Here's a few. Any more to add, or any that should be removed?
1. Available info says you were picked up after she was already in the car.
Where were you picked up?
What time of day? 10, 12, 2, 4
What was in the car when you got in?
a. food? from where?
b. drinks? from where?
c. clothing/personal belongings?
3. what clothing was she wearing? dress? shorts? long pants?
a. was she carrying a purse?
b. was she wearing perfume?
c. shoes?
4. what did she talk about?
a. did she have a recognizable accent?
b. did she talk like English was/wasn't her first language?
c. slang or annoying phrases?
d. other places she'd been
e. her voice: high & girlish, deeper like an adult, raspy like
a long-time smoker?
5. what music was on the radio? who picked it? (for example: he was playing _____
and she didn't like it because she only listens to _______)
6. was she drinking/smoking? did she bring her own?
7. what was the most annoying thing about her?
8. do you remember what year/model cadillac?
Okay, as for asking her questions if she complies with me, and if it is her.. I decided that I am only going to ask her questions that will help find MJD an identity. I don't want her to feel as though I want her to replay the entire event, as that isn't even relevant to identifying her.
Fmw63, these are good questions to ask. I came up with a list of my own that I feel she will be able to answer in confidence.
1. Do you remember what she was discussing with you guys about in the car? If so, what?
a. did she talk about any other people she knew? (i.e. "Can we stop at my friend ______'s house first?)
2. Did she have an apparent accent? Did she speak any other languages?
a. Hispanic
b. Slavic/Russian
c. European
d. Regional American (northern, southern, eastern, western)
3. Do you remember what she was wearing?
4. After you were all piled into the car, did you stop anywhere between where you were picked up and the location of the event?
5. Did she give any warning or indication that she was going to expel herself from the vehicle?
6. Did she smoke?
7. What was her body language like?
a. scared
b. depressed
c. nervous
d. happy
e. excited
f. relaxed, laid back
8. If I showed you a few reconstructions of what she may have looked like, do you think you may be able to identify which one looked most like her?
Do those sound okay?