Silver Alert CT - Jennifer Dulos, 50, New Canaan, 24 May 2019 #15 *ARRESTS*

[Jmoose]

I just realized something. When I read in the court documents about FD letting the kids drive his Porsche in the driveway, I was thinking a driveway just a few feet long. I guess it doesn’t make a huge difference but I bet the driveway was much longer than a few feet.

Not just on the driveway-in the street

 

[Eli9]

Not just on the driveway-in the street

And, IIRC he was doing it on purpose. Making a point to JD, he knew she disapproved.

 

[Tink56]

I've been trying to put together a timeline of MT's various positions, life, and when and where she became entangled with FD. No one seems to be able to state when her relationship with JD started.

One of the more shocking revelations in JD's divorce filing is the statement concerning spending weekends at JX with FD, MT, and her child. I can't comprehend the horror and outrage JD must have felt, but I can't fathom that MT could have gone along with this crazy scheme. FD to MT: "Hey, there are a lot of bedrooms in the house, so we can accommodate my current wife and our 5 kids here along with your daughter and you and I." Any other woman probably would have bailed at the suggestion. Now she's had to post bail.

Seriously, if MT was aware that FD suggested the above to Jennifer and didn't have serious thoughts about FD's morals and scruples and PEOPLE SENSE, she too must be as insufferable as FD.

FD is the classic youngest, charming manipulator child in a family. I imagine that the his older sister did everything for him. (BTW, where was mom??) Adler's birth order psychology might make FD an only or the youngest. Either way, this dynamic has potential to skew the kiddo's view of the world. Possible outcomes include:
"Wants to be bigger than the others. May have huge plans that never work out. Can stay the "baby." Frequently spoiled." or "Is more competitive, wants to overtake older child. May become a rebel or try to outdo everyone. Competition can deteriorate into rivalry." I wonder how often his sister let him "win."

From:
www.adlerian.us/birthord.htm

Some have wondered when FD began to "stray." I think some of the answers are in the blog. FD expected Jennifer to effortlessly take care of the 5 children and be there for him whenever he wanted. She alludes to this when blogging about her time in Greece where everyone stayed up late and then she had to get up early to care for the children. She wondered how they did that in Greece. MT was probably a lot more "fun." She only has one child who spends part of the year with her biological father. MT can party, stay up late, be at FD's beck and call, and be more spontaneous than a drudge with responsibilities to someone other than her irresponsible husband....just thinking aloud.....

 

[Eli9]

I've been trying to put together a timeline of MT's various positions, life, and when and where she became entangled with FD. No one seems to be able to state when her relationship with JD started.

One of the more shocking revelations in JD's divorce filing is the statement concerning spending weekends at JX with FD, MT, and her child. I can't comprehend the horror and outrage JD must have felt, but I can't fathom that MT could have gone along with this crazy scheme. FD to MT: "Hey, there are a lot of bedrooms in the house, so we can accommodate my current wife and our 5 kids here along with your daughter and you and I." Any pther woman probably would have bailed at the suggestion. Now she's had to post bail.

Seriously, if MT was aware that FD suggested the above to Jennifer and didn't have serious thoughts about FD's morals and scruples and PEOPLE SENSE, she too must be as insufferable as FD.

FD is the classic youngest, charming manipulator child in a family. I imagine that the his older sister did everything for him. (BTW, where was mom??) Adler's birth order psychology might make FD an only or the youngest. Either way, this dynamic has potential to skew the kiddo's view of the world. Possible outcomes include:
"Wants to be bigger than the others. May have huge plans that never work out. Can stay the "baby." Frequently spoiled." or "Is more competitive, wants to overtake older child. May become a rebel or try to outdo everyone. Competition can deteriorate into rivalry." I wonder how often his sister let him "win."

From:
www.adlerian.us/birthord.htm

Some have wondered when FD began to "stray." I think some of the answers are in the blog. FD expected Jennifer to effortlessly take care of the 5 children and be there for him whenever he wanted. She alludes to this when blogging about her time in Greece where everyone stayed up late and then she had to get up early to care for the children. She wondered how they did that in Greece. MT was probably a lot more "fun." She only has one child who spends part of the year with her biological father. MT can party, stay up late, be at FD's beck and call, and be more spontaneous than a drudge with responsibilities to someone other than her irresponsible husband....just thinking aloud.....

