I hear you about the judging thing but under these circumstances, I can't help but to judge. Why?
Because in my heart of hearts I believe when bb married his wife, (who we already know had her life taken from her by his design), he already understood she wasn't into the same sexual acts that he KNEW he needed in his life. You can't pick a wife who does her best to raise your children and present herself well to the community to hide behind and then, at the same time, carry on with your wicked ways (lying and cheating).
bb should have found a better match for himself from the start. I hate men like him because they feed off of other peoples' goodness and cause sickness in those who would otherwise be well. So, yes, I judge.
I could care less what two people do together when they aren't hurting one another - just have no desire to know about the details of their private lives. To me, these particular behaviors are weird. Straighter laced people are entitled to their own opinions too.