BritsKate
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Bouncing off the closed thread...some seem to be confusing Travis being mean, name-calling, or expressing anger with Jodi (justifiably so imo) as signs of being an emotional abuser.
Psychological (aka emotional) abuse is far more insidious and pervasive than that though. It is a very complex series of tactics and ploys an abuser utilizes to control and subjugate another human being.
There is nothing (apart from Jodi's testimony) to illustrate a controlling, possessive, jealous or obsessive nature on Travis' part. Control is the absolute in abuse. It is why abusers abuse in the first place. Without any evidence of such a nature I cannot believe Travis was abusive. Even Jodi's account of how the relationship began is wholly inconsistent with the start of an abusive relationship. That Travis did not seek to make the relationship more permanent very early on is more evidence it was likely not abusive. These are very basic elements found in nearly all abusive relationships - from physical to psychological, and everything in between.
Jodi's own actions are very inconsistent with being in fear of Travis much less being a victim of psychological abuse. Precious few, if any, victims would risk the audacity of snooping through their abuser's phone and online accounts, slash their abuser's tires, send threatening emails to their abuser's new potential love interest, move 1000 miles closer to their abuser post-relationship, confide in their abuser's friends about their unhappiness, etc.
MOO
Psychological (aka emotional) abuse is far more insidious and pervasive than that though. It is a very complex series of tactics and ploys an abuser utilizes to control and subjugate another human being.
There is nothing (apart from Jodi's testimony) to illustrate a controlling, possessive, jealous or obsessive nature on Travis' part. Control is the absolute in abuse. It is why abusers abuse in the first place. Without any evidence of such a nature I cannot believe Travis was abusive. Even Jodi's account of how the relationship began is wholly inconsistent with the start of an abusive relationship. That Travis did not seek to make the relationship more permanent very early on is more evidence it was likely not abusive. These are very basic elements found in nearly all abusive relationships - from physical to psychological, and everything in between.
Jodi's own actions are very inconsistent with being in fear of Travis much less being a victim of psychological abuse. Precious few, if any, victims would risk the audacity of snooping through their abuser's phone and online accounts, slash their abuser's tires, send threatening emails to their abuser's new potential love interest, move 1000 miles closer to their abuser post-relationship, confide in their abuser's friends about their unhappiness, etc.
MOO
Are you kidding me...a mistrial?!!!!