Jumping off your post
And JD began, subtly or not so subtly, voicing her objections to the massive amount of time spent on The Pond and the time spent behind the wheel of a moving vehicle. Remember the video of MT riding behind her daughter on the scooter? She was all in. IMO JD wanted her kids to be well rounded. FD wanted every one "under his wings" to be larger than life and for him to take the credit.

 

[citygirl]

Yes, but I don't think the issues associated with having 5 children in quick succession is to be underestimated. It appears FD took the traditional "greek" hands off approach and left the childcare to JD and she seemed totally overwhelmed which is completely understandable IMO.

I agree. I think she was overwhelmed and working so hard to keep the wheels in motion. She was killing herself, IMO. Ironically, just when things were getting easier, her youngest being 8 years old, he took her out. Painful to ponder

 

[BellaVita]

I doubt MT was the first. There is never "just one" with people like FD. If MT thinks he has been faithful to her, she is seriously deluded. I am shocked that no other women have surfaced yet. Super surprised no other women have stepped forward. They are out there.

 

[CTGrammy]

As others have said here and I agree, FD went into the marriage as a gold digger.

He pursued Jennifer knowing of her desire for children and that she was concerned about her biological time clock ticking down.

He knew each child would grow the trust fund which funded his extravagant way of life so he was willing to have five of them. If they could give him excuses to ski and travel more, all the better.

He had no intention of ever using his own talents or (nonexistent) nest egg to build a business when he wooed this woman whose father would subsidize him.

When Jennifer was not willing to let him move his mistress into her home and his family loans were called in, when he might have to feed himself, when he was called on to report where all the Benjamins were going, he raged and murder was the result.

Entitlement never ends well.

IMO, the Below Action by FD Says it All.

FD Quit his Paying Job as a Manager with Cap Gemini Ernst & Young, Immediately After Marrying JD.

Self Explanatory.

This position with the company would have, in of itself, made FD a Multi Millionaire, several times over. However, that was not enough for FD.

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In regards to the children's trust funds, IMO, they are safe and not even accessible or payable, until the children are of an adult age.

Even Jennifer did not have complete access to her own trust fund. It paid out $400,000.00 per year and not a penny more. There may be certain exceptions allowed, but Never full access.

Hilliard Farber did not get to where he was financially, by being stupid. IMO, he Protected the trust funds.

I am sure there are funding arrangements for the children's educations, but IMO, FD would Never have access to the trust funds. Ever.

Had Jennifer had greater access to her own trust fund, it would have been totally wiped out by FD.

All, IMO.

 

[BellaVita]

IMO, the Below Action by FD Says it All.

FD Quit his Paying Job as a Manager with Cap Gemini Ernst & Young, Immediately After Marrying JD.

Self Explanatory.

This position with the company would have, in of itself, made FD a Multi Millionaire, several times over. However, that was not enough for FD.

------------

In regards to the children's trust funds, IMO, they are safe and not even accessible or payable, until the children are of an adult age.

Even Jennifer did not have complete access to her own trust fund. It paid out $400,000.00 per year and not a penny more. There may be certain exceptions allowed, but Never full access.

Hilliard Farber did not get to where he was financially, by being stupid. IMO, he Protected the trust funds.

I am sure there are funding arrangements for the children's educations, but IMO, FD would Never have access to the trust funds. Ever.

Had Jennifer had greater access to her own trust fund, it would have been totally wiped out by FD.

All, IMO.

Of course he quit. FD types don't want to answer to anyone. He would have to be on their schedule. Self-employment is very appealing. It would not surprise me that JD was in agreement because I am sure it was framed that now their time together could not be dictated by his job. MOO.

 

[CTGrammy]

I've been trying to put together a timeline of MT's various positions, life, and when and where she became entangled with FD. No one seems to be able to state when her relationship with JD started.

