FL - Somer Thompson, 7, Orange Park, 19 Oct 2009 #24

[Noway]

I didn't think the pictures were that bad given the context in which they were taken. And to me, the issue with them being posted and public is not with Diena at all. It's not her page. For all we know. she asked this friend to take them down , make her page private, whatever, and the friend said no.

It makes me wonder whether pictures of Halloween parties I've attended are posted out there on the hostess's FB. They too were adult Halloween parties, although some years we included the kids as well, and our choice of costumes reflected that and were much more appropriate.

 

[3angelsrmine]

Not passing judgment on the party games (gives a whole new meaning to "pin the tail on the donkey", doesn't it?), but the halloween party brag book posted online for all the world to see (including DT's kids) and I am passing judgment on that, makes me really wonder about the home environment.

I just saw the pictures and was wondering if anyone else noticed that maybe this was DT home. There are pics on the wall in one of them and looks like Somer is one and one of a man in uniform (ST?) in another. Hope the kids weren't around! We entertain a lot and we love to have fun, but we've never had something like this--very sophmoric even for 30ishers IMO.

 

[human]

I dont think the pics are a big red flag but I think the fact there are so many flags is the bigger picture. From the first interview to the last and everything she has says and does the flags are everywhere. When she said she feels guilty having fun a few weeks after her daughters death that was a big big flag. Who could heal that fast from such a tragedy .. I dont think you will find anyone except cassy A who healed that fast

My husband's brother died 40 years ago. The brother was 17. He hasn't gotten over it yet. I don't know if he has healed or not. Our children are the most important thing in the world to him ,and he thinks about something happening to them a lot because he knows that it can.

Don't worry. They did not live in a bubble, My son starting riding little dirt bikes when he was 6 years old. My hubby gave him a box of old parts, and told him he could ride one when he put it together. He honestly did at age 6. He's an engineer today.

He did break his arm when he was 8 and the doctor made us feel like scum parents of the year for letting him ride a dirt bike that young. I suppose if people were investigating us , they would point to that and many other things as out of line.

Anyway,saying you're having fun when your child has been murdered just a little while ago? IMO it's very bizarre.

 

[kmart73]

I just saw the pictures and was wondering if anyone else noticed that maybe this was DT home. There are pics on the wall in one of them and looks like Somer is one and one of a man in uniform (ST) in another. Hope the kids weren't around! We entertain a lot and we love to have fun, but we've never had something like this--very sophmoric even for 30ishers IMO.

I noticed that! On one of the tables there is a photo that looks like Somer and her brother as babies.

 

[ccane]

sorrell skye and anyone into psychology

Since your into more the psychology too of this... did you see the interview of DT when she went to pick up the kids at school more recently and she said she threw up when she got home. Also one where she changes Somer room already "for the kids she said" instead of making it a shrine like some people do after a death. I would like your input

 

[sadnpod]

Can you describe his hair again sad? TIA.

short med brown..

 

[3angelsrmine]

Credit to HUMAN snipped by me for spacefrom post #83 Anyway,saying you're having fun when your child has been murdered just a little while ago? IMO it's very bizarre.[/QUOTE]


I would not be able to function, let alone get out of bed and make myself look presentable. The mere thought of something happening to my babies brings tears to my eyes. I know, no textbook on how we should act. Sweet Sandra Cantu's mom comes to mind when you think of someone grieving. MOO

 

[sorrell skye]

Anyway,saying you're having fun when your child has been murdered just a little while ago? IMO it's very bizarre.

sbm

I agree. It's not as if her daughter died of "natural causes" after a protracted illness. Not that that would make it any easier to bear the loss (losing a child is unbearable regardless of circumstances), just saying that to me it seems the grief of losing a child to murder would be so much harder to deal with, for obvious reasons, especially since the killer has not been apprehended.

 

[sorrell skye]

sorrell skye and anyone into psychology

Since your into more the psychology too of this... did you see the interview of DT when she went to pick up the kids at school more recently and she said she threw up when she got home. Also one where she changes Somer room already "for the kids she said" instead of making it a shrine like some people do after a death. I would like your input

I don't think I've seen that one. Do you have a link?

 

[ccane]

I don't think I've seen that one. Do you have a link?

No sorry I stopped saving all the links .. I'm so digusted with this women I just didn't want to hear her anymore. Wonder if she got her bella vita tattoo yet:furious:

 

[sorrell skye]

I'll weigh in on the "having fun so soon aspect" from an objective perspective, now that I've spouted off about my own opinion.

Everyone experiences grief/loss differently, based on their personalities & psychological make-up. Some people are able to move thru the stages & integrate the loss in a shorter time span and resume their usual activities. Others need more time to process, depending on the circumstances of the loss & the support they receive.

When my little niece was tragically killed in an accident years ago, her father experienced very little grief, if any at all. My sister took years to heal enough to be able to resume her life. Just to illustrate. BTW - my ex-BIL is about as sociopathic as you can get. He possesses the emotional make-up of a doorknob. He showed more emotion regarding the community & church donations (money) than he did over the death of his youngest daughter. Needless to say, I despise the man.

 

[what about this?]

for the psychology people --

so, could you say someone who is able to detach, go on, have fun --

and not saying anyone in particular -- borderline personality disorder?

 

[sorrell skye]

I also want to add that typically when someone seems to recover too rapidly from such a profound loss, it can indicate their unwillingness or inability to face the loss, or to experience the grief, for various reasons.

 

[sorrell skye]

for the psychology people --

so, could you say someone who is able to detach, go on, have fun --

and not saying anyone in particular -- borderline personality disorder?

borderlines tend to fixate on one particular person - and obsess about them - think overly needy and clingy - stalker types.

 

[what about this?]

someone who seems to blossom in the limelight --

 

[sorrell skye]

I'm leaning more toward narcissistic personality tendencies (not necessarily full-blown disorder, unless there are delusions of grandeur), or sociopathic - inability to empathize with other human beings.

ETA: there can be overlap between these two.

 

[what about this?]

Then, maybe being hospitalized for a "very serious condition" - during that time, a lot could come out. A lot of personality traits would be evident to professionals around --

 

[sorrell skye]

Remember the statements immediately after Somer's murder?

"I want to be an advocate for missing and abducted children..."

Could indicate delusions of grandeur.

 

[what about this?]

narcissistic personality --

so, if that type of personality got a taste of a lot of attention and publicity, and then the attention went away -- what kind of things would they do to bring the attention back to themselves?

 

[ccane]

But DT has shown some genuine grief. I have seen it here and there at odd times in interviews. One when some asked about how the kids are doing in the interview with her Dad and Mom standing behind her. She broke down and said "I cant talk about that right now".. that was real. And after her lawyer said they are watching the person and they should give it up.. that was real emotion.