mynikel said:yeah i am consfused by their behavior but have you ever been in the situation where someone so close to you could do something like that,when you sat there on his couch and cried your eyes out to him because of what did happen to you and all he did was comfort you and tell you that your deserve better and no one deserves to be treated like that and all of a sudden he turns around and does the same thing. it is hard to beeive that.
mynikel said:i understand that the only person to blame for a crime is who did it. but i beleive things happen for a reason and there apperently was a reason for this to have happened. I am not putting total blame on the girl but come on have some sense in what is right and wrong.
mynikel said:yeah i am consfused by their behavior but have you ever been in the situation where someone so close to you could do something like that,when you sat there on his couch and cried your eyes out to him because of what did happen to you and all he did was comfort you and tell you that your deserve better and no one deserves to be treated like that and all of a sudden he turns around and does the same thing. it is hard to beeive that.
Why should you run away from the things that happen to you. Things like this only make you stronger. I know that I will never let a guy treat me that way ever again and I know that I need to watch out for myslef because not everyone else will. I understand that what I said in earleir posts were not exactly nice but it is just so hard to realize that they could have done it. And I guess because i have been in that girls same situation I feel and think that you shouldn't be that stupid to do the things she did.luvbeaches said:Wow, I just read this post. I know it's easy for me to say, but you need to get away now...before you become a statistic.
mynikel said:Why should you run away from the things that happen to you. Things like this only make you stronger. I know that I will never let a guy treat me that way ever again and I know that I need to watch out for myslef because not everyone else will. I understand that what I said in earleir posts were not exactly nice but it is just so hard to realize that they could have done it. And I guess because i have been in that girls same situation I feel and think that you shouldn't be that stupid to do the things she did.
mynikel said:Why should you run away from the things that happen to you. Things like this only make you stronger. I know that I will never let a guy treat me that way ever again and I know that I need to watch out for myslef because not everyone else will. I understand that what I said in earleir posts were not exactly nice but it is just so hard to realize that they could have done it. And I guess because i have been in that girls same situation I feel and think that you shouldn't be that stupid to do the things she did.
all the things that my ex did to me happened all at once. one day he just snapped and i got away then. I never saw it coming. As with dustin, I knew him for a while. Not once would I have even imagined he could do something like this. I spent every free minute that i had with him, I told him no many times when he asked me to have sex, he never forced anything on to me nor did he ever use violence towards me. and there were plenty of times when we were both drunk and had many fights. and to this day i was never scared that he would hurt me and i still don't beleive that he would hurt me.ariel7 said:I'm sorry to hear about what you went through.MY questions are:
Early in your relationship with the wicked man that beat you, would you
have believed he would have beat you thus?
And...
How well do you really know this Dustin character?
I was raped at age 17. Yes, I was stupid: I went into his father's
empty work building (sorry, if I mention it exactly I'll give my
real self away.). He was sweetness itself prior. Always sat & talked with me
at school, etc. and he was quite "cute". (So I thought at first.)
Needless to say, I had a bit of a crush on him. AND yes, I was
ignorant and naive: I thought I could trust him. Well, he raped me
in the basement of that building.
I avoided him like the plague after that, but one day he caught me
alone and assualted me. Also told me that his friend was in there
and they took pictures. Sick. Sure hope it's not true.
My rapist? No one would've ever thought that he could do such a thing.
mynikel said:all the things that my ex did to me happened all at once. one day he just snapped and i got away then. I never saw it coming. As with dustin, I knew him for a while. Not once would I have even imagined he could do something like this. I spent every free minute that i had with him, I told him no many times when he asked me to have sex, he never forced anything on to me nor did he ever use violence towards me. and there were plenty of times when we were both drunk and had many fights. and to this day i was never scared that he would hurt me and i still don't beleive that he would hurt me.
concernedperson said:Yes, my dear, I have been in that situation. Now do what I tell you...for your own good....get very far away from these people. Even if you think that there is no hope...do it. They will never protect you , they will always abuse you if not murder you. Now go. Find a large city with battered women centers for a respite. Use your geographical area and google it. You will find a job and as long as you don't give any clues to where you are, you should be OK. Start the next part of your life...that is worth living. Get away...don't be a statistic.
Me and dustin dated not to long ago and we hung out with mike then. this is just not like their behavior at all. I am just shocked. What bothers me is i can't find ot any information that is dated after december 22, 2004. I mean, I talked to him on the phone that night and listened to him tell me that he missed me, around the time the whole thing took place, then i went to his house the next day, and i hate to say it but slept with him, and things don't look good with that, if you know what i mean....ariel7 said:Hi Mynikel,
I'm so glad you did get away from your ex, and so sorry for what you went
through with him(especially to lose your precious baby---wish there
was a smiley for 'hugs').
Sounds like the Dustin you knew seemed quite a different person from
this Dustin. Perhaps things have changed with him since then, or since
hooking up with this Michael character...maybe something just set them
off (not excusing evil, inexcusible, criminal behavior here).
I couldn't say. The story seems very credible, and I'm sure they
couldn't arrest them on just somebody's word that they were at the bar.
It does though sound like he had a great deal of repect for you;
I'm sorry for your sake that this had to happen.
If the charges against them are false, I do hope it would come out soon.
I couldn't imagine being falsely accused for anything. As it stands
now, it certainly doesn't bode well for them. AND if they did commit
this crime, they certainly should be appropriately punished.
Ariel
Ps-O/T O/T O/T (Sorry) To my shame: I never reported the guy who assaulted me. I was too
worried nobody would believe me (for I was a bit wild then), and
I didn't want my boyfriend to know. 16 years later
I wish I had the courage to go to the police. Not to avenge myself
or something of that sort (I have long since forgiven him.) rather to
protect others. Every once in a while I do an internet search for this
guy...hoping never to have his name come up in any crime news, but
worried he may have hurt someone else. Part of me would
feel responsible
if he did.
mynikel said:Me and dustin dated not to long ago and we hung out with mike then. this is just not like their behavior at all. I am just shocked. What bothers me is i can't find ot any information that is dated after december 22, 2004. I mean, I talked to him on the phone that night and listened to him tell me that he missed me, around the time the whole thing took place, then i went to his house the next day, and i hate to say it but slept with him, and things don't look good with that, if you know what i mean....
mynikel said:no I haven't been able to find out how to talk to anyone. I live in missouri, and all i know is that they were extridited to florida and haven't heard anything since then. I don't know where to look or who to call. I can't even think. I just want to talk to him again. I don't even know what I would say, I know I want to know if it is true. and If what I think is happening to me, what he thinks about the whole situation and how to tell my parents that my baby's dad is in jail for nearly killing a girl.
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