FL - Sarah Lunde, 13, murdered, Ruskin, 9 April 2005

[Nchadwickaz]

It still absolutely floors me that we have Martha Stewart up there in her house with a damn ankle bracelet on......and all these freakin' sexual predators running around and we have no idea where they are or where they will be next. Now tell me exactly how it is that Martha Stewart is liable to cause any further problems, but a sex offender who is supposed to be "registered" can be anywhere. I think we have some priorities mixed up here!!!!! :bang:

Mesa, Arizona offers (for a fee) its residents a Neighborhood Crime Review – which I think is such an informative publication that other communities, should look into creating/maintaining. Also not sure if any local people out there that may not know that this exists.



It is published monthly and is endorsed by the Mesa Police Assoc. and the Mesa Fraternal Order of Police. The founder of the Crime Review has been a local Police Officer for seven years and saw a need for neighborhoods to receive current information regarding crime. All the information obtained from a variety of sources such as Community Relations and the Public Information Office of the Mesa Police Department and the Registered Sex Offender information form the Department of Public Safety.



It includes, mapped out not only by zip code but buy Beats, like in my neighborhood – there are 30+ beats – So broken out by beat there are any exceptional items -- Usually 1-3 major crimes committed and a detailed write up by the police department (murder, armed robbery, etc.) Then crimes committed in your area (from DUI – Drugs, etc.) – The incident, the block it occurred on, and the date of the incident are listed.



Now, the most important part of this publication is the Sex Offender Section, Listed by Beat – (so if you do a search of my zip code there are 73 sex offenders – but in my beat/and surrounding there is 1) – but listed is their photograph, address, last verified, Race, Age, Sex, Height, Weight, Hair, Eyes, Level (2 intermediate or 3 high), Offenses, Convicting County.



With not all people having access to the internet, and not always (never in the 3 years I have lived here) been handed any notices, like Maricopa is supposed to do – I cannot tell you how informative this information is.



It is over 30 pages, and the cost is 35.00 year – I am sorry that this is all thrown together but with all the focus on Jessica Lundsford and Sarah Lunde – I wanted to get this information out – hopefully someone locally can benefit from the information – I was made aware just a couple of months ago.

 

[LazyCat08]

Deputies Pay Visits To Sex Offenders - from TBO.com

Pressed into action by the rape-homicide of a Citrus County girl nearly two months ago and amid the frenzied search for a missing 13- year-old in Ruskin, Hillsborough County sheriff's deputies mounted a door-to-door check of registered sex offenders in the northwestern part of the county last week...

GOOD TO HEAR THAT AT LEAST SOMETHING PREVENTATIVE IS BEING DONE!!!

 

[richandfamous]

Mother of murdered 13-year-old Sarah Lunde arrested for DUI
http://www.tampabays10.com/news/news.aspx?storyid=13449

The mother of murdered 13-year-old Sarah Lunde is facing legal trouble today. Hillsborough County deputies say Kelly May was arrested last night in Hillsborough County.

She is accused of driving under the influence after her vehicle was spotted weaving by a deputy. May has been released on 5-hundred dollars bond.

May’s ex-boyfriend David Onstott, a convicted sex offender, is charged with killing her daughter.

 

[Sheromom]

I really wish they would do something for those boys left to raise themselves.

 

[richandfamous]

I wish I could feel sympathy for her but all I can see is the devastation caused by her poor choices. And it continues.

This time she is Kelly O May as oposed to Kelley D Lunde. She has used many different alias and birthdates. Criminals use this tactic to confuse any criminal background search. I also see by the arrest report that she refused a BAC (blood alcohol content).

 

[kk's mom]

I wish I could feel sympathy for her but all I can see is the devastation caused by her poor choices. And it continues.

This time she is Kelly O May as oposed to Kelley D Lunde. She has used many different alias and birthdates. Criminals use this tactic to confuse any criminal background search. I also see by the arrest report that she refused a BAC (blood alcohol content).

She's arrested the night before her daughter's funeral? That's just great. How old are the boys at home?

 

[OriginalJerseyGirl]

GOOD TO HEAR THAT AT LEAST SOMETHING PREVENTATIVE IS BEING DONE!!!

I just hope it continues. Somehow, I see this as being an immediate reaction but one that might slow down or stop completely as time passes.

 

[OriginalJerseyGirl]

She's arrested the night before her daughter's funeral? That's just great. How old are the boys at home?

Her boys are 16, 17, and 20. She also has a 22 year-old daughter that no longer lives at home.

Honestly, I don't hold it against her that she was arrested for a DUI the night before the funeral. I'm not saying it's okay to drink & drive - not by any means. But I can understand that in our grief, we don't always make the best choices, and drowning ourselves in alcohol is one of the more common of those choices.

By the way, was it Friday night or Thursday night? I don't see a date on the article.

