Silver Alert CT - Jennifer Dulos, 50, New Canaan, 24 May 2019 *ARRESTS* #29

[Outforjustice]

Foreclosure case update: 10.16.19 Part 2

MOTION FOR DEFAULT 106.00 -FAILURE TO APPEAR PB 17-20: DENIED
http://civilinquiry.jud.ct.gov/DocumentInquiry/DocumentInquiry.aspx?DocumentNo=17930661
http://civilinquiry.jud.ct.gov/DocumentInquiry/DocumentInquiry.aspx?DocumentNo=17876466

I interpret this order as a technicality over a loss in that Judge Noble has yet to be assigned to the case, FD had a random atty file an appearance, and Weinstein has filed 2 motions now to keep firing on all cylinders:
1. Motion 108.00- DEMAND FOR DISCLOSURE OF DEFENSE http://civilinquiry.jud.ct.gov/DocumentInquiry/DocumentInquiry.aspx?DocumentNo=17900720
(which gives FD 10 days to respond with a defense-due 10.23.19-if the court counts 10 days as 10 business days)
2. Motion 109.00-AMENDED COMPLAINT
http://civilinquiry.jud.ct.gov/DocumentInquiry/DocumentInquiry.aspx?DocumentNo=17947294

*FD was to respond to Foreclosure by 10.1.19, he didn't
*Weinstein files Motion for Default 106.00 on 10.4.19
*FD's attorney filed an appearance on 10.4.19
*I believe Weinstein filed the amended complaint today (posted in another thread) because of the above.
*This order was JUST posted/updated.
*Weinstein requested assignment of this case to Judge Noble on 10.8.19-Motion 107.00. Today's order was denied by the clerk (which is the first time I've seen this)

107.00 Caseflow request for Judge Noble: http://civilinquiry.jud.ct.gov/DocumentInquiry/DocumentInquiry.aspx?DocumentNo=17897274

It’s all SHOCKING!
FD Has an Attorney file an Apperance at the witching hour , Clerk denies GF’s Motion , FD doesn’t respond to Foreclosure Motion so, GF has to spend MORE money in Attorney fee’s to go after him AGAIN!
FD Hasn’t paid his Mortgage in a year YET living rent free .
WTF is going ON ! WTF

 

[Alathea]

s/bbm

Yes, the comment you refer to was made by the prior Judge as well as Judge Heller. Judge Heller also actually went one step further and made reference to children needing a relationship with their father I believe and this I believe was said after she labels him a habitual liar. I'm not sure all psychologists would agree with the need for parental relationships that are potentially damaging and/or potentially dangerous to children and/or STBX.
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JF and FD aside I think what hit me the hardest was the lack of focus on the children by the Judge and GAL. The leaked psych report had information about the children as well as the rest of the family. The idea that GAL Meehan has not been terminated for his role in this deep breech of protocol and violation of privacy is something I simply cannot understand.

I get that big money divorces in CT represent a 'gravy train' for all professionals involved and so they almost become like 'coliseum events' and can easily go off the rails if not controlled by the Court IMO. For the life of me I do not understand if any Judge believed the FD mistruths about the financial disclosure then why not do something to compel disclosure? We saw no consequences so far as I am aware imposed on FD. We saw FD not pay any support to his 5 children and we saw JF paying to support the entire family, including FD. Why was this permitted to happen by the Court.

I've been thinking a lot about motive in this case and every time my brain heads in the direction of Family Court. IDK much about Family Court and so its impossible to know if the issues we see there are simply how things usually work or if what happened in the Dulos case was sadly Judge and/or system related? IDK and I'm not sure how much value there is at this point trying to sort it all out as it won't bring JF back but perhaps it might help others in the future. Again, IDK.

Clearly we don't have the entire picture of the lives of JF and FD and their children so perhaps we will learn more in the coming months on other issues that might have contributed to motive. IDK.

