AstroKitty
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I think when that was said it was a slip of the tongue, I don't think they realize what they just said. KWIM? I think this implies that Relisha's mother has a habit of lying and this time she's telling the truth.. at least lately she is.
I really have this case on my mind, because I have seen many women like Re's mom. Most are previous foster care or state taken kids, most are bi-polar with substance abuse issues *self medicating as there's a huge stigma in the aa community about being mentally ill* and all are sexually abused growing up. I noticed that most have a strained relationship with their daughters but a powerful one with their sons, I think this dynamic has a lot to do with their inner feelings for their own mom and that fractured relationship. The cycle if you will. Often the daughters are pimped out, abused and seen as competition by the mother - often this is the 1st born and typically when they were young themselves.
I'm thinking in Re's case this is probably the background but of course we have no idea. Just basing off of 1st impressions of her mother, step-father - what they have to say, how they present themselves and the mothers' face... I would say I'm spot on. The step-father is confusing but that IS the same guy as 2011 right? The boys' father? He looks totally different and it's not in a good way. I think both parents are under 25 yet they look mid 30's right now. Granted they've had it rough and that does something to you - but they have not been neglected by the system .. so they shouldn't look so unhealthy. People can say what they will about gov assistance (I'm of the minority that thinks if you're using it right - then you should have it. I don't care.) and this is obviously a family that utilized every avenue it provided; the kids are very clean, well fed and appear to be happy - smiling children that are reaping the benefits of what these programs are set out to do. If anything - Re's mother did the right thing by being on assistance because this allowed the children that safety net - comfort and reliance of medical care, education, food in the fridge and some form of shelter.
It's very telling that re's mom needed places to stay but her children were always able to be handed off and cared for. this says that SHE wasn't wanted by the same families. You'd think at least 1 of the families taking the kids would allow mom to stay too..
So basically this is a case of the system working and working well - what failed is mom. She didn't seem to be mentally or emotionally involved. The social workers seemed kinda aware of that and that's why they were so pro-active. If you notice, moms' activity online has dropped off since the very day Re went missing. The very day. The rest of the family is pleading online for her safe return and rather upset, citing that Re's mom is not telling the entire truth. For a woman vocal about getting laid, getting high, spending money and disappointment with her guy .. she's not very vocal about the most upsetting issue in her entire world/life.
I could go on and on and on and on. I don't want this to turn out to be full of stereotypes of welfare, teen moms, too many kids and no education - because she did some very right things. She didn't allow those kids to go hungry, she didn't abandon them or leave them dirty. I sincerely feel she wronged her daughter, I do - I'm not excusing that behavior, and I think yes, it could have been preventable but mom has to prevent it. No one else knows what goes on inside her head. The system worked here and is probably the saving grace of that entire family, I am grateful - so very grateful she's on those programs because the children reaped the benefits. I don't care what mom did with her personal life, honestly.
I also have a nagging feeling that the police knew where to go - who to look for and in what capacity for the last 48 hours because Re's mom stopped saying "I don't know", hence the "she's told the truth for the last 48 hours". If they had said something prior to the 48 hours she would be found. I do think this perp was tipped off and the wife was murdered because she's an accomplice? Very questionable because I do not know her criminal background but please keep in mind that not all criminals are raving psychopaths out to harm each and every person. I know a lot of shady people and kids, women and elderly are totally off limits. Even when it comes to snitching, if a kid is being harmed - you talk! It's really possible that the couple wanted Re but the man had alternative reasonings . I really hope they just sincerely wanted a kid and when she was going to take off with Re - he shot her. I hope Re has not been sexually harmed and I really hope she's safe.
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