I run the gamut of emotions with both of these people. Of course sadness someone is dead.
But anger at them both too.
I just want to scream to her get a hold of yourself move on and get some professional help with the emotions.. and him, well, lesson learned too late, don't involve someone in your life so deeply, trips, religion, work, a move to a new state, all these deep emotional speeches, and blogs and poems and you don't love her, you like the more upstanding Mormon girl. Even if women say "i know we are just friends" NO, no they don't.. many times what they say is not what they are feeling.
They shared way too much about their respective private lives, even if she did dupe him into a feeling of "its no big deal" we see other people and both are fine with it. woah.
And when a woman (or man) starts to act crazy, psycho, whatever your gut tells you, CUT them off. CUT them off 100%
She is "not" ok in the emotional department and he was a bit in la la land because of a physical relationship and this was the perfect storm.. a bad one.