One of the more shocking revelations in JD's divorce filing is the statement concerning spending weekends at JX with FD, MT, and her child. I can't comprehend the horror and outrage JD must have felt, but I can't fathom that MT could have gone along with this crazy scheme. FD to MT: "Hey, there are a lot of bedrooms in the house, so we can accommodate my current wife and our 5 kids here along with your daughter and you and I." Any other woman probably would have bailed at the suggestion. Now she's had to post bail.

Seriously, if MT was aware that FD suggested the above to Jennifer and didn't have serious thoughts about FD's morals and scruples and PEOPLE SENSE, she too must be as insufferable as FD.

FD is the classic youngest, charming manipulator child in a family. I imagine that the his older sister did everything for him. (BTW, where was mom??) Adler's birth order psychology might make FD an only or the youngest. Either way, this dynamic has potential to skew the kiddo's view of the world. Possible outcomes include:
"Wants to be bigger than the others. May have huge plans that never work out. Can stay the "baby." Frequently spoiled." or "Is more competitive, wants to overtake older child. May become a rebel or try to outdo everyone. Competition can deteriorate into rivalry." I wonder how often his sister let him "win."

From:
www.adlerian.us/birthord.htm

Some have wondered when FD began to "stray." I think some of the answers are in the blog. FD expected Jennifer to effortlessly take care of the 5 children and be there for him whenever he wanted. She alludes to this when blogging about her time in Greece where everyone stayed up late and then she had to get up early to care for the children. She wondered how they did that in Greece. MT was probably a lot more "fun." She only has one child who spends part of the year with her biological father. MT can party, stay up late, be at FD's beck and call, and be more spontaneous than a drudge with responsibilities to someone other than her irresponsible husband....just thinking aloud.....

Don't forget that FD was also the Only Male Child who also happened to be the only baby of the family, with the sister being 13 years older.

Male children in a Male Dominated Society, are doted upon, praised incessantly, and are taught that Only the male children are special. The female children will Always take a back seat, even when the male child is 13 years younger.

These societies are teaching young boys to be Entitled, Spoiled, Brats, who pitch 'tantrums' when they do not get their own way.

Unfortunately, FD's 'tantrum' has resulted in the disappearance of a beautiful mother of 5 young children.

All IMO.

 

[Tink56]

IMO, the Below Action by FD Says it All.

FD Quit his Paying Job as a Manager with Cap Gemini Ernst & Young, Immediately After Marrying JD.

Self Explanatory.

This position with the company would have, in of itself, made FD a Multi Millionaire, several times over. However, that was not enough for FD.

------------

In regards to the children's trust funds, IMO, they are safe and not even accessible or payable, until the children are of an adult age.

Even Jennifer did not have complete access to her own trust fund. It paid out $400,000.00 per year and not a penny more. There may be certain exceptions allowed, but Never full access.

Hilliard Farber did not get to where he was financially, by being stupid. IMO, he Protected the trust funds.

I am sure there are funding arrangements for the children's educations, but IMO, FD would Never have access to the trust funds. Ever.

Had Jennifer had greater access to her own trust fund, it would have been totally wiped out by FD.

All, IMO.

Pretty clear....Didn't Fore Group start before he married JD, however. I really don't remember.

 

[Deleted member 229974]

Not just on the driveway-in the street

Child endangerment but thinks he’s above the law.

 

[BellaVita]

Don't forget that FD was also the Only Male Child who also happened to be the only baby of the family, with the sister being 13 years older.

Male children in a Male Dominated Society, are doted upon, praised incessantly, and are taught that Only the male children are special. The female children will Always take a back seat, even when the male child is 13 years younger.

These societies are teaching young boys to be Entitled, Spoiled, Brats, who pitch 'tantrums' when they do not get their own way.

Unfortunately, FD's 'tantrum' has resulted in the disappearance of a beautiful mother of 5 young children.

All IMO.

In a Male Dominated Society, outsiders, even the spouse, or especially the spouse, are typically excluded in a glaringly obvious way.

 

[Deleted member 229974]

I've heard of people in these situations just
flat out refusing to sign a pre-nup, then what
does JD do? Back off? Give him his way?
That may have been his first "WIN".