MOO

"IDK much about Family Court and so its impossible to know if the issues we see there are simply how things usually work or if what happened in the Dulos case was sadly Judge and/or system related?"
I do know about CT family court, and I'd say this case has suffered many lapses of justice and judgement (the latter in more kinds than one). The fact that FD wasn't required to show his financial info - to a detailed degree - is bizarre, for starters, and it's a big starter.

It stems from the fact that, when a woman has money, the courts seem to protect her less. It's a backwards fact, rooted in sexism, and not worth the discussion here.

"I'm not sure how much value there is at this point trying to sort it all out as it won't bring JF back but perhaps it might help others in the future. Again, IDK."
Helping others in the future is worth it. It needs to be pointed out that there were issues that were dealt with carelessly, to say the least.

 

[Alathea]

Just shows ignorance comes in all professions. Could be willful ignorance. No excuse.

CT Judges need more training on the topic of DV. This article was written 2 years ago today. I hope things have changed, but I doubt it:

Strengthen domestic violence training for Connecticut's judges
"The National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges has operated the National Judicial Institute on Domestic Violence in partnership with the U.S. Department of Justice Office on Violence Against Women since 1998. Only five of Connecticut’s 288 judges have participated in this free training since 2007. This training provides advanced education on domestic violence to specifically help judges better identify relevant facts and make decisions that help keep domestic violence victims and their children safe, while holding violent persons accountable."

 

[dkryder]

i came across this article during a search. it was not in the media thread as far as i could tell so i added it. also, if this has been posted, [i do not recall seeing it] my apologies.
Did You Hear … ?

More than half of the 32 ‘Justice for Jennifer’ rocks placed around New Canaan have disappeared, according to a note left at our Elm Street office.

A ‘Justice for Jennifer’ rock outside the New Canaan Police Department.

Created in support of Jennifer Dulos, a local mom of five that’s been missing since May 24 and is presumed deceased, the anonymously painted rocks have been placed at public buildings such as Town Hall and the New Canaan Police Department. They are not collectors’ items, the note said. On Sept. 27, which would have been Dulos’s 51st birthday, a statement issued on behalf of her family said, “The heartbreak goes on even as time moves forward.”

 

[Alathea]

IMO the divorce wasn't over because FD didn't want the divorce over. Control is his currency. Well, control and money, other people's money. It wasn't enough for FD to have his mistress and move on; he HAD to win, and winning meant making sure JF lost. To hurt her, punish her. Just like she said he would. It's all so very sad that he was allowed to bully her through the court system. It's wicked, to attempt to wear down, wear out the woman who was raising the children. And now he's doing the same to GF. He's exhausting. But why WOULDN'T he have every confidence he'll waltz through all these proceedings as he always has? There's teflon in that lucky vintage velvet jacket of his. But he's wrong. Jennifer is going to get the final word this time.
MOO

Well said!

 

[Alathea]

Wouldn’t you think, with that much money on the line, that he could have kept it in his pants? Is any sidepiece really, really worth it? Could MT possibly be that compelling for someone who is as shallow as FD appears to be?

Perhaps if she were somehow helping him obtain that money... just a thought.

 

[Southernsnooper]

It’s all SHOCKING!
FD Has an Attorney file an Apperance at the witching hour , Clerk denies GF’s Motion , FD doesn’t respond to Foreclosure Motion so, GF has to spend MORE money in Attorney fee’s to go after him AGAIN!
FD Hasn’t paid his Mortgage in a year YET living rent free .
WTF is going ON ! WTF

Seriously!!! ITA!!!

Are they all corrupt? They must be. There is no other explanation of how this charade continues motion after motion! FD and his attorneys pulled the same charade in family court for years that resulted in an amazing woman’s death. She was battling in court for YEARS! This is repulsive!
Moo

 

[acutename]

Agree with both of you. Plenty of blame to go around but it's particularly maddening how ineffective Judge Heller was. She completely failed Jennifer imo. That being said, I also think it was nutty for both JD & FD to have kept the "game" going for as long as it did & fault was on both sides. The only winners in these crazy protracted divorce cases are the lawyers. Attorneys for both sides should have put a stop to this and worked towards a timely resolution. I wonder if anyone else in their social sphere was encouraging this as well - family, therapists, friends etc.