 

[kk's mom]

Her boys are 16, 17, and 20. She also has a 22 year-old daughter that no longer lives at home.

Honestly, I don't hold it against her that she was arrested for a DUI the night before the funeral. I'm not saying it's okay to drink & drive - not by any means. But I can understand that in our grief, we don't always make the best choices, and drowning ourselves in alcohol is one of the more common of those choices.

By the way, was it Friday night or Thursday night? I don't see a date on the article.

I'm sure she's going through all types of emotions right now. Out drinking and driving? Not a good choice. And it doesn't matter when she was arrested really, it should never have happened. It's against the law. I'm assuming the 16 and 17 year old were at home by themselves going through their own emotions with their sister's tragic death while their mom's out boozing it up? I'm sorry, she gets no sympathy from me on this one. She needs to straighten herself up and quick and be there for her other children before something tragic happens to them as well.

 

[OriginalJerseyGirl]

She needs to straighten herself up and quick and be there for her other children before something tragic happens to them as well.

I can totally understand your anger. But in her defense, the remaining children are a bit older and are male. That makes them a bit safer from outside dangers anyway. She SHOULD be there for her other kids but we all have guilt when something bad happens. Even when a parent dies, we think, "I wish I would have spent more time with her; I wish I had told her that I love her more", etc. Add to that the feelings of guilt that Sarah's mom probably feels, and I can understand why it may be impossible for her to be there for anybody right now.

Like I said, I know where you're coming from but I just don't know how this mom is living through her grief & guilt, let alone being a support for those around her.

 

[OriginalJerseyGirl]

Neighbors Confront Suspected Prowler - from TBO.com

Around 9 p.m. Monday, a prowler was seen peering into the bedroom of an 18-year-old woman. A man walking his dog chased the intruder into the woods, authorities said. The second night, about the same time, the same man was confronted by residents. He told them he was not prowling, but praying, authorities said. Hillsborough County sheriff's deputies arrived and arrested the man...

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Praying? At someone's bedroom window? :waitasec:

In any case, it's good to see people looking out for each other. I think that that's what we need to do, and hopefully it will continue.

 

[OriginalJerseyGirl]

Lunde's Mother Charged With DUI | theledger.com

Kelly May, the mother of 13-year-old murder victim Sarah Lunde, was charged with driving under the influence late Wednesday after she left an Apollo Beach bar...

 

[kk's mom]

I can totally understand your anger. But in her defense, the remaining children are a bit older and are male. That makes them a bit safer from outside dangers anyway. She SHOULD be there for her other kids but we all have guilt when something bad happens. Even when a parent dies, we think, "I wish I would have spent more time with her; I wish I had told her that I love her more", etc. Add to that the feelings of guilt that Sarah's mom probably feels, and I can understand why it may be impossible for her to be there for anybody right now.

Like I said, I know where you're coming from but I just don't know how this mom is living through her grief & guilt, let alone being a support for those around her.

I can appreciate what you are saying JG....but to an extent. Her daughter's body was found last Saturday and what, 4 days later she's out drinking in a bar? Sorry, something's seriously wrong with this woman. And as far as feelings of guilt go, she better have them. She let that child down, big time. She needs to stop thinking of herself for once and be a mom to those two boys that are at home. This is the time where she can turn herself around. Going out drinking and getting arrested with a DUI ain't the way to do it.

You think people thought bad of her last week? I think this is just the icing on the cake for this woman.

 

[Only4Justice]

I was thinking the exact same thing a few days ago. I'm married in a 'sometimes good -sometimes not so good' relationship but I find myself very happy lately just knowing that I don't have to worry about leaving our children with my spouse. The not so good stuff doesn't seem so bad anymore. At least I know that my babies are safe.

I think your ideas of a background check & not introducing your child early on to anyone you're dating is a very, very good idea. But most importantly, as you know, listen when she speaks. Give her the freedom to dislike him, and question her reasons if it would ever come up. Children are often better judges of character than we are.

JerseyGirl, love your posts.....

All marriages are "'sometimes good -sometimes not so good' relationship'"...there is no perfect relationship. I also am married to the father of my children and don't have to worry about leaving them with him......it's a godsend....

I am also a child-abuse survivor, and let me tell you, if my single mother had listened to me when I told her I was being sexually abused, I would have had alot easier time growing up.....She never listened......and I do believe kids don't lie USUALLY when it comes to these things....it's too painful to talk about and tell someone when it is true, it's a nightmare.

I do believe Sarah was a neglected child and there are many many more children out there like her....

 

[concernedperson]

JerseyGirl, love your posts.....

All marriages are "'sometimes good -sometimes not so good' relationship'"...there is no perfect relationship. I also am married to the father of my children and don't have to worry about leaving them with him......it's a godsend....

I am also a child-abuse survivor, and let me tell you, if my single mother had listened to me when I told her I was being sexually abused, I would have had alot easier time growing up.....She never listened......and I do believe kids don't lie USUALLY when it comes to these things....it's too painful to talk about and tell someone when it is true, it's a nightmare.

