Family friend missing, any suggestions on how to help?

[Cakegremlin35]

Any news ?

None at all, hospitals have been checked, his flat has been searched.
It’s very out of character knowing the amount he liked to be in contact. He is a very lonely man with depressive tendencies, my dad said he’s always said life was only worth living for his whiskey and his girlfriend who died a while back.
He missed a planned meal with my dad and their friend.
Pretty convinced something bad has happened to him, but exactly whether accident, self inflicted or otherwise we aren’t sure

 

[katydid23]

If it was self harm, I'd think he would have been found already. Usually people want to be found, so loved ones don't wonder forever what happened.

Does anyone have access ro check if his bank account has been used. By him or by fraud?

 

[lizziginne]

If it was self harm, I'd think he would have been found already. Usually people want to be found, so loved ones don't wonder forever what happened.

Does anyone have access ro check if his bank account has been used. By him or by fraud?

I presume the police will have done this?
I think the most likely thing is he went in the river somehow most likely accidental
Wish I could do more but I’m 400 miles away and my dad doesn’t really talk about it

 

[Keine Engel]

Hi @lizziginne
Sorry you & your Dad still have no answers

Sadly you're probably on the right track, it seems unlikely he wouldn't be found by now, one way or another, in such a densely populated area?
It's not like he'd have any reason to need sneek around hiding or anyone he'd be with to not report an accident or major health issue. Drinking's not illegal so I can't see that happening?
If he'd been 'harmed' by someone intentional or not, I still expect he'd have been found by now too.

The only other thing that crossed my mind is could he have just up & gone off somewhere... I'm thinking kinda someplace like Dublin/Hamburg - short-break getaway? If he's been depressed with some extra cash maybe just wanted to go drown his sorrows somewhere different.
( Sorry for the stereotyping ... but generally adult males do prefer the beer not shopping type trips )
Obviously I know it's a really long shot but he's gotta be somewhere.

I truely do hope you find him soon ♡

 

[lizziginne]

Little update to say there isn’t really much to update. His cousin (only family) and few friends all believe he is dead somewhere.
Talking to my dad, he’s fallen out with people in the past because of the amount of contact he liked to have with them. This is so far out of character.
The river is still our biggest theory, accidental or purposeful I’m still not sure

 

[Alyce]

Sorry that there is no update for you Lizzi, hoping that you will find out something soon

 

[Keine Engel]

Little update to say there isn’t really much to update.

 

[lizziginne]

So, I got some good news on Friday!
We’ve found him!
He’s in a brain injury rehabilitation centre which he’s been in for the last month and a half after suffering a fall and bleed on the brain.
Police have returned his phone to him and he contacted my dad!
Literally feels like someone coming back from the dead

 

[Looloo]

Glad he’s found and he’s doing ok,I hope he recovers well.

 

[CoverMeCagney]

Amazing news, Lizzi! Slightly concerning that the police weren't able to find him there. Do you know if his family knew where he was?

 

[lizziginne]

Amazing news, Lizzi! Slightly concerning that the police weren't able to find him there. Do you know if his family knew where he was?

His family found out about 2 weeks before we did apparently, he’d left his mobile at home and didn’t have any contact numbers for anyone for a while!

 

[Cakegremlin35]

Fantastic news! Well not about the brain bleed but that you’ve managed to track him down.
Hope he has a full & quick recovery xx

 

[Keine Engel]

So, I got some good news on Friday!
We’ve found him!

Oh wow @lizziginne that's wonderful news.

I'm sure knowing how much you & your Dad care about him, that you were truly worried & you DID try to find him, will be the biggest boost towards helping his recovery.
I'm so happy for you all!

@lizziginne I would just like thank you (& your Dad) for being such good & caring people. ♡

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- That's kinda rare these days -

Best wishes from me & Get Well Soon Michael!

 

[Alyce]

Just catching up now, what fantastic news, well apart from the brain injury of course.

So very pleased for you Lizzi

 

[melodyl]

just following up and so relieved to see some good news for a change. Glad that your dad has his friend back - hope he recovers fully. You did so much to try to help that you were due the good news that came from it. Happy Holidays to you and family.