MA - Teen Pregnancy Pact

[deanws]

I am stunned! I think social services needs to step in and make sure that these girls are fit as parents to keep the babies once they are born.

 

[Amraann]

I agree, feeling grown up and secure is NOT what happens! I love my child more than anything in the world, but it's tough being a mom! And I have a husband who is a wonderful father. I was also 25 when I had my child. I definately did not feel secure! If anything, I went through feeling like I wasn't a good enough mother, I would screw up my kid, and like a failure. And I didn't even have PPD! It's the hardest job I've ever had in my life.

Because you were mature enough to understand the enourmous responsibility of it! These girls are not mature enough to understand that .... only mature enough to think they do.

 

[calidreamin]

I feel really sad for these girls and even worse for their babies. Just wait until they are up all night with a screaming baby that no matter what you do is still crying. If they are making a pact to get pregnant then they are definately not mature enough to be parents. Good lord also the article said one of the babies father's is supposedly a 24 year old homeless guy.

 

[Taximom]

Oh wait, I say we send all the students that want babies to Cali's house in about 6 months!

 

[calidreamin]

Oh wait, I say we send all the students that want babies to Cali's house in about 6 months!

Lol TM they should come to my house,that would bring them to their senses lol.

 

[pedinurse]

i am so glad that the NP and doc both resigned in protest...!!!!
our school had a "crack baby" doll that would cry incessently... it was horrible!!
teenagers do stupid things... but to do it with your body is taking it wayyyyyyyyyy too far!

 

[julie2]

Okay ya'll. I'm kind of new and have only posted a couple of times (I don't even know if I am doing it right). Anyway, I just have to tell you my story, which is kind of amusing.

My 19 year old daughter is pregnant and due in September. Her boyfriend is 18 and just graduated high school in May. (my daughter graduated in 2007). She didn't tell me she was pregnant until she was 12 weeks and the only reason she decided to tell me then was because they couldn't save enough money for an abortion. Her boyfriend found an ad for a "Free Abortion Clinic" on line and he took her there and it turned out to be a "Right To Life Clinic". They gave her a pregnancy test, it was positive and they wanted to do an ultra sound but my daughter and her boyfriend didn't have time because her boyfriend had to be home in 30 minutes or he would miss his curfew. This shows how young and immature they both were and I say were because they have both grown up A LOT in the past 3 1/2 months!

They are both very excited now and cannot wait for Kinsey to be born. Her boyfriend has really stepped up to the plate and takes very good care of her. She hasn't been able to work from being sick everyday. She has something called Beta-Strep and it causes kidney/bladder infections. She has only gained 7 lbs so far because of all of the throwing up. Her boyfriend buys her groceries every week and caters to her every wish. I have tried to stress to her how fortunate and lucky she is!!!

She didn't want to tell me about being pregnant, not because I would get angry or yell, but because she was afraid I would not let her have an abortion, which thank God she didn't!

It has all worked out for the best (I know the hard work is yet to come!). I just thank God she didn't get pregnant at an even earlier age.

Also, she was on birth control but was taking an antibiotic - so be careful!

 

[dee10134]

I didn't see this posted anywhere:

http://www.time.com/time/world/article/0,8599,1815845,00.html

Oh my God, what the hell is the world coming to. These girls probably looked up to the likes of Jamie Lynn Spears and wanted to be just like her. So stupid. They have NOOOOO idea what they've gotten themselves into and how hard it is going to be..........

And don't even get me on the topic of the "fathers!" It doesn't even appear that they had ANY standards or steady boyfriends for that matter.
A 24-year old HOMELESS guy?!? You have got to be kidding me!!! They say some of the other "fathers" are also in their mid-20s!!! What the hell?!? :furious: I most certainly hope there are some statutory rape charges ASAP for them.

 

[dee10134]

These girls have NOOO idea what they've gotten themselves into. I feel sorry for the taxpayers. And I hope like hell they prosecute the 20-somethings that impregnated them!!!

 

[January.]

These girls think babies are just a real life "doll" to dress up and show off to your friends. They have another thing coming, that's for sure.

OT but Shamrock- your avatar cracks me up! LOL! That is great!!

 

[evelyn24]

There's no stigma now a day.
How long before we read about one of their live in boyfriends beating their kid half to death?

 

[MeoW333]

That is the most insane thing i have heard of!! Wtf is going through these kids heads? Do they even have a brain? agh!

 

[Mygirlsadie]

I had all 3 of my kids by the time I was 23. I got preg. with my first at 17. All 3 of my babies slept through the night, none of them were cryers or screamers none of them had colic..they napped through out the day. I was just blessed with awesome babies. I have no complaints at all but I do have to say that since the day I found out I was preg. at 17 I gave up my life, my kids are my life but sometimes I do wonder if I would of waited a little bit what I would of done with myself. Now that my oldest is a teenager I feel like THIS is where the hard work comes in for me. She is a hand full. I guess you can't have your cake and eat it too lol.. I graduated high school pregnant and got married and we are still together and happy. I don't know what these girls plans are but it's time to figure something out!

 

[csds703]

Okay ya'll. I'm kind of new and have only posted a couple of times (I don't even know if I am doing it right). Anyway, I just have to tell you my story, which is kind of amusing.

My 19 year old daughter is pregnant and due in September. Her boyfriend is 18 and just graduated high school in May. (my daughter graduated in 2007). She didn't tell me she was pregnant until she was 12 weeks and the only reason she decided to tell me then was because they couldn't save enough money for an abortion. Her boyfriend found an ad for a "Free Abortion Clinic" on line and he took her there and it turned out to be a "Right To Life Clinic". They gave her a pregnancy test, it was positive and they wanted to do an ultra sound but my daughter and her boyfriend didn't have time because her boyfriend had to be home in 30 minutes or he would miss his curfew. This shows how young and immature they both were and I say were because they have both grown up A LOT in the past 3 1/2 months!

