ND - Kate Boe, 5 mos, dies in hot car, Grand Forks, 28 June 2006

[GlitchWizard]

It hurt my heart to see the obituary of that baby.

I have ADD and ran a gifted preschool for many years. I do recall that the kids had a rule that if they were sent to stand in the corner and felt they were there for a REALLY long time - they were allowed to leave the corner. That was because I'd forget I put them there.

Obviously I never forgot to feed them, bathe them, take them places and bring them back - I was forever on top of things and can't relate to someone who would forget their kids - but maybe it's because I always double and triple check things now, as a work-around for ADD. But just because I don't understand it, does not mean I think it's impossible.

I just can't fathom how I'd FEEL if it were me.

Worse yet - when you already feel like the worst you can POSSIBLY feel, ever - to have someone charge you with the death - that would be too much.

 

[2sisters]

Nobody is being judgemental or saying anything bad about this woman, some were just asking questions to try to make things a little clearer in their minds that's all. We can do that, my heart goes out to her she has to be totally devastated. Just because we are asking questions does not mean we are judging her, if I thought she was at fault I would come right out and say so.

It wasn't directed at posters who were asking questions, such as, the parking situation but at posts questioning if it was an accident or ones basically calling her irresponsible and a bad mother. It never hurts to question a situation.

 

[GlitchWizard]

It is difficult to know how to handle these situations. Obviously if it's an accident, the mother needs some SERIOUS comforting and feeling sorry for. But - if it's easy to leave your kid in the car on purpose to die, and then claim to be devistated - more women/men will just be able to say "oops" and get away with murder.

If it happened to me, I'd totally not want to survive, much less be accused and questioned first - but if some guy/girl did that to my kid - I'd want him to be accused and questioned to be sure it was an accident.

I don't have any answers to what procedure should be to handle this. ARE there any right answers?

 

[Masissy]

It makes me wonder if someone should invent some kind of a warning device -- rigged through the car seat to the ignition key or something -- alerting parents that they haven't removed the child from the car seat. OMG this is awful, and happens repeatedly! I did once drive off leaving my daughter in her car seat on the front porch -- only for about 30 seconds though! I was horrified! So busy trying to get my 2-year old buckled in, I forgot about her, she was patiently waiting in her car seat on the porch! EEK!

Eve

Eve,

Seems your idea has been in the working......

http://tennessean.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20060714/FEATURES01/607140377/1076/FEATURES

 

[GlitchWizard]

A sponge under a baby? I should think this should be waterproof. I'd spill my coffee and the kid would pee - and we'd never get that alarm to shut up.