at FD as her protector. He told her she was the one he had been waiting for. She believed him. If you don't believe the person you marry, don't get married. That may have been her thoughts. MOO.

 

[citygirl]

Those who under estimate the power of a criminal court judge do so at their own peril. FD and his lawyer may be testing the waters, but they will discover they are in pot of boiling water if they rile this judge.

Love this!

 

[MemPat]

Any thoughts how the affair between FD and MT started? Research indicates it is not the sex, despite its lure. Something’s usually missing in the marriage that the cheater needs/wants. And finds it elsewhere. I have my own thoughts.

I would question that something is missing in the marriage when someone decides to cheat.

It's clear to me something is missing in the character and morality of the cheater.

 

[enelram]

I would question that something is missing in the marriage when someone decides to cheat.

It's clear to me something is missing in the character and morality of the cheater.

great point. And also this is why I can't get too upset about MT because......if MT didn't come along it would be Susie Q or Mary Lou or Betty
Boops..... He would have grabbed another one
if she didn't enter the picture.
I've had this talk with so many who were cheated on. I say, "the problem is with your
husband who decided to cheat", not with the
first bimbo he came upon who was 'willing.'

 

[Midwestmom2019]

I would question that something is missing in the marriage when someone decides to cheat.

It's clear to me something is missing in the character and morality of the cheater.

No question that you are correct. But many times it’s tied to some need. If a spouse is harassed, they want to get away and be with someone who doesn’t harass them. If they are made to feel insignificant, and useless, they might seek out someone who will boost their self esteem. Abandoned emotionally in some way. Or physically.
Anyway, just an inquiring mind. It could come in handy during the trial.

 

[BellaVita]

No question that you are correct. But many times it’s tied to some need. If a spouse is harassed, they want to get away and be with someone who doesn’t harass them. If they are made to feel insignificant, and useless, they might seek out someone who will boost their self esteem. Abandoned emotionally in some way. Or physically.
Anyway, just an inquiring mind. It could come in handy during the trial.

Are you saying that FD would be using these reasons as a defense for his involvement with MT? I think that's what you mean and of course, he will portray himself as a victim of JD. However, it is laughable to think that in reality, he could ever feel what you have described. And I'm pretty sure that's probably not what you meant.

 

[enelram]

No question that you are correct. But many times it’s tied to some need. If a spouse is harassed, they want to get away and be with someone who doesn’t harass them. If they are made to feel insignificant, and useless, they might seek out someone who will boost their self esteem. Abandoned emotionally in some way. Or physically.
Anyway, just an inquiring mind. It could come in handy during the trial.

FD was in a difficult time in 2016-2017, his humongous white elephant homes were not
selling, money coming in had slowed, wasn't paying his FIL on time, was traveling out of town or country 10 days a month, JD was
probably upset he wasn't applying himself to the family or marriage, or to his bills.
I think guys like FD get very angry and obsessed w/ revenge when the wife starts the
criticism about their income and behavior.
'Nobody backs FD in a corner.'

 

[enelram]

And another reason FD held JD in contempt,
she was so right when she wanted him to pull up stakes in Farmington and go into a better market for his expensive homes. She was right
all along. He had screwed up big time and couldn't admit it. the witch. that's what he thought.

 

[Deleted member 229974]

Lots of people take a psych major. Doesn’t mean they know anything about it...but they think they do

I bet she wishes she took Forensic Science.

 

[MemPat]

FD was in a difficult time in 2016-2017, his humongous white elephant homes were not
selling, money coming in had slowed, wasn't paying his FIL on time, was traveling out of town or country 10 days a month, JD was
probably upset he wasn't applying himself to the family or marriage, or to his bills.
I think guys like FD get very angry and obsessed w/ revenge when the wife starts the
criticism about their income and behavior.
'Nobody backs FD in a corner.'

As others have said here and I agree, FD went into the marriage as a gold digger.

He pursued Jennifer knowing of her desire for children and that she was concerned about her biological time clock ticking down.

He knew each child would grow the trust fund which funded his extravagant way of life so he was willing to have five of them. If they could give him excuses to ski and travel more, all the better.

He had no intention of ever using his own talents or (nonexistent) nest egg to build a business when he wooed this woman whose father would subsidize him.

When Jennifer was not willing to let him move his mistress into her home and his family loans were called in, when he might have to feed himself, when he was called on to report where all the Benjamins were going, he raged and murder was the result.

Entitlement never ends well.

 

[hivee]

Are you saying that FD would be using these reasons as a defense for his involvement with MT? I think that's what you mean and of course, he will portray himself as a victim of JD. However, it is laughable to think that in reality, he could ever feel what you have described. And I'm pretty sure that's probably not what you meant.