whether she expressed it or not, JD must have been angry to have been courted, impregnated 5x, and then tossed aside by FD. we know also that she spent her life making concessions and allowances for his demands, and trying to protect the children from his demands on them, so I am not sure that she could have "ended" the divorce proceedings. It seems, in retrospect, that once JD lost her father, the check that he exerted on FD was gone and FD became unhinged. On paper he was still an individual with multiple degrees and something of a business- not sure the judiciary could predict that he would do what he did. I wonder if JD confronted him or if he hid and jumped her. It seems that if she had stayed locked in her car, she might have been better off. He also could have tricked her by saying that he lost something and just needed to look for it or said some other ordinary thing and then turned on her. As much as people have said that she feared him and stated that she feared him, I wonder if she had begun to believe that things actually would settle down in some way or if she never felt any sense of relief or safety.

 

[Alathea]

whether she expressed it or not, JD must have been angry to have been courted, impregnated 5x, and then tossed aside by FD. we know also that she spent her life making concessions and allowances for his demands, and trying to protect the children from his demands on them, so I am not sure that she could have "ended" the divorce proceedings. It seems, in retrospect, that once JD lost her father, the check that he exerted on FD was gone and FD became unhinged. On paper he was still an individual with multiple degrees and something of a business- not sure the judiciary could predict that he would do what he did. I wonder if JD confronted him or if he hid and jumped her. It seems that if she had stayed locked in her car, she might have been better off. He also could have tricked her by saying that he lost something and just needed to look for it or said some other ordinary thing and then turned on her. As much as people have said that she feared him and stated that she feared him, I wonder if she had begun to believe that things actually would settle down in some way or if she never felt any sense of relief or safety.

JD said more than once that she was in fear for her life; I seriously doubt that changed; if anything, the feeling likely exacerbated with time. Women who have lived with abusers (even emotional abusers) come to know the honeymoon periods and lulls as just that - she'd been married long enough to know that a quiet period just meant he was cooking something up. She knew him far better than we do. She fled in fear for her life. If she had lived another 20 or 40 years, it's likely that fear would stay. (I have studied DV for 30+ years so I know this to be true.)

LE has stated that he "lay in wait," or something to that effect, so it seems most likely she was caught off guard. He seems to have planned it, to enough of a degree that she got out of her car, but we don't know the details yet.

It's important to remember that having law degrees and a business, real or not, does not preclude one from a propensity to violence. In fact, professional men in wealthy areas are likely 'getting away with' more DV than those without degrees in poorer areas. It's the suburban myth that such marriages are faultless and DV-less.

Moo.

 

[Alathea]

Agree with both of you. Plenty of blame to go around but it's particularly maddening how ineffective Judge Heller was. She completely failed Jennifer imo. That being said, I also think it was nutty for both JD & FD to have kept the "game" going for as long as it did & fault was on both sides. The only winners in these crazy protracted divorce cases are the lawyers. Attorneys for both sides should have put a stop to this and worked towards a timely resolution. I wonder if anyone else in their social sphere was encouraging this as well - family, therapists, friends etc.

I don't see how it was a "game" for JD to be protecting her children from someone she knew to be dangerous. She knew better than anyone. No one in the court system listened. All she did was try to protect those kids - her pleadings, from what I have seen, were hardly frivolous or selfish.

 

[Myvice]

Could the judges and attorneys be giving RW a hard time because they feel like he thinks he's better than them, being a big time NY attorney? Well, I guess they were doing the same thing in the KW divorce so probably not.

Would it help if people started writing letters to the editor of area newspapers or bloggers about the inefficiency of the justice system and the cost to taxpayers when cases take so long to come to resolution? Isn't it a judges job to keep things moving along and not waste the courts time?

Are the judges there elected or selected?

