Kyron Horman's stepmother is a profile in contradictions....

[pufnstuf]

Here you go Puffy: This is the comment we are referring to. TIA'

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Again, that thread was closed by the moderator for a reason. I don't understand why the discussion is being renewed in this thread. Look at the closing comment by the moderator in that thread.

 

[surrogatemom]

Read the story. In the end, I just wanted to cry for Kyron, Baby K & J****. Those poor children.

 

[Calliope]

She was there from 7 to about 6 or whenever I got home. Not sure what you mean by pitch in --- like housework? cooking? I would say that it was minimal on my part. I did it on weekends, but not during the week. And it was not much as far as cleaning, laundry, etc. since everything was in order when I got home from work on Friday. I've never had or wanted a live in, so the nights and wee hours have always been all mine -- working or not.

Sounds nice. Like I said, wish I'd had a wife. But I would have settled for this lol.

 

[eyes4crime]

How is it that I manage to have the job I have without a woman to run life without me...????

You know - I have a hard time with anyone who diminishes the role of a stay-at-home mom who is there 24/7 so hubby can move up the ladder and expand himself.

It's obvious Terri took great care of the children, everyone says she loves Kyron and her son, and her baby girl. I am stunned that people castigate the SAHM! from the eek squad!

 

[eyes4crime]

How is it that I manage to have the job I have without a woman to run life without me...????

Guess you didn't want the facade of marrying your nanny! lol My guess is that you and Kaine are two very different people. moo

 

[evelyn24]

I was thinking along the same lines...Kaine will soon realize (if he hasn't already) everything his wife did...

The issue to me, is that we *don't* know how much money he's talking about (Terri "wasting")--it could have been little things--we just don't know...

Oh I'm sure he realizes all she did, and is regretting ever meeting and marrying her.

 

[sorrell skye]

Sounds nice. Like I said, wish I'd had a wife. But I would have settled for this lol.

Me, too, Calli.

But I've got the Boy Toy. He mows the yard AND does the dishes! :dance:

I guess I better treat him right aye? Don't want him hiring a *landscaper* lol!

 

[pufnstuf]

You know - I have a hard time with anyone who diminishes the role of a stay-at-home mom who is there 24/7 so hubby can move up the ladder and expand himself.

It's obvious Terri took great care of the children, everyone says she loves Kyron and her son, and her baby girl. I am stunned that people castigate the SAHM! from the eek squad!

I don't think that the problem is that Terri was a SAHM.

You can't look at that one aspect in a vacuum. In context, she is a SAHM who was the last person to see the missing child alive, and she's obviously suspected by LE of having something to do with that child going missing.

In context, I think that's where the problem is.

What I get from the article is that she was good at what she did as a SAHM, but for some reason she sent her son J off when things got tough with him. And then Kyron disappeared for whatever reason.

In context, there's obviously a problem. Unless you feel that she's being unfairly targeted in the investigation.

 

[gardeness]

How is it that I manage to have the job I have without a woman to run life without me...????

Curious--are your children school-aged now?

IMO, working parents need quite a bit of support when their children are small~whether one parent stays home to take care of them, or both parents work and have to pay for childcare...

 

[gardeness]

Oh I'm sure he realizes all she did, and is regretting ever meeting and marrying her.

I'm not sure...at this point, could he be doubting who took his son? Does he feel he has to "stay the course"? I truly wonder!! :waitasec:

 

[Breathe]

Can I just ask off topic when someone says burning grass do they ever mean smoking mary jane?

in other words did burning grass mean smoking mary jane stuff?

I honestly don't know the answer. Anyone else?

 

[Calliope]

Again, that thread was closed by the moderator for a reason. I don't understand why the discussion is being renewed in this thread. Look at the closing comment by the moderator in that thread.

FWIW, I asked grandmaj about starting a thread regarding Terri's past, specifically wanting to ask you to clarify and source this information you posted. She said that was fine, and asked me something to the effect of finding another thread where it would fit but if not, it was ok to start a thread. I'm not much for call-out threads, so I figured I'd try to find one where it does fit. Since this article deals with her life and past, and it does bring up her arrest history for the DUI --- but no mention of other arrests --- I feel it fits well here and you could therefore clarify your claim that she was arrested for much more than the DUI. Arrest history is certainly more relevant to this case than what her MIL has to say about bouquets or her ex-roommate says about bookshelves left in the rain.

Thanks.

 

[pufnstuf]

Curious--are your children school-aged now?

IMO, working parents need quite a bit of support when their children are small~whether one parent stays home to take care of them, or both parents work and have to pay for childcare...