Right. This isn't a case of a husband unhappy in his marriage. This is an abuser. To abusers, it's another woman to have power over.
IMO.

 

[MemPat]

And one more thought...also in FD’s sister’s letter, she talks of how he wanted to be a father and caretaker from a young age. Thinking of that and his desire to win and be better than others, maybe his consuming passion to provide for the sister and his family is actually about his need to be a better caretaker and parent-like figure than she was—not saying she was bad but that he felt he had to prove he’s better. IMHO.

Narcissists spend their lives tearing other people down in order to build themselves up.

What they strip from others is what it takes to fill their empty holes.

I would argue that FD didn't have a need to BE a better caretaker and/or parent; he had a need to APPEAR to be better than Jennifer and still does.

How dare that woman get in the way of the facade he so carefully built! She made him furious and she had to get dead.

 

[enelram]

As others have said here and I agree, FD went into the marriage as a gold digger.

He pursued Jennifer knowing of her desire for children and that she was concerned about her biological time clock ticking down.

He knew each child would grow the trust fund which funded his extravagant way of life so he was willing to have five of them. If they could give him excuses to ski and travel more, all the better.

He had no intention of ever using his own talents or (nonexistent) nest egg to build a business when he wooed this woman whose father would subsidize him.

When Jennifer was not willing to let him move his mistress into her home and his family loans were called in, when he might have to feed himself, when he was called on to report where all the Benjamins were going, he raged and murder was the result.

Entitlement never ends well.

Greek Giggolo, Greek Giggolo.
I get some kind of perverse pleasure saying it, that's all.

 

[enelram]

As others have said here and I agree, FD went into the marriage as a gold digger.

He pursued Jennifer knowing of her desire for children and that she was concerned about her biological time clock ticking down.

He knew each child would grow the trust fund which funded his extravagant way of life so he was willing to have five of them. If they could give him excuses to ski and travel more, all the better.

He had no intention of ever using his own talents or (nonexistent) nest egg to build a business when he wooed this woman whose father would subsidize him.

When Jennifer was not willing to let him move his mistress into her home and his family loans were called in, when he might have to feed himself, when he was called on to report where all the Benjamins were going, he raged and murder was the result.

Entitlement never ends well.

FD was the proverbial Trust Fund Husband.
He could travel the world and be a playboy.
10 days every month. Let that sink in.
The money just kept rolling in. Let that sink
in, judge.
He was justa baby daddy but no real responsibilities. Take the boys traveling with you to play in Europe.
No problem, the bills get paid by JD and HF.
Don't wanna grow up, don't wanna grow up.

 

[3blue1pink]

great point. And also this is why I can't get too upset about MT because......if MT didn't come along it would be Susie Q or Mary Lou or Betty
Boops..... He would have grabbed another one
if she didn't enter the picture.
I've had this talk with so many who were cheated on. I say, "the problem is with your
husband who decided to cheat", not with the
first bimbo he came upon who was 'willing.'

I agree that if not MT then it would’ve been someone else . Doesn’t take away the fact that she and many more women that agree to be a mistress to a married man have zero morals and no respect for themselves . She is in it for the money too . You can bet your tushy that lover boy promised her the moon never intending to give her a spec of dust . Once he got JD out of the picture MT would’ve been kicked to the curb or worse when he was bored with her . IMO MT doesn’t get a pass for just being some other woman .... being a home wrecker is about as low as you can go , short of murder ... ahem cough cough ..... I wonder if she’s ever seen orange is the new black .... or in her case Ralph Lauren.

 

[afitzy]

I would question that something is missing in the marriage when someone decides to cheat.

It's clear to me something is missing in the character and morality of the cheater.

Yes, but I don't think the issues associated with having 5 children in quick succession is to be underestimated. It appears FD took the traditional "greek" hands off approach and left the childcare to JD and she seemed totally overwhelmed which is completely understandable IMO. Remember 2 sets of twins too! My suspicion is that the children as a collective unit and the associated caretaking needs completely overcame any relationship no matter how superficial between FD and JD.

There didn't appear to be any parenting partnership present at any level based on reading the JD blog IMO. It seems that the DV/Cycle of violence campaign must have started after the first twins arrived. So, can you imagine coping with twin infants and a 'partner' that is not present emotionally and is choosing to leave the house for 10 days a month? Play this scene forward for the rest of the children arriving and it must have been a horror show for JD even though she clearly loved her children.

JD was effectively a single parent "trapped" in a marriage IMO. MOO