Number 2 from SS's friends interview at bottom:
We really don't know what SS was going through but it reminded me of something I went through years ago that caused me to look for information. After adopting a teen who was one the of the most well behaved, polite, and kindest child I'd ever met she became pregnant at 16. She was a responsible and amazing mom. About 10 months later I was devastated to find out she was pregnant again. She came from a troubled past which no doubt attributed to the pregnancies but she did share with me that she felt like trash and thought no guy would ever want her after having the 1st baby so she fell for the first guy that showed interest and became pregnant again. Reading about it there are many women who are driven to have babies. A few examples from the linked article:
- {Some of the women were suffering with depression or panic attacks and yet when their youngest child became a toddler, they wanted another baby. These women can be driven to have more children in an effort to make up for some sort of void or loss, usually from their own unhappy childhood}
- {having babies to complete something in yourself that never got completed)
- {Babies — all new and cherubic and completely enthralled with their mothers — can bring profound joy. But when they enter toddlerhood and start developing independence and a mind of their own, some mothers miss the intenseness of the newborn period and want another baby even though that’s not in the best interests of the family}
My point? People assume that wanting sex is the reason unmarried women have babies and give unfair labels to the mothers. It's much easier to make a quick judgment than to think a little deeper as to why. But if you don't really know someone you can't fairly say either. My daughter could have been destroyed by the things people said about her. It may even have caused her to become who people were saying she was. But she overcame and grew to be an amazing & happy wife & mother. She worked hard to attain 2 college degrees (all while being a dedicated wife & mother), is very active in serving the community and is very well adjusted. Savannah has the same opportunity if found. I'm not posting this because I think people here are judging here. It's generally quite the opposite. I'm posting this after reading SS's friends comments in hopes of enlightening .
From linked article SS friend
“I think it’s crazy that people have the audacity to go on there [social media] and bash her when, No. 1, you don’t know what the girl was going through.
No. 2, you don’t personally know her and, No. 3, this very well could have been your family,” Speratos said}
Savannah Spurlock: Best friend says missing mom of twins is not on drugs, rarely goes out and ‘would have jumped’ from car before going to rural area with 3 men
Here is an article that explains more if anyone is interested:
Some women driven to ‘baby addiction’
Sorry for the long post
Its all JMHO
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