heartgoesout
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It might be very hard to believe you made a baby with someone who was capable of killing that same baby. Plus he says he fell for her story due to the track marks on her neck, which supposedly showed that she was being held hostage by MM.
Her own sister didn't believe she was wholly innocent and I think the sister knew her better than JA did.
We can conjecture about these things until the trial, but at the end of the day it's what comes up in the trial that will matter, and I hope both RB and MM get severe sentences for what they put that baby through!
I also think the conjecture as to JA's status as father is a bit pointless. The coroner's office is apparently prepared to release the body to him (as per one of the media articles), so it's possible that his name is on the birth certificate. It's hard to say things when he's not under suspicion, he might not be our favorite person of the year but he's not under suspicion.
Without seeing the birth certificate, we don't know what's written on it, and either way it doesn't pertain to the crime.
Whether JA ever met Bella, whether he kept in touch for news of her, whether he paid child support, or whatever the story is there, he's not under suspicion of killing her, and it is her death that has brought us all here.
He's not the only one who ever slept with a woman without a solid relationship and then left either before the baby was born or shortly after. For some of those men (where the woman has custody) it can be very hard to maintain a relationship, especially with a baby that can't even talk to them properly on the phone. When the absent parent lives in a different state and doesn't have money to go back and visit, then that's an added difficulty. Lots of people are living like this, and whether they're trying or not, their babies don't end up murdered! This child has, but he's not the murderer. JA's story is not an impressive one....but on the other hand due to someone else taking that child's life, he no longer has a chance to change that and make it up to Bella. I'm not trying to start a pity party for JA, I'm just saying that his part (or lack of) in Bella's life is not the crime that caused her to have a thread here. I can be unimpressed with his part as 'father' while still feeling no one deserves to get the news their baby has been mistreated and is now dead they'll never see her again.
I completely agree you you. He's getting a little more criticism than he deserves. Yes, he should have, could have, but not one of us is without mistakes and regrets. He did seem like he was working towards the right path before this mess happened. I do hope that from this point on, in his daughters name, he continues to make better choices for his own precious life and for those around him.