I know there's a lot of Jill bashing going on and I do understand to some degree.
However, back in one of the early threads, I posted that, if there were ONE Duggar who would break some of the bonds, it would be Jill.
I also believe that Jim Bob didn't know enough about Derick Dillard when he gave his permission for her to be courted.
First of all, he is a college graduate and one of two children in the family. When their son was born, Jill made some comment that their children would go to college if they wanted to.
When they met (through JB), Derick was a missionary in Nepal. JB accompanied Jill there to visit him. When they first met, future husband gave her a massive full, frontal hug. (JB quickly broke that up.) Their common goal was to be missionaries. Most missionaries I know have to raise the money to survive. I've been to many a church service where collections are taken up to support missionaries from their denomination.
Jill wanted to be a midwife. Her sister Jana went to classes with her since she couldn't go alone. Her midwifery goal was shut down before she could become certified (as in being able to earn a living with her training). She wanted to be able to deliver babies as part of her job as a missionary.
Now, Jill (freed to some degree) has finished her studies and is a certified midwife.
http://radaronline.com/celebrity-news/jill-duggar-derick-dillard-announce-baby-news-midwife/
Now, she is attending language school so she can better communicate in her chosen way of life with her husband and son. I'm sure Spanish wasn't one of the classes she took while being home-schooled.
What's so bad about that?
I'm not a very religious person, but I respect other people's beliefs. I do draw the line with cults of any sort. But I'm sue the Dugger patriarch is surely not very happy with his daughter's version of what he has preached to her all her life.
If the Dillards run out of support, they can always come back to the USA and they BOTH can get jobs to earn more to go back.
My information about the Dillards comes from watching the program and following the tabloids.