I do believe Sarah was a neglected child and there are many many more children out there like her....

Bless you sweetheart. So many like you but you are in a loving group. Never think that we don't know your pain...we will always be here for you.

 

[Schmerty_Jones]

Neighbors Confront Suspected Prowler - from TBO.com

Around 9 p.m. Monday, a prowler was seen peering into the bedroom of an 18-year-old woman. A man walking his dog chased the intruder into the woods, authorities said. The second night, about the same time, the same man was confronted by residents. He told them he was not prowling, but praying, authorities said. Hillsborough County sheriff's deputies arrived and arrested the man...

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Praying? At someone's bedroom window? :waitasec:

In any case, it's good to see people looking out for each other. I think that that's what we need to do, and hopefully it will continue.

This is a GOOD story,Jerseygirl. This is what we need to do for one another. The moms who are neglectful need our prayers & our expression of disapproval with offers for help. We have to be concerned about our children..everybody's children...I am not sure that the agencies that pay childcare or welfare to mothers are concerned enough about their child's well being.

 

[Only4Justice]

Bless you sweetheart. So many like you but you are in a loving group. Never think that we don't know your pain...we will always be here for you.

That means so very much to me...It's not something I think about on even a daily basis anymore....the pain is still there with my mother, I am now 40 years old and decided recently that it is as forgiven as possible, never to be forgotten. I do now believe that my mother will never forgive herself, and I don't want that, either. I know she loves me in her own way and she is the one who has to live with the pain she caused me, and which I let her know when I was grown how I felt about her actions (or non-actions).

I often wonder when reading the posts on Websleuths, if we all share some kind of empathy with the victims especially understood by those who have been abused in their lifes, in one form or another.

I think this is the reason I can't let go of Laci and especially am tormented by the loss of these little girls.

I had a nightmare the night Sarah was found. It was so scary, I was hiding from her killer and he found me and I woke up. I had to wake up my husband to bring me back to reality I have a great husband who protects me (Sometimes too much so!!!) :blowkiss:

 

[OriginalJerseyGirl]

That means so very much to me...It's not something I think about on even a daily basis anymore....the pain is still there with my mother, I am now 40 years old and decided recently that it is as forgiven as possible, never to be forgotten. I do now believe that my mother will never forgive herself, and I don't want that, either. I know she loves me in her own way and she is the one who has to live with the pain she caused me, and which I let her know when I was grown how I felt about her actions (or non-actions).

I often wonder when reading the posts on Websleuths, if we all share some kind of empathy with the victims especially understood by those who have been abused in their lifes, in one form or another.

Justice, I am so sorry for what you've been through. When you start to see how many people have been affected by this, it's mind-boggling. I can't even begin to comprehend why this happens. It is so good to hear that you've been able to move on, and have your own family. It's amazing to hear the level of forgiveness you have and your worry for your mom's pain even though she didn't do what you needed her to. You are a very strong person, and your personal insight will be very helpful to a lot of the cases that we discuss here. I want to reiterate what cp said ... we are all here, and we feel for what you've been through.

I agree that many of us here are drawn here by our own experiences. I lived a very traumatic childhood but fortunately, sexual abuse was never a part of it. There is an empathy that develops ... about that, I believe you are 100% right. If our experiences can help to shed light on some of the nuances of these discussions, then maybe the pain & abuse we've experienced will not have been for nothing. Thank you so much for sharing information about your experiences with us. It's not easy to do but with the anonymity here, it's often very therapeutic - people finally get to speak up about what they've been through without divulging their identity. I hope that you will continue to join us in our discussions on the boards.

 

[OriginalJerseyGirl]

I can appreciate what you are saying JG....but to an extent. Her daughter's body was found last Saturday and what, 4 days later she's out drinking in a bar? Sorry, something's seriously wrong with this woman. And as far as feelings of guilt go, she better have them. She let that child down, big time. She needs to stop thinking of herself for once and be a mom to those two boys that are at home. This is the time where she can turn herself around. Going out drinking and getting arrested with a DUI ain't the way to do it.

You think people thought bad of her last week? I think this is just the icing on the cake for this woman.

If I had lost my daughter, especially in such a brutal way, I would have hit the bottle a lot sooner than 4 days into it. In fact, by the time 4 days had passed, I might have committed suicide. The pain would be too great to bear. I can handle anything but the loss of one of my children ... I think that's the one thing that would push me over the edge.

BTW, I think there are three boys at home ... 16, 17, and 20.

 

[OriginalJerseyGirl]

I was just thinking of this last night ... as of yet, we have heard nothing about a sexual assault on Sarah. Even last night on the news, they were still stating the story about Onstott getting into a confrontation with her. Is it possible that the story is just as he says it is, and that there was no sexual assault?