MOO

 

[BellaVita]

whether she expressed it or not, JD must have been angry to have been courted, impregnated 5x, and then tossed aside by FD. we know also that she spent her life making concessions and allowances for his demands, and trying to protect the children from his demands on them, so I am not sure that she could have "ended" the divorce proceedings. It seems, in retrospect, that once JD lost her father, the check that he exerted on FD was gone and FD became unhinged. On paper he was still an individual with multiple degrees and something of a business- not sure the judiciary could predict that he would do what he did. I wonder if JD confronted him or if he hid and jumped her. It seems that if she had stayed locked in her car, she might have been better off. He also could have tricked her by saying that he lost something and just needed to look for it or said some other ordinary thing and then turned on her. As much as people have said that she feared him and stated that she feared him, I wonder if she had begun to believe that things actually would settle down in some way or if she never felt any sense of relief or safety.

ALL OF THIS. Here i quote you:As much as people have said that she feared him and stated that she feared him, I wonder if she had begun to believe that things actually would settle down in some way or if she never felt any sense of relief or safety.
Some time ago, I posted essentially the same thing. It's very confusing when everything you believed to be true is discovered to be a lie. There are 2 competing beliefs in your head. It's called Cognitive Dissonance. In the field of psychology, cognitive dissonance is the mental discomfort experienced by a person who holds two or more contradictory beliefs, ideas, or values. This discomfort is triggered by a situation in which a person's belief clashes with new evidence perceived by the person.

One moment, you fully understand your spouse is a monster. The next moment, you question if he's really that bad. You can feel in your bones that he wants to kill you and know how it'll happen. Or you know he was the cause of the malfunction in your electric meter. Then, a couple months later, you see his number pop up. You think it might be to apologize after all this time. But it's not the reason. Silly you. I think hope springs eternal for a long time that the monster will give you closure and let you know you had some value. So, yes, I can totally believe that she may have had her guard down and had hope that things would improve. Maybe he even told her he jogged over from Sturbridge or WP. All IMO.
ETA: I think it's easier to abandon good thoughts of somebody who's beaten you physically. It's so black and white. Emotional abuse is so much harder. Just so many unresolved answers until you can actually process it. JMO.

 

[tmar]

So, you know how it can seem like JD’s remains never will be found? My son lost his wallet in June and we thought it was in one of these little shops in a nearby town where it’s always busy with locals and others or in our house or car. We searched, and searched. And searched. No one in the stores had seen it. Replaced all the items, which was not fun. Today, the police department called me to say that someone in one of the little stores had found it on the floor when the person was sweeping. Nothing was missing. It was there right under dozens of noses every day. Apparently they don’t sweep a lot there but still. Serendipity. There’s hope! MOO.

What a great story.
I have lost wallets in the past, and hope, with your story, they could be found.
Now regarding JD's remains, if found, imagine the following news reports etc, ESPECIALLY the look on FD's face.
We will have that pic framed, as we throw darts, during the coming trial.
MOO.

 

[Morgan10028]

I unfortunately have learned a great deal about defaults in the past 2 weeks for reasons unrelated to this case. Courts don't like defaults. The defendant is given every opportunity to defend. The defendant's motions can be insufficient legally and just told to go ahead, fix it and the court will proceed after that. Trial courts hate handing out defaults unless every possible remedy to the defendant has been made available.

Same. I have also learned a lot about defaults unrelated to this case...or me personally, though someone close to me. The case I am personally close to doesn't involve anything NEAR what FD did in continuing to live the high life and just deciding to not pay a $2.3m mortgage because he thought he could get away with it. In FD's case, I don't feel for him at all.

On the other hand, I do hope that the courts work in the favor of fixing defaults for those truly struggling to right a wrong or injustice (which is closer to the case I know personally). I wish the court had a harder time handing out a default in the case I know, and it's now in the process of being undone...fingers crossed.

With FD, I don't believe he ever planned on having to pay his mortgage and took the easy route from day 1. That's a definitive line for me and I do hope the court serves up due justice in his case.

