MO - Megan Meier, 13, Mentally Abused, Commits Suicide

[golfmom]

On the third page of the police report:

"Drew wished the current tension in the neighborhood to be documented in case any of her property is damaged. Further, Drew insisted on contacting the Meier family to “inform them of what she knows.” Drew stated she “just needed” to tell them to relieve herself of the “responsibility” and apparent guilt."

She's worried about her property and want to relieve herself of her responsibility and guilt. It's all about her ... :banghead: :banghead: :banghead:

 

[Littledeer]

This person (heck don't even want to use that word), has absolutely no morals, values, other than her own self preservation and how her world is not going as she planned it.

I am totally dumbfounded that she has no remorse, no nothing, except WOE IS ME. She deserves everything she gets.

But does her husband and her daughters????? Like I said, this is going to eventually turn into an even more tragic case eventually.

 

[bnhall]

The website posted above (http://pysih.com/2007/11/19/lori-drew/) had details I hadn't read before, like the private information shared with Josh being spread around publically. It sounds like Megan may have figured out she was being scammed prior to her death.

That link gives a great overview of what happened. Did anyone go to the blog supposedly written by a girl that Megan went to school with? All kinds of people are coming out of the woodwork now.

 

[golfmom]

Well, I guess the Megan had it coming blogger accidentally outed themselves.

The anonymous post dated 9/19 at 8:00 p.m.
http://www.mycrimespace.com/2007/11/16/megan-meiers-tormentors-named/
Is almost IDENTICAL to the blog, however, instead of referring to her as Lori Drew, she refer to her as her mother.
How sad, this is certainly a reflection of what she's learning at home.
Sounds like she and her mother have spent a year around the dinner table justifying their actions. I'd be horrified if one of my girls were involved with something like this!
Somehow, Lori Drew reminds me of Jackie Peterson: Deny, Deny, Deny

 

[angelmom]

Somehow, Lori Drew reminds me of Jackie Peterson: Deny, Deny, Deny

OMG!!! You're right!!!

YIKES.

 

[SeekingJana]

After reading the report on TSG, if the account was created a year ago for the sole purpose of harrassing Megan, and if the communication did become sexually explicit, then I have to wonder why Megan's parents didn't close and delete her account? They have said they were " monitoring" her online activities. At what point would it have become bad enough to close the account? Everyone knows that MySpace admin. could care less what happens on their site between members. The solution is to delete and leave.
If they had shut down the online communication when it became intense, the perp. wouldn't have had her audience and would have stopped whatever insane stuff she was posting. Maybe even before it got to the imaginary " Josh" stage.

It's obvious that Lori Drew didn't act like a responsible adult or parent, but I'm not sure that Megan's mother didn't play right into her hands by keeping the MySpace account open and reading the messages. I keep wondering if there may be a huge backstory of acrimony between the Meiers and the Drews, with the two girls being used as pawns. The final act of Megan's parents smashing a game table seems to indicate that none of the parents conducted themselves in a mature and adult way.
Also, why was Megan allowed to have a MySpace account before she was old enough to open one according to the site's rules?

I tend to think that most of us would have removed ( rescued) our 13 year old child from a situation of being bullied at school to the point of needing professional help and prescription medication to cope and would have sought alternative schooling for him or her. The facts that she had psychiatric care, had threatened suicide previously and was on anti-depressant medication, yet wasn't given an alternative education bothers me as does the psychotic woman who produced the Internet part of the distress.

I'm sorry but I don't see good or responsible parenting anywhere in this tragedy.

 

[Littledeer]

Oh, she actually tells a police officer which is written in the report,

"she wants to relieve her "RESPONSIBILITY".....................?????????????

I bet that police officer who had to sit there and listen to her wanted to cuff her at the spot or else slap her along both sides of the face!!!

 

[bnhall]

I wonder what exactly was meant by "sexual." It might be more innocent than LD made it sound. Or it might not. If not, like others have said, maybe they can arrest her for some kind of internet sex offense since she is an "adult" (at least in age).

 

[Littledeer]

Jana:

Excellent post! I don't much about Myspace, but could Megan have deleted any reference to "sexual" prior to her mother reading her myspace account?

If so, that would explain why her Mom was not aware that it had progressed to that point. From what I have read, it appeared that her Mom was monitoring the situation. True, your perception of monitoring would be different from my perception of monitoring.

 

[golfmom]

I'm sorry but I don't see good or responsible parenting anywhere in this tragedy.

Just my opinion, but I view Megan's parents major crime of being naive and Lori Drew as extraordinarily cruel.

I don't think that there was bad blood between the parents until after Megan's family found out Lori Drew's responsibility in their daughters death. Lori attended the funeral and Megan's parents were on friendly enough terms to have been storing the Fooz Ball Table for them. They've been a class act in refusing to name the Drew's in the press in order to protect the Drew's daughter from this mess.

 

[bnhall]

Jana:

Excellent post! I don't much about Myspace, but could Megan have deleted any reference to "sexual" prior to her mother reading her myspace account?

If so, that would explain why her Mom was not aware that it had progressed to that point. From what I have read, it appeared that her Mom was monitoring the situation. True, your perception of monitoring would be different from my perception of monitoring.

From what I understand, only her mother had the myspace password. Therefore, she had to log in and had first opportunity to read the messages. However, since she approved all of the kids on Megan's friends list, she probably didn't feel like she had to monitor every single message. I'm sure she's regretting it now that it's too late. I feel so sorry for Megan's parents. Just like with any tragedy, I'm sure they are playing the "what if" game in their heads.

 

[Littledeer]

Megan's parents have carried themselves way above the caliber of the Drew family.

It's a shame that their marriage had to crumble with all of the stress.

