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I am so shocked people are bashing and blaming innocent people when the only 2 we know of that committed a crime are in jail right now.
It's a respect issue IMO.
I have not personally seen anyone attacking anyone.
Disagreeing about whether the custodial parent has some responsibility for the outcome of this situation is not an automatic sign of disrespect. As long as people express their opinions without personally attacking that parent I find it rude and condescending to be told that we are cold, sadistic and disrespectful.
I personally have said I feel great empathy for the father in this case. I cannot imagine the guilt he is feeling.
That does not mean that I cannot question his judgement. This was not a mother that had been a stellar member of society until this totally unforeseen event. She has a drug history, her boyfriend is a felon, the aunt who lives in her home is dating a drug dealer. Family members knew he was a dealer, the other one a felon, and she a recent drug user. The home she was living in leaks raw sewage. These were not signs that couldn't be seen by the average viewer.
Could he have ever imagined she would sell her to some pervert? Of course not. Could he have noticed it was an unsafe environment and not likely one his daughter should be unsupervised in, yes, anyone could have. What is the acceptable level of foreseen abuse? The fact that he didn't see her being killed by this monster doesn't erase the bad judgement that preceded her being in the place for it to happen.
He stepped up into the role of custodial parent, presumably for a reason, and that role comes with the responsibility of making sure the new environment is a safe one if he as her parent is deeming she should go to it. That was his job. And again this was not some out of the blue, mom always adored this child, mom was clean and sober, mom had a clean safe home that he had seen, mom was not surrounded by people with known questionable backgrounds. All of that was
known. He took a risk that Shaniya paid for and I cannot imagine how much he is paying for, but it does not make me or anyone else who sees it as such disrespectful and out of line for saying so.