 

[Nowsouthofmasondixonline]

So angry and frustrated with the court system. Those of of us who knew JD know she was a dedicated mother of 5....humble, sweet. And self deprecating....those same people know fd....the complete opposite...arrogant, rude, opinionated, and even mean spirited...,the fact that after almost 4 months that he is not behind bars for a murder that ALL know he committed is simply wrong....why doesn’t he have to file tax returns? Why doesn’t he have to pay back the Farbers for the money he owes them? Why is he allowed to not pay for any of the 5 children’s expenses while he has a live in girlfriend,,travels the world 1/3 of the month, and now pays for multiple attorneys....what is wrong with this picture......????he discards this wonderful woman’s bloody clothing & clean up materials along Albany Ave?? He claims to have no money in the divorce to take care of his 5 children? He moves his mistress into a house his in-laws are paying for & this woman can’t even afford her own car???? Jennifer was one of the kindness, gentleness, awesome people I met in my 4 years in Ct....her life revolved around her 5 children...why is this monster and his “monster mistress” allowed to roam free....why aren’t they in prison. His domestic violence alone much less his unwillingness to support his children is abusive. His being allowed to “roam free” when everyone in Ct knows he killed his wife is crazy. I left Ct because of the crazy taxes but I am embarrassed that I lived there knowing they are allowing this monster...FD to live outside of prison. When I read his “ridiculous” attention seeking attorney’s fake claims....I’m embarrassed and humiliated that I lived for 4 years in a state that actually condone this crazy/unethical behavior and does nothing to stop it. I am complete embarrassed that I lived in the state of Ct but am so thankful that I got a chance to know someone as wonderful as JD.

 

[Outforjustice]

Could the judges and attorneys be giving RW a hard time because they feel like he thinks he's better than them, being a big time NY attorney? Well, I guess they were doing the same thing in the KW divorce so probably not.

Would it help if people started writing letters to the editor of area newspapers or bloggers about the inefficiency of the justice system and the cost to taxpayers when cases take so long to come to resolution? Isn't it a judges job to keep things moving along and not waste the courts time?

Are the judges there elected or selected?


MOO

It would help if some investigative reporter (Which Don’t seem to exist anymore) wrote an expose on corruption in the Connecticut Court system.

JD’s plight has been written about in various local publications but , NOONE seems willing or able to peel the Onion
to find the stink.

 

[tmar]

So angry and frustrated with the court system. Those of of us who knew JD know she was a dedicated mother of 5....humble, sweet. And self deprecating....those same people know fd....the complete opposite...arrogant, rude, opinionated, and even mean spirited...,the fact that after almost 4 months that he is not behind bars for a murder that ALL know he committed is simply wrong....why doesn’t he have to file tax returns? Why doesn’t he have to pay back the Farbers for the money he owes them? Why is he allowed to not pay for any of the 5 children’s expenses while he has a live in girlfriend,,travels the world 1/3 of the month, and now pays for multiple attorneys....what is wrong with this picture......????he discards this wonderful woman’s bloody clothing & clean up materials along Albany Ave?? He claims to have no money in the divorce to take care of his 5 children? He moves his mistress into a house his in-laws are paying for & this woman can’t even afford her own car???? Jennifer was one of the kindness, gentleness, awesome people I met in my 4 years in Ct....her life revolved around her 5 children...why is this monster and his “monster mistress” allowed to roam free....why aren’t they in prison. His domestic violence alone much less his unwillingness to support his children is abusive. His being allowed to “roam free” when everyone in Ct knows he killed his wife is crazy. I left Ct because of the crazy taxes but I am embarrassed that I lived there knowing they are allowing this monster...FD to live outside of prison. When I read his “ridiculous” attention seeking attorney’s fake claims....I’m embarrassed and humiliated that I lived for 4 years in a state that actually condone this crazy/unethical behavior and does nothing to stop it. I am complete embarrassed that I lived in the state of Ct but am so thankful that I got a chance to know someone as wonderful as JD.

What a wonderful post, and WELCOME Nowsouthofmasondixonline.
It is so good to hear info about JD, from a friend.
JD is lucky to have known you.
Here, there are so many, who agree with 'why FD is not behind bars'.
Surely the ridiculous tactics used by FD, and his lawyers will come to an end.
It appears MT is along for this ugly ride.
When all these slimeballs, fall of the slide, we will be cheering, with you being there.
MOO.