 

[2luvmy]

I just don't see the blame on the parents. I am sure if all of us as parents got together to discuss our parenting styles and what we do or do not let our children do, each of us would find fault with another or determine that so and so are either too strict or too lax.

The fact is, a parent went overboard and entered into an arena where she could play mind games with the vulnerable psyche of a teenager. I have lost count on how many times my teenage daughters have thought a scenario was so catastrophic and I hadn't a clue what they thought was so serious. To Megan being humilated by her peers and having her peers bear witness to the humiliation was too much for her to handle and it happened at a time when her mother was not able to diffuse the situation because she was not at home.

We don't know what the Meier's physician prescribed Megan or what type of stress level her parents were told that Megan could handle.

 

[golfmom]

For anyone who's been following this, the article below really goes in depth as to what actually occurred.

http://stcharlesjournal.stltoday.com/articles/2007/11/10/news/sj2tn20071110-1111stc_pokin_1.ii1.txt

 

[Paladin]

Well, those articles thoroughly depressed me.

 

[SeekingJana]

From the link above, regarding the Meier family's actions since Megan committed suicide:
Ron faces a misdemeanor charge of property damage. He is accused of driving his truck across the lawn of the family down the street, doing $1,000 in damage, in March. A security camera the neighbors installed on their home allegedly caught him.

Vicki Dunn, Tina's aunt, last month placed signs in and near the neighborhood on the anniversary of Megan's death.
They read: "Justice for Megan Meier," "Call the St. Charles County Prosecuting Attorney," and "MySpace Impersonator in Your Neighborhood."

I guess the high road hasn't really been taken by any adult in the case...and I read today that the Meiers are in the process of filing lawsuits, one against MySpace. The sad thing is that Megan violated MySpace age registration rules twice that is documented, so I don't see how they can win. But at least they are going after the deep pockets.

I feel extremely sad that Megan died, and I will never understand why the Drew woman did what she did.
However, I don't see any adult as being vigilent with their child or children in this very troubling tragedy.

 

[IdahoMom]

From the link above, regarding the Meier family's actions since Megan committed suicide:
Ron faces a misdemeanor charge of property damage. He is accused of driving his truck across the lawn of the family down the street, doing $1,000 in damage, in March. A security camera the neighbors installed on their home allegedly caught him.

Vicki Dunn, Tina's aunt, last month placed signs in and near the neighborhood on the anniversary of Megan's death.
They read: "Justice for Megan Meier," "Call the St. Charles County Prosecuting Attorney," and "MySpace Impersonator in Your Neighborhood."

I guess the high road hasn't really been taken by any adult in the case...and I read today that the Meiers are in the process of filing lawsuits, one against MySpace. The sad thing is that Megan violated MySpace age registration rules twice that is documented, so I don't see how they can win. But at least they are going after the deep pockets.

I feel extremely sad that Megan died, and I will never understand why the Drew woman did what she did.
However, I don't see any adult as being vigilent with their child or children in this very troubling tragedy.

I disagree with your criticisms of the Meier family. While it's not OK to damage others' property, the Meiers have been remarkably restrained. I think most people would want their pound of flesh...and I mean that in a literal sense.

IMO :twocents:

eta: no disrespect to you, I just don't agree I'm sure the Meiers would turn back time THIS INSTANT if they could. It wasn't the Meiers that set out to hurt others.

 

[SeekingJana]

I disagree with your criticisms of the Meier family.

IMO :twocents:

That's fine. Everyone is entitled to their opinions. I always err on the side of the child in these horrible situations. I suppose it's a fault I will always have when there is evidence that a parent knew and allowed their child to be in a questionable situation. In this case, Megan's mother knew she broke the MySpace registration age rule twice and also that she had created a dummy account in order to get boys to talk to her.

At my house, that's when the computers would have been master password protected and locked except to the 2 adults in the home, and cell phones with internet capability would have been replaced with basic models.
Adults have to protect children from Internet predators. I saw an article on the news today that said there were over 30,000 convicted sex offenders on MySpace. They didn't say how many psycho mothers like the Drew woman are registered.

 

[IdahoMom]

That's fine. Everyone is entitled to their opinions. I always err on the side of the child in these horrible situations. I suppose it's a fault I will always have when there is evidence that a parent knew and allowed their child to be in a questionable situation. In this case, Megan's mother knew she broke the MySpace registration age rule twice and also that she had created a dummy account in order to get boys to talk to her.

At my house, that's when the computers would have been master password protected and locked except to the 2 adults in the home, and cell phones with internet capability would have been replaced with basic models.
Adults have to protect children from Internet predators. I saw an article on the news today that said there were over 30,000 convicted sex offenders on MySpace. They didn't say how many psycho mothers like the Drew woman are registered.

Thanks for sharing.

Parenting in this day and age certainly presents some unique challenges my parents didn't have! The internet can be a real curse!

 

[SeekingJana]

I disagree with your criticisms of the Meier family. While it's not OK to damage others' property, the Meiers have been remarkably restrained. I think most people would want their pound of flesh...and I mean that in a literal sense.

IMO :twocents:

eta: no disrespect to you, I just don't agree I'm sure the Meiers would turn back time THIS INSTANT if they could. It wasn't the Meiers that set out to hurt others.

I see you added to your post. I wanted to make sure I quoted the most current one. Thank you for your kind spirit and my replies are always meant with gentleness.

Maybe we are all different in our need for revenge or retribution, because I could never in a million years do anything to another person or their property. If I had the thought to do something harmful, I would pray without ceasing until I had a clear head.. I can say this because I have been through a devastating event which was out of my control with a child years ago. I can see how the Meier parents would move from the neighborhood, the town, maybe even out of the state because of the constant pain.

I was taught, and believe, that two wrongs do not make a right, and that the handing out of punishment is up to our justice system in this life and in God's hands in our eternal lives.