Odd, that there is so much discussion about black parents warning about interactions with the police.
My parents had the exact same conversation with me, repeatedly. I'll admit as a teen, I was mouthy and sometimes defiant.
But the talks my parents had with me sank in... I was NEVER mouthy or defiant to a cop...ever. And it would never even cross my mind to.
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This is where it rises to a new level. I agree that a parent whose children are "white" doesn't have the history that a parent that is not white does.
So, I guess the level of fear isn't comparable. I know how I was raised. I was raised to respect authority period, maybe that wasn't really right. If I even get pulled over, I immediately panic (for real). I get dry mouth, can't think straight, start crying and shaking and look like I am guilty of something... I tell them I'm not trying to get out of a ticket, I have a police phobia. If a patrol car pulls up behind me in traffic, I get palpitations.
yep I am a loser!
Not the kids aroind here! If a cop pulls up thses little dudes are readt for a fight, none of them respect adults. They play "nice" around their parents to suck up only. Theyvwalk in the middle if the street. And they don't move for most people.
Unless you can one up them in the mind game department they are absolute nightmares. Luckily they are scared or my husband because he has never cowarded to them. He has snuck up behind them and layed on the horn, he video taped them scattering and said if they don't get out of the way from now on he will post it on TV and embarrass them...
Bully vs bullies I guess.
Anyway to my point... it's the "them" vs "us" mentality IMOO.
I saw it in thw kids in my neighborhood. Sweet guys/girls, that changed overnight. It was scary. I started doing research and I found that this occurs in many middle school aged kids. It happens when they are trying to assert their independence, which they should, but it goes haywire. They get this idea in their heads , as many of us did, how stupid adults are and that they know everything. Most grow out of it. Many in my area don't. I find it rediculous that 17, 18, 19 year old "children" are still in the same mind frame of 12 year olds.
In fact I was so concerned about my kids taking on the mass mentality that I pulled them out of middle school and tried to teach them to "do unto others"
I let them go back in high school and guess what?
The kids were doing the opposite. Treat people like crud, until they give you a reason not to. Many of these kids still haven't grown up, I don't get it. Guess what they are doing now! killing themselves!!! 21-26 years old, and they are dropping dead... everywhere. My son graduated in 2011. His class was about the same size as mine. I graduated in 85, My class has lost 8 graduates. My son has lost 22!!! That isn't counting about 16 friends from other classes that have died. They OD, on purpose, on accident, they get shot, they drown, they have single car wrecks... It really sucks.
Something happens to these kids around 6th grade, the "us" verses "them" mentality.
Kids vs grown ups. It not purple or green or yellow or black or white and around here it hasn't been for a long time.
These "kids" hate every d@mn person in authority period. End of story.
If there is a silver lining at all it's that everyone of them as far as I can tell is "colorblind"
and I want to be happy about that.
sigh... they need to stop dying!
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