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I have to admit that I don't know what DSMV means. What does it stand for?
It is the
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DSM-5
I have to admit that I don't know what DSMV means. What does it stand for?
There was blood evidence revealed with luminol, but it did not test positive with a confirmatory blood test. There wasn't enough evidence to suggest that someone was dismembered in the bathroom, but it's possible that a plastic sheet was laid down prior to the dismemberment.
This is kinda OT of today's testimony, but I think the prosecution needs to clearly show the H's financials to the jury.
Because it seems AH has all the money and allocates it to GH as needed. We know of one ATM transaction by GH, at the Blue Flower bar, in the early morning on July 14. This was right before his trip to the Brier Creek Walmart to buy the saw.
Most of the other money transactions are AH receiving deposits or $, and then her putting them into accounts and withdrawing at ATM's. I would love to see GH's debit card statement - how much did he have in his account on July 12, and what transactions occurred subsequently?
I think Amanda controlled everything financially. If he was sent out (IMO) to buy a saw, plastic, gloves, etc., she gave him the $ as needed. Then he needed coolers, she probably transferred more $ to him or gave him more cash. She funded all of his spending. I think she held him on a tight leash and knew and controlled everything.
I really believe she ran the show, and she sure as heck wasn't going to fund child support for GH's baby mama.
I think AM is smarter than we all believe. She was already starting to formulate her defense if required on that Wed morning before they left KB's house. Prior to the "Look me in the eye" conversation, she had been advised by Matthew Guddat that LE had picked Sha up for questioning, she knew LE was onto them. AH hired a PI wanting to know what evidence there was against them, AH was the brains in this outfit not GH. I believe & hope that the women on that jury will come to the conclusion that the cleaning of the bathroom was meticulous & it was done by a woman. If the jury can be convinced that AH had some hand in the clean up of the apartment then her whole defense story is shown to be what it is , total bs.
It wasn't actually a chainsaw, aa -- it was a reciprocating saw. (I only know what one is because my DH has one. Here's what it looks like:
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I'm sure this type saw would also make (please excuse) splatter, etc., but prolly not as much as a chain saw. They would have still have had quite a clean-up. I don't know how loud they are, but some loud music would prolly help disguise it, at least.
I too, aa, would like to know where that saw is... prolly at the bottom of a dumpster or a body of water somewhere between here and Texas.
I do NOT like her. Yes, she is the one that determined Grant had "illogical, disturbed thinking" and other psychological problems and at the same time recommended JOINT custody....which would have continued to put Laura in harms' way each and every time she had to exchange kids with him not to mention interact and deal with him. WHY would a professional recommend that? terrible and what we need to change with the system. Thank god my divorce was in Canada and the professional there that identified my ex-husband/kids' Dad with the same traits gave me SOLE custody so I wouldn't have to deal with him jointly on a continual basis.