I wonder what Jennifer’s father thought of FD and if he ever tried to dissuade her from marrying him.

 

[Deleted member 229974]

I would question that something is missing in the marriage when someone decides to cheat.

It's clear to me something is missing in the character and morality of the cheater.

Well I’ve always heard, an affair is not the reason fo, but rather a symptom of an unhappy marriage.

I doubt MT was the first. There is never "just one" with people like FD. If MT thinks he has been faithful to her, she is seriously deluded. I am shocked that no other women have surfaced yet. Super surprised no other women have stepped forward. They are out there.

IMO, women like MT don’t care if there are other women.
They allow themselves to be used because they're desperate and will do and take whatever for the chance that they could possibly benefit in some way.

 

[MemPat]

Totally agree. But I keep wondering about the fact that there was a very real wealth disparity in the relationship why was there no prenup that we have heard about in Family Court. Wonder if this was a source of anger in the family as well. Just keep thinking about this point and with the level of wealth involved within the family that a prenup would have been standard operating procedure. MOO but I'm baffled...was this a complete snow job by FD?

If the money was all in a trust, would the income from it even be considered marital property?

Maybe all the household bills were just sent to the trustee?

It seems if that's the case, FD's only hope would be getting control of the income from the children's part of the trust and that would only happen with partial or full custody.

 

[HopeForTheBest]

Can I ask? I wonder what her parents thought about him. I hope this remark isn’t me sleuthing against the rules.

Somewhere in the mainstream media information is a statement by someone (gosh, am I precise!) saying that they didn’t know quite what to think of him.

 

[HopeForTheBest]

Thank you! Great read.

My pleasure! I’m glad I could contribute something! I thought it was interesting, too.

 

[HopeForTheBest]

Not just on the driveway-in the street

In a Porsche—undoubtedly much faster and sensitive to a driver’s every move than some old broken-down truck on Grandpa’s farm.

 

[HopeForTheBest]

Pretty clear....Didn't Fore Group start before he married JD, however. I really don't remember.

Huh. I know the answer is here somewhere...I didn’t think that was so but even if so, I think it’s odd to name half a company after your sister unless maybe she invested in it. So maybe it’s not so odd. Yes, that’s right; as much as I don’t want to do it, when I think FD deserves the benefit of the doubt, I can give it. Fortunately, the facts and my opinions (MOO) don’t often require me to do so.

 

[Midwestmom2019]

Are you saying that FD would be using these reasons as a defense for his involvement with MT? I think that's what you mean and of course, he will portray himself as a victim of JD. However, it is laughable to think that in reality, he could ever feel what you have described. And I'm pretty sure that's probably not what you meant.

You are correct in that it’s not probable, (maybe not laughable, IMO,) that FD had any unmet needs. At least in light of all the alleged mental issues he appears to be suffering he had no feelings for anyone.
But:
JD was known to have belittled his choice in living in Farmington rather than NC. In front of the children. The better area. She had commented he was not making any/enough money and should be supporting his family. More than once according to previous posts here on WS.
So MT stepped in to feed his ego. At just about the right time.
Remember the photo op of Fore Group with the certificates of the various awards? Builder of the Year. Best House Plan, whatever they were. MT was right there with FD and several employees basking in the limelight. And deservedly so. It’s no mean feat to win that many awards whether he was funded by Hilliard Farber or not. Back then, he had made serious profit on a number of sales. And was paying back the funds that were made available through Hilliard Farber’s benevolence.
Remember FD had a finance degree, I believe it was an MBA. Prestigious school. And Hilliard Farber was a financial man as well.
FD may or may not have felt some emotional void, but knowing what I think I know about spouses that cheat, I would at least consider it as part of my strategy. Both in family court and criminal court. Shifting at least some of the “fault” i.e. reasons for cheating to JD and her mental state. That’s why NP is desperate to get all of the medical information he possibly can gather. He has to create doubt. Enough to defeat beyond reasonable doubt, the level that the prosecutor must meet and hopefully can exceed in securing a conviction.
IMO.