Sometimes there is no grooming needed. My neighbours grandfather was visiting her family and sexually assaulted me.
My grandfathers brother as well had all us kids one summer and took me behind a barn and did what he wanted with me. I barely knew either man.
I knew something wasn't right both times. I was 8 and 10. I never told a soul. I just told my mom a few years ago whom still thinks I made it up. It's a sad affair when a parent thinks we would lie. I don't know why I didn't tell I wasn't threatened by either one. Both were random incidents that happened one time. I've pushed aside those days so long ago that it's hard to even imagine what little Diana is going through/went through. My prayers are that she is brought home and her family is able to fully process what has happened.
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Dyanna,
I was in the middle of trying to catch up on what I hadn't read yet, but I just had to stop and reply to your post.
I am so so sorry this happened to you and having two pedophiles prey upon you is gut wrenching for me to know you went through this as a child. My sexual abuse was continuous when it came to my father since I was trapped inside of the home with him. But I also had a uncle by marriage who also molested me, and an elderly neighbor that lived up the street. Those two did not rape me, but I was still scared to death of them and tried to stay out of their way.
It also breaks my heart more than you will ever know to know your mom did not believe you, but this happens way more often than some may think.
I never told my mom because I always felt she had to know already what was happening to me. She had to see how scared I was of my father, and how nervous I was when he even entered the room. She knew how I would beg, cry, and plead with her every time not to leave me with him when she went to town yet every time she told me I had to stay there. My many tears did not bother her in the least.
I had more issues about my mom that I had to resolve than my actual predator. I knew he was mean, cruel, and evil, period. Even to this day I still question how my mom stood by and let all of the abuse happen to me over and over again. She has been deceased for 29 years but the question is still there. It wasn't just sexual abuse, he was a very cruel man who also emotionally, and physically abused me. Yet she never lifted a finger to help me, and I was a very obedient well mannered sweet natured child who never gave either of them any problems. I never told her anything for I knew if I did she would say she didn't believe me, take my father's side, and hearing that would have hurt as much as the abuse I think.
Moms are supposed to always be there for their children under all circumstances. They know their children like no one else just like your mom knows you, and she knew you really weren't lying about it Dyanna.IMO Why moms do this I have never understood, but more disbelieve than those who do believe their child or children. For the abused child it has to be the utter betrayal of all betrayals. Its so hard for an abused child to open up about what happened to them even if it takes decades and they are then adults. Not being believed once telling has to be one of the worst hurts an abused child would have to endure. Again, I am so sorry you went through this, and I know it had to hurt you badly.
I even learned how to turn a huge negative into a positive in my life by always believing my parents taught me everything about what NOT TO DO as a parent when I became a mom.
I never become desensitized at all of the abuse stories I read here by each survivor.
I still can feel each and every one's pain, but happy that so many seem to have become warriors for a better life. and have succeeded in that goal. God bless you all for being so courageous.
IMO
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