They are both very excited now and cannot wait for Kinsey to be born. Her boyfriend has really stepped up to the plate and takes very good care of her. She hasn't been able to work from being sick everyday. She has something called Beta-Strep and it causes kidney/bladder infections. She has only gained 7 lbs so far because of all of the throwing up. Her boyfriend buys her groceries every week and caters to her every wish. I have tried to stress to her how fortunate and lucky she is!!!

She didn't want to tell me about being pregnant, not because I would get angry or yell, but because she was afraid I would not let her have an abortion, which thank God she didn't!

It has all worked out for the best (I know the hard work is yet to come!). I just thank God she didn't get pregnant at an even earlier age.

Also, she was on birth control but was taking an antibiotic - so be careful!

I think it's great that your daughter has support and help.
This story is a completely different scenario. These girls went out of their way to get pregnant. One went as far as to sleep with a homeless 24 year old. I honestly do not believe that they are prepared to raise a child by themselves. Your daughter has you but babies are expensive. If they think their lives will be the same, they are sadly mistaken. If they think the baby will fill some void of unconditional love, they are mistaken.
This is a very strange pact and an even stranger decision.

 

[julie2]

CSDS I completely agree with you.

I just wanted to share my daughter's story.

I think those girls are looking for unconditional love. They don't realize what it takes to raise a child and how hard it is.

 

[csds703]

CSDS I completely agree with you.

I just wanted to share my daughter's story.

I think those girls are looking for unconditional love. They don't realize what it takes to raise a child and how hard it is.

My best wishes for your new grandbaby. :blowkiss:

 

[SewingDeb]

I feel a little better after reading this:

Officials: Principal has ‘foggy’ memory of pregnancy pact story
GLOUCESTER - In the strongest rebuff yet of the national “pregnancy pact” story that has scandalized Gloucester, top city and school officials say there’s no evidence that nearly half of the 17 pregnant teens at Gloucester High conspired to have babies together.

“We have not been able to confirm the existence of a pact,” said Gloucester Mayor Carolyn Kirk, trying to defuse the national story on the school’s teen baby mama drama. “The information from the principal has not been verified by any other source.”



http://news.bostonherald.com/news/regional/general/view.bg?articleid=1102625

 

[SewingDeb]

Julie, welcome to the forum. I am so glad things are working out well for your daughter.

 

[FLMom]

Okay ya'll. I'm kind of new and have only posted a couple of times (I don't even know if I am doing it right). Anyway, I just have to tell you my story, which is kind of amusing.

My 19 year old daughter is pregnant and due in September. Her boyfriend is 18 and just graduated high school in May. (my daughter graduated in 2007). She didn't tell me she was pregnant until she was 12 weeks and the only reason she decided to tell me then was because they couldn't save enough money for an abortion. Her boyfriend found an ad for a "Free Abortion Clinic" on line and he took her there and it turned out to be a "Right To Life Clinic". They gave her a pregnancy test, it was positive and they wanted to do an ultra sound but my daughter and her boyfriend didn't have time because her boyfriend had to be home in 30 minutes or he would miss his curfew. This shows how young and immature they both were and I say were because they have both grown up A LOT in the past 3 1/2 months!

They are both very excited now and cannot wait for Kinsey to be born. Her boyfriend has really stepped up to the plate and takes very good care of her. She hasn't been able to work from being sick everyday. She has something called Beta-Strep and it causes kidney/bladder infections. She has only gained 7 lbs so far because of all of the throwing up. Her boyfriend buys her groceries every week and caters to her every wish. I have tried to stress to her how fortunate and lucky she is!!!

She didn't want to tell me about being pregnant, not because I would get angry or yell, but because she was afraid I would not let her have an abortion, which thank God she didn't!

It has all worked out for the best (I know the hard work is yet to come!). I just thank God she didn't get pregnant at an even earlier age.

Also, she was on birth control but was taking an antibiotic - so be careful!

Welcome to WS!!! And congrats on Kinsey. .. I just love that name. Just so you don't feel like the Lone Ranger, thought I'd add my weekend.

My 19-yr old daughter came out to the kitchen and asked me if I had any "supplies" in my bathroom. Her younger sister, 15, looks over at her and says, "So, FINALLY?". One innocent remark sent me into a tizz-fest.

The 19-yr old has been dating the same guy for five years, granted. But COME ON!! Common sense, anyone? I got pregnant with her at the age she is now. When we planned on getting pregnant right away I had a whole different life in the works than she does. She just finished year one of college with five-plus to go and her only job so far lasted about five weeks. I wanted to throttle her. Her and boyfriend-o had a "whoopise" moment. I wanted to point to her brother and have him spin around and model what an "whoopsie" moment looks like 13 years down the road, but I behaved. (Disclaimer if my son ever reads this. Suprises are a good thing. I wanted you from the first episode of morning sickness. Your dad wanted you from the first time we saw that arrow on the ultrasound. You will always be my bonus baby, even though you're already taller than me.)

These kids in Mass. have no freakin' CLUE. If you want to plan your life around having kids, it's a pretty darn admirable profession. But this is such a wrong way of going about it. The kids of these kids are what worries me. When the novelty factor is over, real life gets pretty much hectic/mundane quick.

 

[LillyRush]

I think these reports that are coming out today where the mayor and other town council members are disputing the "pact" comment are irrelevant. Who cares whether or not it was really a "pact"? Why are they splitting hairs over one term that the principal used and not showing more concern over the actual problem?

Also, not one word has been mentioned about personal responsibility or steps that they are taking to address it. They keep talking about the media glamorizing pregnancy and how the No Child Left Behind act is affecting the funding that they receive for health ed.