I am certain RH's 
/texting habits preceded his visit to Atlanta. Most men with these issues start young and carry them into their marriages (at least, that's what I learned from the churchgoing sex-addicts group). I wonder, however, if he was using Kik or Skout back in Tuscaloosa? The move from Tuscaloosa to Atlanta removed him from his family network and provided him with a broader range of anonymity and lack of accountability. His family and brother weren't there, and, like many young people in flux, his identity became more fluid.
Sociologists often draw relationships between addictive behaviors increasing after moves to big cities. I think RH would have done better to stay in his hometown, where grandparents and extended family and friendship networks would have helped him and LH with CH and where he wouldn't have been able to drift quite so much into doing whatever suited his fancy.
I think this is a struggle for many young people (though certainly not for all of them).
Whatever our loyalties to our hometowns, sports teams, whatever, we should be able to discuss their differences without identifying with a city in a way that renders comment or discussion impossible. I'm one of those strange gypsies that lacks any loyalty to towns or cities- my only loyalty is to people. I apologize if I have offended anyone who feels strongly about Atlanta. I was just trying to look at the environmental differences that might trigger latent drives or behaviors.
So let's just assume that every city is different, and that people from smaller towns where strip clubs are illegal might have their imaginations excited by what they find in a big city. It might give us insight.
Atlanta ranked no.1 for human trafficking: A new federal study says Atlanta had the country's largest sex trade.
http://buckhead.patch.com/groups/po...no-1-for-sex-trafficking-conventions-to-blame
Atlanta sees 79 percent increase in rape cases :And an explanation remains elusive
http://clatl.com/atlanta/atlanta-sees-79-percent-increase-in-rape-cases/Content?oid=4333688
Honestly, I really don't think it would have mattered.
This is a personality problem, he is clearly a narcissistic sociopath. There is a saying: "Wherever you go there you are". His wife, son, parents, grandparents, siblings, etc are not even a concern to him. He is a walking facade and lives a double life. One does not need to move to a city to do that. He does what he wants when and how he wants to do it.
Ross would have done this and had this predilections wherever he lived.
I totally hear you about environment as it always effects us. The only reason that I do not believe that this is the case here is that we really do communicate and connect in different ways now. The amount of technology, smart phones and chat and hook up apps are astounding. We are not as "place oriented" as we were even a decade ago.
We engage with people in many many "non place" communities (this is one). Right on his phone, he has the tools to meet up with, chat with, and engage with as many women as he wants near or far. Atlanta does not have anything to do with it other than maybe providing him with more women to choose from...but the women do not even have to be local to sext them etc. He could be engaging with women across the country as well, and probably was as it was likely safer for him as far as getting caught. That is the very beauty of technology: The ability to Connect with others like never before.
I would also like to add, that I live in one of the biggest and most overstimulating cities in the world. New York City.The one that never sleeps. I grew up in the burbs and have lived here now for 14 years. I can tell you that you are who you are wherever you are. Cities may provide you with more people to interact with, more things to do at all hours,
but so do smart phones and the internet.
Also, did you ever notice that some of the darkest killers, rampage shootings, etc do not necessarily occur in urban cities but rather in suburban areas. I only point that out because I find it erroneous to blame dark behavior on "living in a city".
Dark human behavior is
everywhere and living in suburbia will not cure it and moving to a city will not create it. :moo:
