ME ME - Ayla Reynolds, 20 mnths, Waterville, 17 December 2011 - # 2

[deoneta]

Speculation in that LE is tight-lipped & not providing add'l information & telling us that both parents are cooperating with LE . . . why would LE tell the parents it is okay to go to MSM when they/LE are/is so tight-lipped?

Maybe LE gave them no parameters?

Maybe the father/father's family is letting LE control the issue, not the MSM

Must be that LE gave the parents no parameters. The Mother and her family are going to the media, and LE has said both parents are cooperating. All MOO.

 

[cluciano63]

IIRC, it is only hearsay that he was trying for custody. In fact, we have heard conflicting statements that he was forced into caring for Ayla, that he demanded custody of Ayla, that DFACS assigned him custody of Ayla, that it was just a decision between dad and mom while she went to rehab. We really do not know what the truth is in regard to the custody situation.

That said, a broken arm is pretty serious, I agree, and you would think he'd make it a priority to get her there. Do we know for certain that he didn't or didn't even try? I thought that was only the mom's statement. Is there proof from the doctor?

Do we know what his work situation is? Do we know if Ayla is insured? Is it possible he wasn't able to leave work to take her and so he called to cancel? Maybe he would have had to have the full amount of the doctor's bill if they were not insured and if he couldn't pay they wouldn't be able to see Ayla. If you are self-pay, doctors usually make you pay up front before you go in for your exam. I know because although my daughter is covered under her dad's insurance, I am uninsured and I have to pay up front. And it is quite costly.

I just honestly think there is so much spin already in this case that the pitifully few hard facts we have are all but buried. I need more info, not hearsay before I can point a finger.

I wasn't saying he IS trying for custody...just that IF he is, missing doctor's visits is not the way to start out.

 

[katydid23]

Seems to be in response to all of mom's talk in media appearances. I read the article and dad seems to be communicating only with LE. I don't understand why mom needs to continue her public attacks on dad. I am sure he could say a great deal about her unstable lifestyle.
I guess it is the finger pointing and attacks on dad, these are behaviors that make me wonder about mom. Nothing is her fault, everything is dad's fault, he has connections with DHS, etc.
There is much we do not know.
However, this child disappeared in dad's care. I have to wonder.

I agree. She and her family have done a non-stop assault on the father, and some of the things she has said are inconsistent with the facts. So I have some problems with the way mom is presenting herself so far.

 

[cluciano63]

To me, Mom is reacting emotionally and instinctively, even if she tends to spend too much time blaming Dad. Dad's statement comes 5 days in, seems very calculated to me, not at all spontaneous. Just an observation and my opinion of course.

 

[Hazel]

UPDATE: Father of missing toddler speaks for first time

Updated at 9:20 p.m.

http://www.onlinesentinel.com/news/breakingnews/Father-of-missing-toddler-speaks-for-first-time.html

 

[Pensfan]

Well, I agree missing an appointment is unusual. It's hardly criminal, though.

My ex and I have very open custody and often he has our daughter on days she is to see the orthodontist. He has TWICE missed her appointments even with my reminders (or nagging, depending on how you see it, lol). Doesn't make him a bad dad, just a space case. And Ayla's dad was pretty new to being a parent, from what I have gathered.

And as I have stated before, I used to check on my daughter before I went to bed, which was usually 2-3 hours after she was put to bed and I did not get up during the night to check on her. That would mean she easily slept alone, in her own room, in her own bed, for 10 or so hours without being checked. (This was when she was around Ayla's age)

And I am a darned good parent. Every parent and every child is different. A good parent meets their child's needs. It is honestly that simple.

I am not saying dad isn't responsible for Ayla's disappearance, and I believe he should be considered a POI, but the child sleeping for 12 hours isn't proof of anything, IMHO.

During the healing of a fracture or sprain, the orthopedist reviews bone positioning. Nerve conduction and blood perfusion distal to the injured area must also be assessed to determine if the patient's perfusion, sensory, and motor functions are impaired. Alya's extremity could become paralyzed/useless if the bone is not aligned correctly and it damages one or several nerves. Also, an improperly fitting cast could cause tissue/muscle death which would then requires surgery to release the compressed muscles and remove the dead tissues. It is a big deal that dad missed the orthopedic appointment, IMO.

Pensfan
verified psychiatric mental health nurse

 

[katydid23]

So what is this I heard about the Dad saying tot he mom, that he was 'afraid' that someone was going to kidnap the baby? WTH? Does anyone know what that was all about?

 

[lauriej]

Yeah I agree. If she filed custody papers the day before that could easily be proven too.

http://www.onlinesentinel.com/news/No-a ... -case.html
Father's vehicle seized; toddler still missing
--snipped--

Reynolds had filed a complaint against DiPietro for determination of paternity, parental rights and responsibilities and child support, according to documents obtained Monday from Cumberland County Superior Court in Portland.

 

[cluciano63]

http://www.onlinesentinel.com/news/No-a ... -case.html
Father's vehicle seized; toddler still missing
--snipped--

Reynolds had filed a complaint against DiPietro for determination of paternity, parental rights and responsibilities and child support, according to documents obtained Monday from Cumberland County Superior Court in Portland.

I wonder if Dad knew about this.

 

[matou]

This case is all about custody of Ayla, IMO. Soooo tired of this. Bring the baby back safe now.

