How do you deal with not knowing?

[spyhouston]

I agree that not knowing 'what' is really hard. And, I doubt that we will ever really know what really transpired to cause Caylee's death. But's it's also really hard to not know 'why' things happen. For a long time after a heartbreaking divorce, I had the silly notion that if I could just understand why, surely it would make it easier for me to move forward. I finally came to grips with the idea that there will always be unanswered questions to really devastating events in life. Sometimes, I guess all we have to rely on is 'it is what it is'.

 

[ecs5298]

I don't know. I think sometimes not knowing is easier than knowing the horrific details. What we know already is pretty horrific. The end result is the same. Calyee is dead, KC killed her, she should pay for that with her own life.

I'm pretty sure there are some government operatives that could probably get the truth out of her (not that it would be admissible) but short of that, her lips are sealed for eternity. If there was ever any speculation that someone in the family might crack, that was squashed when we witnessed LA's depo.

JMHO as always.

 

[Themis]

When the jury returns with a verdict of guilty because they have decided the facts support each element of the charged offense beyond a reasonable doubt. Not just spouting legal stuff. The whole process of criminal justice and civil litigation is meant to bring an end to the matter. We cannot go back in time, so this is the closest we have been able to come to a conclusion or resolution, as a society and in our present human experience. Then, we move on; as we must.

 

[Themis]

:Welcome-12-june: to WS, from a former lurker.

If justice requires a plea deal and that means I never know the answers, I can live with that. But, I'd rather know than not.

A plea deal has the same result; it brings a resolution or conclusion to the matter for the benefit of society. Yes, the appeals phase must be exhausted too. The part that is core to this is that the person seeking the truth must understand that we are human and this is the best institution our society has developed for seeking truth, justice and conclusion or resolution. We cannot know the perfect truth. Only God is all knowing. We remain human. Society and individuals must move on.

 

[Themis]

I am a problem-solver by nature and by trade. I usually can't rest until problems presented are neatly packaged and wrapped up nicely with a bow. I am having trouble with the fact that we may never know what really happened to Caylee. It's driving me crazy, and I think it's what brings me back here day after day looking for the latest news. I'm just not used to facing the possibility that these cases are sometimes never resolved.

I know this isn't the first case like this in history, but it is the first for me. For those of you who have been through this before, how do you cope with not knowing? How do you know when to quit looking for clues, if ever?

How do you feel good about the "killer" being jailed for life, when there is no way of knowing what happened for sure? Don't get me wrong, I personally believe in KC's guilt just as much as the rest of you, but without knowing what really happened

So, back to my original point - I think I'll still feel like this is an unsolved case, even if KC is convicted and jailed. (based on the evidence we have today). Will you?

I want to especially thank you, Sua_Sponte, for asking this question. It is one of the most profound questions in our human experience. It went to the core of why society has a criminal law system with investigators, courts, prosecutors, judges, defense, witnesses and evidence examination. We all need resolution, however, because we are human, we can't have it. We will never know the perfect truth. Each witness can observe an event and see it differently. The same document is subject to interpretation. We may get it wrong. We need to protect rights that we value as developed through the ages. We need to correct what we now know are the abuses of the ages. The search for the perfect truth is endless and we continue to grow and strive, hopefully on the path to that destination. In the meantime, we need to have some dispute resolution for the matters of our time. For this purpose, we have developed law and justice. It is a noble calling.

 

[sweetmop]

This case has haunted me. And i think if we knew all of the horrid details it may be more than we can take. The thoughts of someone killing another human being is beyond the realms that my mind will go. I am a nurse and I take care of sick babies and children. I really couldn't stomach the gory details of this case, I don't think. because I fear that the details are just that... gory! I truely believe this was no accident. It was planned. why would you need duct tape if it were indeed an accident. If it were an accident, why didn't the 'loving mother of the year' call 911?
The Jessica Lunsford case was another case that haunted me, and it haunts me still. That beautiful little girl taken from her bedroom, raped and tortured by that disgusting , then buried alive in his yard! These details sicken me, and I don't know how Marc Lunsford has carried on his life with sanity!
I believe that Casey Anthony is evil, and she killed her daughter in a fit of rage, compounded with jealousy and revenge toward her mother. I really wish she would fry, but I hope her mind tortures her of her sickening act all the rest of her miserable life each time she closes her eyes to sleep!

 

[Chezhire]

A plea deal has the same result; it brings a resolution or conclusion to the matter for the benefit of society. Yes, the appeals phase must be exhausted too. The part that is core to this is that the person seeking the truth must understand that we are human and this is the best institution our society has developed for seeking truth, justice and conclusion or resolution. We cannot know the perfect truth. Only God is all knowing. We remain human. Society and individuals must move on.

Couldn't have said it any better, Themis. At the end of the day, we have to deal with the fact that there are other human beings on this planet that are incapable of acting as such. It's horrible, but true, and the sooner one accepts that fact and, after justice is served, move on, the better.

:cry: I have done a good bit of this throughout this case. It has hurt to the core of my very soul. :cry: I try not to think too, too much about Caylee's final moments - the tears well up every time. I shut them out, so I can focus on seeing justice served (much like criminal attorneys sometimes, more often than not, represent defendants they know are guilty.)

 

[KR2tonenow]

Does it really matter to me the precise details of how she died? No, I rather not know to be honest. I am pretty sure why and when this all went down as, imho, this scenario plays out over and over across America with the same MO all the time, just different players. I do want to see justice for Caylee though, she deserves it.

We can try and read into the mind of the killer, but somehow we never get all the answers. I feel confident that the State has done a thorough and exhaustive case for Caylee. The dream team the defense has worries me a bit, but I really think we are going to get a conviction.

Details of ones death doesn't put your mind at rest. It would be better not to know ALL of it.

That is why we will not see the skull, etc. Enough of us are haunted as it is.

 

[cecybeans]

This case has so many fascinating and different unknowns, variables, tangents and key players that it is hard not be very frushstrated.

I am therefore developing an unhealthy relationship with rum raisin ice cream...