laurawlms
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Experts on the Twisted Reasons Why Some Husbands Kill Their Wives
I've done a fair amount of speculating on this thread about how DB might have carried out an abduction of RB and her dog Cerberus resulting in their demise. Until now, what I haven't attempted to address, are the possible motives for his actions. Of course this assumes DB harmed RB and her dog and they were not the victims of an accidental drowning, which has yet to be proved. (i.e. MOO)
The following is my list of potential motives (backed up by the above linked article):
1. DB acted out of revenge after RB filed assault charges against him and initiated a No Contact Order which was handed down in March, four months before her disappearance. He reportedly repeatedly threatened her life during this time.
2. DB's trial for the assault charge was scheduled for that September. Were his action a means of avoiding a conviction in court?
3. The fact that the family's PI, James Terry, indicated he had uncovered new information after talking with DB and mutual friends of RB and DB, leads me to propose another motive. Is it possible that RB had contacted a lawyer about initiating divorce proceedings and DB found out? This is something she may not have discussed with her family, but may have told a friend who may have leaked the information to DB.
4. I think other motives such as insurance money or jealousy are less likely.
Did I miss any? JMO
Thank you for pointing those potential motives out.
Although not a motive, the article states "Drugs and alcohol only fan the flames, since they interfere with self-control and judgement. All the motives I’ve mentioned are more likely to result in a lethal action in the presence of alcohol and drug intoxication.” DB has had a drug and alcohol problem for many years from what I have been told by those who have known him even before the relationship and marriage to RB. I have been told of other incidences of DB abuse towards RB. She finally got tired and brave enough to walk away.
I do believe DB was uncomfortable (maybe not jealous but enraged) that RB was making it on her own without him. We know from comments on other social media that DB was controlling of RB's social life outside the marriage and she lost contact with many friends (and family) once the relationship with DB began.
I think DB is a psychologically complex individual (and I am being nice stating it that way). I think that makes the disappearance of RB even more difficult to solve. The article further explains, "when it comes to solving these crimes, according to Dietz and Giacalone, the boyfriend or husband is the first suspect on the list." RB's missing case is the first missing wife case I have ever seen where the husband is not a suspect "and never will be" (Sheriff Toth).