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try to never touch on important thugs, either. The unimportant ones, well, I'll touch on them a littlelmbo
Oh my goodness. I just caught that and edited!! It autocorrects to that a lot!!
~snipped by me for a most hilarious typo
try to never touch on important thugs, either. The unimportant ones, well, I'll touch on them a littlelmbo
that car seat may as well be in the front seat ..... think that JRH needs a guide dog and cane ..... how could he possibly say he didn't see child
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Just wanted to jump in with this real quick so I don't forget. But I was recently told by a fireman that when you hear a car alarm going off over and over again it's usually because someone left their dog in the car and the motion detector is setting off the alarm. Just an FYI for safety if you hear a car alarm going off over and over again somewhere, check the car!! Don't just get annoyed and ignore it.
Sorry to post this way out of order but I just wanted to remind people.
Also we have a responsibility to do what an earlier poster mentioned. That's due diligence as people. When we park in parking lots from now on and are walking into the stores keep an eye out for car seats inside cars and just glance to see if you see a child in the car. Many parents think leaving a sleeping baby for a few minutes in a car while they run in to grab something in a store is "faster and easier" than dealing with getting the child out and dragging them around the store. It's a hassle to them. So let's all do our part.
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The problem with this, is that most people who defend forgetting your kid in the car will say that in his mind the child was in daycare. He could have thought of the child all day and even have spoken to his wife about him but if he thought he was in daycare it wouldn't have registered.
I'm intrigued by the lengths to which people will go to in order to defend this guy in this case. It's very telling to me that even with an arrest for murder people just don't want to hold him responsible. And the reason they don't is because of all the cases that happened before where the others were not arrested. When you only have a 50% conviction rate and you have men averaging 3 years in prison for doing this, then you are setting up a situation that is very dangerous to children.
This is why I believe that in every case the parent should be charged for negligence. Not murder but negligence. Yes people forget. We all forget things as parents, we all make mistakes as parents. Every single parent on this thread has some very bad and dangerous thing they did at one point with their child, either via laziness or desperation that could have resulted in the death of their child.
I remember one time leaving my children home alone when they were very little, during a severely cold snow storm and running up the street to pick up milk and cereal and diapers. I had left them for about 10 minutes and ran the entire way. They were both sitting in front of the television and I figured, 'it's safer to leave them here in this cozy warm apartment instead of dragging them out into the cold." They were watching morning cartoons and sitting on the couch. When I got back my 3 year old was in the bathroom with a can of shaving cream, a face full of shaving cream and a razor getting ready to go shave.lease:
lease: I'd like to say I never did it again, but I did do it again throughout the winter. I just put them both in their cribs before I left again. I was a single mom and had absolutely no baby sitting help and sometimes I took risks that I shouldn't have. I understand how it can happen.
However, it is negligence to do such things. It just is, and forgetting is not something that should ever be excused with a baby. When we start seeing an increase of parents "forgetting" their children in situations that will prove FATAL to the child, we don't sit back in sympathy and say "Oh well ship happens!!" We step up and say this cannot happen, it's too dangerous.
We need to raise the bar in safety, not lower it in sympathy. So parents who have small children should do things to make sure they don't forget their child. Even just writing on the side window of the car in grease paint, BABY!!! is one tiny thing that parents can do. And we shouldn't need car manufacturers and other people to solve that problem for parents. Parents need to be diligent about not ever putting their child in this type of situation. It's their responsiblity.
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Good point.
I never would've thought of that. I will now. Thank you.
Do to think you should've been charged and gone to jail? What would be worse for your kids? Is the possible deterrence with it? I don't know myself.
I do believe we are an over protective, nannying society with the attitude that anything but constant, 100% perfect vigilance is criminal. I dont agree with that.
Because I don't believe anyone is a perfect parent or can be. I think every god parent makes terrible mistakes on occasion that their kids at risk of harm. And I think not allowing any risk of harm is stunting and debilitating to children.
Accidents happen and always will, to The best of us. That's to price of being human and allowing children to grow and take risks. Not every thing parents do that exposes Kids to risk should merit criminal charges. And no parent can ever eliminate all risk. Never.
He was hungry again? ate breakfast at home then ate at Chick-fil a again at 9:00-9:30, then ate lunch at 11:30?
I read on a blog about the case that his coworkers were actually the ones who noticed him doing the searches for "dogs in hot cars" that day. They thought it was creepy, naturally. Can't link to the source as it's a blog, but yes, I'm sure his coworkers would not be thrilled to have him back.
The more details that come out here, the more guilty he is looking.
We now know he left the building to go out on his lunch hour, how far away from his office was the car parked?
Do we know if he went to the car at the start of his lunch or after?
Also, hearing his journey was just minutes from breakfast visit to workplace,there is no way he could of forgotten cooper in that time!
He had just eaten with him, must have interacted with him, and put him back in his car?.
I also can't believe cooper would be sitting in the car not making a sound at all. If he fell asleep after been put back in the car to travel to work, he would be in a very light sleep as it was a very short journey, you would think when dad pulled up in parking space cooper would wake up as the car engine stopped. That's what mine used to do, the min the vehicle stopped, ping! They'd wake up. X
Hi all, just registered but I've been lurking around here over 2 years now :blushing:
The main thing in this case that has me scratching my head right now, is the comment from police that Cooper may not have even been in the car at 9am. I have been wracking my brain trying to guess how they are thinking he could have ended up left in that car. I feel this is perhaps the most puzzling statement (of many) to come out so far.
The whole thing is baffling right now though, very eager to see what happens on Thursday.
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According to Nancy G. the drive from CFA to dad's work place = 1 min. 20 seconds.
And this is after he physically put the child BACK in the car seat. If he had just gone through drive through it would be different. But there is no way he forgot that he put his son back in the car. He is not a slender man, getting a kid situated in a car seat would mean that he had leaned inside and that isn't exactly an easy and foregettable task. I'm 5 11 and a pretty "big girl" and I'd be sweating and breathing heavy right after doing that on a hot morning. So pahleeeze...he forgot. :facepalm::facepalm:
On many of these true crime shows they refer to the "Mormon Divorce." A Mormon divorce refers to the way some Mormons feeling they can't get a divorce will actually murder their spouse. It's odd how many murders happen in the Mormon church IMO.
Very religious people are often not very sincere in their beliefs but feel indoctrinated into the faith and simply can't see a way out of their lives without a miraculous intervention that changes everything.
Most people would say "But surely murder is worse than divorce???" but time and time again they find that the person just could not figure out a way out of what they didn't want anymore and decided they'd try to get away with murder. It makes absolutely no sense to me at all. But not everyone is strong enough to stand up to their beliefs.
Their religious convictions present a sense of motive to me. Her difficulty in getting pregnant coupled with him taking medication that actually reduces sperm count is worth looking into. He could have been apprehensive about having children and then God gives them a miracle. And then life turns out to be much harder than he realizes and he realizes economically he's doomed if he tries to get a divorce and walk away.
Death of a child is a prime reason for divorce, no one would blame them if they did. In addition there are countless stories on the internet of people making hundreds of thousands of dollars from donations from people who care. (Just look at the recent KFC story and the School Bus driver from a few years ago) This man and his family had campaigns raising money almost immediately. So who needs a life insurance policy anyway?
$703,168 USD
RAISED OF $5,000 GOAL
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According to Nancy G. the drive from CFA to dad's work place = 1 min. 20 seconds.
http://www.news.com.au/world/friend...s-a-proud-parent/story-fndir2ev-1226974474597
There is a pic of dad with Cooper on his chest and dad looks uncomfortable to me. Can someone post pic for discussion please?
IMHO