 

[Tink56]

Same. I have also learned a lot about defaults unrelated to this case...or me personally, though someone close to me. The case I am personally close to doesn't involve anything NEAR what FD did in continuing to live the high life and just deciding to not pay a $2.3m mortgage because he thought he could get away with it. In FD's case, I don't feel for him at all.

On the other hand, I do hope that the courts work in the favor of fixing defaults for those truly struggling to right a wrong or injustice (which is closer to the case I know personally). I wish the court had a harder time handing out a default in the case I know, and it's now in the process of being undone...fingers crossed.

With FD, I don't believe he ever planned on having to pay his mortgage and took the easy route from day 1. That's a definitive line for me and I do hope the court serves up due justice in his case.

The particularly abhorrent part of FD's brazen behavior is the fact that he quit paying the mortgage after he and JFD separated, but didn't have a problem inviting another woman and child into the home the Farber's help provide for their daughter and grandchildren. FD would never have been able to afford his "dream" of becoming a "builder" without his in-laws and he had no respect for their welfare or economic standing. People in their 80's tend to be concerned about the future and their ability to provide something for their children and grandchildren, if possible. FD's behavior toward their daughter and his children was cruel. His lack of financial responsibility a shows a lack of character and responsibility. All this is IMO, MOO, but I simply have no respect for someone who blatantly disrespects others and shows no moral fortitude...he's shown sexism, violence, age-ism, no regard for his children, and no respect for his children's grandmother.

The CT court system is absolutely mystifying. Hopefully having one judge handling the combined cases will speed the process.

It's simple to me....FD owes GF a lot of money. He owes others a lot of money, too. He's spending lots of money on lawyers and investigators. He can solve his problems by settling the civil case, giving up his dream house (maybe a couple of others, too), so he can leave some legacy to his children. He needs to begin dusting off his losses, and putting his energies into trying to make up a better story to defend his heinous actions in the disappearance and murder of his wife. Be a man FD!

 

[Jen3135]

Wouldn’t you think, with that much money on the line, that he could have kept it in his pants? Is any sidepiece really, really worth it? Could MT possibly be that compelling for someone who is as shallow as FD appears to be?

I think he became more controlling, dominating over time. I think in the beginning she was willing to bend to his every wish, and he probably wasn't as controlling, but slowly over time she gave up everything she enjoyed to please him. Then when you have children, 5 no less, he is no longer the center of attention (rightfully so) and at some point she did not have any energy left to keep going along with his maniac, jet setting way of life. And probably started staying behind with the kids more (its exhausting to drag kids on one vacation after another, one outing after the next, then expect her to party all night with him) Once she pulled back he kept going out. Getting bolder. Ego. Attention seeker. Narcissist. MOO

 

[acutename]

JD said more than once that she was in fear for her life; I seriously doubt that changed; if anything, the feeling likely exacerbated with time. Women who have lived with abusers (even emotional abusers) come to know the honeymoon periods and lulls as just that - she'd been married long enough to know that a quiet period just meant he was cooking something up. She knew him far better than we do. She fled in fear for her life. If she had lived another 20 or 40 years, it's likely that fear would stay. (I have studied DV for 30+ years so I know this to be true.)

LE has stated that he "lay in wait," or something to that effect, so it seems most likely she was caught off guard. He seems to have planned it, to enough of a degree that she got out of her car, but we don't know the details yet.

It's important to remember that having law degrees and a business, real or not, does not preclude one from a propensity to violence. In fact, professional men in wealthy areas are likely 'getting away with' more DV than those without degrees in poorer areas. It's the suburban myth that such marriages are faultless and DV-less.

Moo.

there wasn't any DV court record, right? FWIW, possibly nothing, judges rely on that. Does make me wonder if he injured her before and she never reported anything. The fact that GF immediately hired an armed guard tells me something.