Okay, co-sleuthers,
It is time for me to take a break from this case.
I feel like there is a great deal of ignorance about unconscious misogyny in this group. Paradoxically, this is a group that detests overt misogyny and domestic violence.
I feel like that ignorance about misogyny has led to a situation where we are supporting the very institutions that helped kill Jennifer.
Misogyny is present when we use the word "ho."
It is present when We snicker at "art" photos. It is present when we can't even see that the person who (with his wife) owned the house and controlled the salary for a dubious job is far more powerful than a person who moved in without a lease and is the employee, not the boss.
There is no amount of erotic magic that can erase the fact that the home owner can evict at will, and the boss can fire at will. And it is dubious to argue that anybody could credibly be said to be endowed with the erotic magic to control a person like Fotis. Withholding sex is hardly a match to ability to evict and/or fire from a job.
Giving a female person that much power where it does not exist is a way to perpetuate misogyny.
A person who has, admittedly through free choices, put herself in a position where she has no control over housing or employment is vulnerable. There is no other word for it.
A person who is vulnerable can be a murderer. In this case, the vulnerable person I am describing is IMO.
Describing her as vulnerable is not making an excuse for her. But, refusing to recognize the vulnerability is perpetuating misogyny.
With that, I leave this thread for now. I am aware that this might be good news to some, and pretty unimportant to most. For me, it is sad.
WS is refreshingly victim friendly compared to SM. I do want to stay and support Jennifer, but it can't be done on this thread. Misogyny plays a big part in her murder. Misogyny is perpetuated on this thread. It feels impossible to me, then, to be fully supportive here.
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