 

[Adrienne37]

Do we have proof at this point from LE that Ayla did in fact miss a doctor's appt on Friday or is this only coming from the mother's side of the family? TIA.

 

[FrayedKnot]

I wasn't saying he IS trying for custody...just that IF he is, missing doctor's visits is not the way to start out.

Couldn't agree more. Especially in light of the fact that Ayla's arm was broken on his watch.

 

[SmoothOperator]

All I know is that tho the mother, Trista does not appear to be extremely accurate and/or completely honest with multiple details as far as I can tell.. And tho, I find that concerning and disheartening, especially at a time such as this.. I must however say that I personally can see no avenue that allows for her, her family, or someone acting on her behalf could have been able to possibly enter into this home on Violetta Street that during the hours in question were not only occupied by the several that lived there(both adults and children).. But there were even more adults present throughout that home during the duration of the time in question.. Even without the extra people in the household and it just being JD and his extended family present in the home I can find no believable way that this mom, her family, or someone on her behalf could have possibly entered the home not to mention making their way all the way thru the home up to the attic where Ayla was sharing a "bedroom" with another child..

Therefor for me, personally tho, I find the mom and much of what she has stated to be "iffy" at best as far as accuracy and honesty.. I still can find no believeable avenue for there to be the slightest opportunity for her or anyone on her behalf to have stolen Ayla from the dad's home.. It's just not possible..

So while I do not believe everything that's coming from her mouth I don't believe she would even be capable of having knowledge of where her daughter is and to keep it under wraps.. No way.. On the other hand not having any knowledge of dad or his family my hope at this point is that they are however capable of having hid her with someone/somewhere and are efficiently keeping that info under wraps.. The longer this continues the less that possibility holds water for me.. As the harder this investigation gets, the rougher and more invasive and uncomfortable it gets and we still see no one on his side cracking and giving up where or who has hidden Ayla.. Obviously the less likely that it's such a positive outcome..

Can only wait and see at this point, sadly..

 

[CanManEh]

Im gonna quit comenting on this here thread or i can see how this ends for me . And i just got back from a 4 day Banned...

 

[FrayedKnot]

During the healing of a fracture or sprain, the orthopedist reviews bone positioning. Nerve conduction and blood perfusion distal to the injured area must also be assessed to determine if the patient's perfusion, sensory, and motor functions are impaired. Alya's extremity could become paralyzed/useless if the bone is not aligned correctly and it damages one or several nerves. Also, an improperly fitting cast could cause tissue/muscle death which would then requires surgery to release the compressed muscles and remove the dead tissues. It is a big deal that dad missed the orthopedic appointment, IMO.

Pensfan
verified psychiatric mental health nurse

No, I get that, but do we know for a fact that he actually missed the appt? Or that perhaps if he didn't have enough money for the bill, assuming Ayla was one of the millions of children without access to healthcare, that he had to reschedule the appointment for a day when he got his paycheck?

Again, I don't know if he even HAD a job, if Ayla HAD insurance, or if dad really DID skip the appointment. All we have is mom's statements. I mean, he could have rescheduled for the next day, but how would we know?

I mean if we go by MSM reports, everything is contradicted by yet another MSM report. Maybe the orthopedist has made a statement?

 

[Bodhi]

Has the mother ever said how she knows Ayla missed a doctor's appointment on Friday?

I'm wondering that too, my_tee_mouse. Ayla's mother and her relatives have given details in their comments to reporters that made me wonder how they would know that.

Also, if Ayla had been living with her maternal grandmother (and mother) since she was born, it seems more likely that Ayla was removed from grandmother's care because of issues there than because the state agency has 'something against our family' as the grandmother has claimed. Perhaps Ayla's younger brother was actually being cared for by another family member, in a different household, or did not have a father who could provide care for him.

 

[FrayedKnot]

Do we have proof at this point from LE that Ayla did in fact miss a doctor's appt on Friday or is this only coming from the mother's side of the family? TIA.

I haven't seen anything other than the mom's statement. That is not to say there wasn't a link I missed. :dunno:

 

[cluciano63]

I'm wondering if Mom contacted the doctor yesterday to check on the appointment, since she was questioning when Ayla was really last seen...JMO.

 

[FrayedKnot]

This case is all about custody of Ayla, IMO. Soooo tired of this. Bring the baby back safe now.

It's been a long time ago, but I remember in Sunday School learning this story of wise King Solomon.

He was confronted with two women, both claiming to be the mother of an infant. They each asked the king to give them possession of the baby.

Solomon told the women that since he could not say for sure which of the women was really the baby's mother, he would simply cut the child in two and award each woman one half.

One woman agreed that was a fair decision, while the other fell to the ground sobbing and told the king to just give the baby to the other woman.

The wise king knew then that the baby's real mother was the woman who would rather see her baby be given to the other woman than for it to be cruelly killed.

No need to really elaborate. It is a sad allegory on most modern custody fights.

 

[ynotdivein]

I am sure this article from the Morning Sentinel has been posted... but wanted to repost as the photo of the Messalonskee drained is quite striking. IMO, LE is going to all possible lengths to find Ayla. May she be found soon.

http://www.onlinesentinel.com
/news/weve-ruled-nothing-out_2011-12-20.html

http://media.timesleader.com/images/0ayla1Dec21.jpg