There are so many single women raising small children, working full time, attending college, maintaining a household, with very little support at all.

My hat's off to them. I know how hard it is. I did it.

 

[maconrich]

Interesting catch. My daughter did the same with my grandson; he still signs at times for fun (he's only 4 though).

It is an excellent way to communicate, and I can see how it could be helpful in any number of ways...

Hypothetically... if Kyron still understood sign language... could he have been persuaded to walk out the door of the school willingly - as in with little or no attention being drawn to him or whoever signed to him?

If the school had video cameras something like this might have been caught, but without them I think it's fair to think no one would ever be the wiser.

Then again Terri could have just whispered to him... It's late and my thoughts are getting blurry. :waitasec:

 

[eyes4crime]

I don't think that the problem is that Terri was a SAHM.

You can't look at that one aspect in a vacuum. In context, she is a SAHM who was the last person to see the missing child alive, and she's obviously suspected by LE of having something to do with that child going missing.

In context, I think that's where the problem is.

What I get from the article is that she was good at what she did as a SAHM, but for some reason she sent her son J off when things got tough with him. And then Kyron disappeared for whatever reason.

In context, there's obviously a problem. Unless you feel that she's being unfairly targeted in the investigation.

BBM

You say that Terri was the last person to see Kyron (alive is not the wording). Why are LE looking for an accomplice? Why are LE looking for someone who drove the truck after Terri? What about the child who saw Kyron after mom left? Sorry Puffy, that's a false statement by LE, at least now it is.

We really don't know what happened with her son, could very well be Kaine had something to do with his leaving. He was with Terri for 16 years and everyone said she loved him. I don't connect missing Kyron to son living with grandparents or father. I see no connection at all.

And yes, I do think she is being targeted unfairly. moo mho

 

[gardeness]

There are so many single women raising small children, working full time, attending college, maintaining a household, with very little support at all.

My hat's off to them. I know how hard it is. I did it.

So true. The support I'm referring to is childcare--whether it's paid for or done by family...

 

[mauirain]

ITA. It sounds like she had access to as much money as she wanted. And she spent it without consulting with him.

That's what you do in a marriage-consult about money. I work and my hubby works. He works out of town so I sign his name on his paychecks and deposit them in our account. He says that he doesn't think that he could sign his paycheck because they wouldn't accept his signature.

I spend what I want and he spends what he wants. But that's for daily things. Anything that is a purchase that is more money like even a hundred dollar item we discuss.

I feel that's what you do in a marriage so that everyone's needs are met without making your family go bankrupt. It's prudent.

It sounds like Terri has gone through a lot of money in her life and doesn't mind getting it from others.

I bet her former in-laws are upset that they paid for her very expensive education and then she stuck her ex with a hefty child support payment. That is just plain nasty. I would be enraged and feel totally used because MY child is being cheated (their son Richard)

Ugly ugly ugly

Oh yes, I totally agree. The reason I believe Kaine is he bought her a brand new car and bought the house she picked out, so that shows me that he is not controlling with money. I think he really tried to fix the marriage and make her happy, but I think she had other plans from the get-go........

What threw me for a loop was TH telling second husband and his parents that they are spending "her" son's inheritance???? NOW THAT IS DISTURBING!!!!!....:furious::banghead::furious:

 

[sorrell skye]

Kaine bought the house that Terri picked out - but he kept it in his name, even after they were married.

I wonder if the Mustang was in his name, as well, and that's perhaps why she left it behind.

 

[pufnstuf]

So true. The support I'm referring to is childcare--whether it's paid for or done by family...

I was lucky to have inexpensive daycare on the campus where I worked when my son was little. It was great. I was able to visit during the day, take him to lunch with me, stuff like that. I know I was lucky to have that, and I wish every parent had access to such a wonderful, flexible situation.

Edit to add: I know that Intel is supposed to be a fantastic company to work for, but I don't know if they have daycare on their Jones Farm campus. I believe that some Intel campuses do have daycare though.

 

[eyes4crime]

There are so many single women raising small children, working full time, attending college, maintaining a household, with very little support at all.

My hat's off to them. I know how hard it is. I did it.

Yup Puffy, I've been in all three scenarios.

Stay at home mom - babies small, married to the man I loved in high school and went through college with.

After my 1st husband died - I raised my children, worked, and went back to school for my advanced degree.

2nd marriage - worked and raised my family.

That doesn't make me better than the mom who stays at home. My mom was a SAHM and I was the envy of all my friends. I never once came home to an empty house - my mom was waiting to see me and my friends who all came home with me. moo mho